ill admit.....its a little scary that you picked out things that happened that i never said here lol. my mother was physically abusive. my stepfather less so, although he did sometimes with him it was more of an emotional abuse. and the initial trigger was the month before my 11th bday when they kicked my grandfather out of my life. although it was like the depression was dormant for 3 years because when i started high school i had suicidal idealization, cutting, smoking, doing drugs, cheating, skipping classes until i got kicked out in gr11. it was almost like i skipped being depressed and went straight to "nope cant do it"
i have a therapist appointment today (its a new one) maybe after a few sessions if im liking her i can talk to her about it to help me approach the situation better. maybe even see about having a video call with my dad so he can be there too (in a way) and have a better understanding. lets get the therapist to understand first though lol