Venting I tried a hotline

[sugarsugar]

listen i get that hotlines don't do shit, i've tried them before. but i got so bad, and i don't have my SN yet, so i tried it anyways. tell me why miss mackenzie thought that this would be helpful. smh thanks bestie

 

[akana]

i've never really found them helpful either.
they're trained to be extremely strict/neutral in their responses and not necessarily hold an opinion or judgement (which makes it kind of pointless - same kind of situation with therapists really)

i've found r/suicidewatch to be a bit more helpful in terms of finding people to relate to but don't know if you'd find it helpful, might be worth going on there. You might find Replika helpful too, I've used before which is like an AI bot and its kind of soothing. Hope this helps x

 

[Hirokami]

Big "everyone gets sad sometimes" energy.

 

[raybd]

I tried a hot line too. But, it was fun. It was in the 90s. It was on Cinemax. And hosted by Tanya Roberts. And lots of skin and lots of fun. This one.

 

[GreenTree]

I never found them helpful but it's not the volunteers fault. There trying there best. They can only imagine our turmoil and do try there best too help. I guess somethings are unsolvable. Our minds.

 

[souljah222]

View attachment 92987listen i get that hotlines don't do shit, i've tried them before. but i got so bad, and i don't have my SN yet, so i tried it anyways. tell me why miss mackenzie thought that this would be helpful. smh thanks bestie

idk how it is in your country but where i live they dont even get paid for that job. what did you expect her to do or say to you so you wouldnt be mad and disrespectful towards the work shes doing? did you expect a text from her that will miraculously solve all your problems or what? smh

 

[ihopethisispainless]

View attachment 92987listen i get that hotlines don't do shit, i've tried them before. but i got so bad, and i don't have my SN yet, so i tried it anyways. tell me why miss mackenzie thought that this would be helpful. smh thanks bestie

I don't really get suicide hotlines. Like why would I ask for advice if I know that my answer is always gonna be no don't kill yourself. And I get support is nice but if I feel like I have to call up a volunteer for support, I'm gonnna feel like a real loser. Suicide is my choice and I know that everyone in my life would disagree but I'm still choosing to override that

 

[WorthlessTrash]

i've never really found them helpful either.
they're trained to be extremely strict/neutral in their responses and not necessarily hold an opinion or judgement (which makes it kind of pointless - same kind of situation with therapists really)

i've found r/suicidewatch to be a bit more helpful in terms of finding people to relate to but don't know if you'd find it helpful, might be worth going on there. You might find Replika helpful too, I've used before which is like an AI bot and its kind of soothing. Hope this helps x

Heh no. That place is not helpful whatsoever. One time someone used my thread as a crutch to dm me snd advertise their blog. Other times it's full of lame generic advice.

 

[akana]

Heh no. That place is not helpful whatsoever. One time someone used my thread as a crutch to dm me snd advertise their blog. Other times it's full of lame generic advice.

Oh sorry about that. Maybe not that subreddit then, my bad

 

[raybd]

Reiterating: The only nice hotline is this one: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0115208/
'Nuff said.

 

[sugarsugar]

I never found them helpful but it's not the volunteers fault. There trying there best. They can only imagine our turmoil and do try there best too help. I guess somethings are unsolvable. Our minds.

Yeah, I guess I was just frustrated by how robotic the replies were. And she never asked my name. But I do get that they're trying their best, ig

 

[Shu]

View attachment 92987listen i get that hotlines don't do shit, i've tried them before. but i got so bad, and i don't have my SN yet, so i tried it anyways. tell me why miss mackenzie thought that this would be helpful. smh thanks bestie

What do you guys expect them to tell you? I mean it never really helped me much but I still appreciate them taking out the time of their day to try to help people in any way that they can. None of have the answers and neither do they.

 

[raybd]

Why hot lines? I am skeptical about the entire therapy industry. Most people are going to be too nutso or too dumb for you to help. The remaining few would be too smart for you to help. So, who exactly can you help as a therapist? And by help, do something for them, they CANNOT do themselves?
I am of the view that, if sufficiently calm and clear-headed, most people find in themselves the "help" or "counsel" given by therapists. Therapists aren't going to conjure something out of thin air for you. It's only cold-reading with a scientific lemon twist added.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Yeah, hotline workers aren't miracle workers. They are only able to descalate your feelings for the moment. It is a temp band-aid that is useless the next day, but there is not much else they can do.

 

[raybd]

I'm pretty sure if I ever got on a hotline, I'd end up talking the hotline worker to CTB with me. Come on, there's really no point to human life.... as a race we all just pretend we matter.

 

[sugarsugar]

Y'all I'm not saying I expected this girl to be able to fix me or make the suicidal feelings go away. I'm just frustrated that I got copy paste answers and she didn't ask my name. I'm sad that I didn't get treated like a person. I get that these hotlines are band aid fixes but this band aid wasn't even sticky yall.

 

[souljah222]

Y'all I'm not saying I expected this girl to be able to fix me or make the suicidal feelings go away. I'm just frustrated that I got copy paste answers and she didn't ask my name. I'm sad that I didn't get treated like a person. I get that these hotlines are band aid fixes but this band aid wasn't even sticky yall.

isnt it better that way tho? i wouldnt even want to tell them my name to be anonymous

 

[FuneralCry]

I feel like to me, a hotline would be pointless as it would not take away what is causing me to be suicidal in the first place and words cannot change the way that I feel. I understand why you would be frustrated, but to me a hotline could never possibly help anything anyway.

 

[Pain In The Ass]

View attachment 92987listen i get that hotlines don't do shit, i've tried them before. but i got so bad, and i don't have my SN yet, so i tried it anyways. tell me why miss mackenzie thought that this would be helpful. smh thanks bestie

hehehehehe, the platitudes are amusing

 

[Al Cappella]

That almost sounds like a bot, too. I don't think they help much, either—"tell me what's going on" might have been more useful. But even then, they're so limited—it would be interesting to see stats on how many they have helped…

 

[Ninaea]

That almost sounds like a bot, too. I don't think they help much, either—"tell me what's going on" might have been more useful. But even then, they're so limited—it would be interesting to see stats on how many they have helped…

I feel like the stats would be heavily skewed. A lot of people just get emotional, and *think* they want to ctb without actually wanting to go through with it. I mean you see how many of us, (many of which are 100% set on ctb), struggle to get the job done. Lots of us spend months researching, buying the components necessary, talking to others about our method, and still struggle to actually do the deed. Some layman who has a breakup and calls into the hotline might just be looking for someone to tell them not to do it; they most likely wouldn't have done it, even if they didn't call the hotline.

Not to discount anyones views or opinions, but I know myself personally, I've been stuck these past few weeks and can't seem to make the leap, even though I'm 100% certain that this is what I want.

 

[Al Cappella]

I feel like the stats would be heavily skewed. A lot of people just get emotional, and *think* they want to ctb without actually wanting to go through with it. I mean you see how many of us, (many of which are 100% set on ctb), struggle to get the job done. Lots of us spend months researching, buying the components necessary, talking to others about our method, and still struggle to actually do the deed. Some layman who has a breakup and calls into the hotline might just be looking for someone to tell them not to do it; they most likely wouldn't have done it, even if they didn't call the hotline.

Not to discount anyones views or opinions, but I know myself personally, I've been stuck these past few weeks and can't seem to make the leap, even though I'm 100% certain that this is what I want.

What you say makes a lot of sense. It strikes me as incredibly sad that there's so little meaningful for people that really struggle with this. Who knows. The world makes no sense.