Discussion I think that you all should be careful when showing your faces here

[amerie]

I mean, technically we're all adults and you can do whatever you'd like, but this site is under heavy scrutiny and was just ddosed very recently. There are people watching and waiting to do even worse things so it's not the best idea to show your entire face on this site.

You are all very beautiful on the inside though.

 

[Pluto]

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

 

[Dejected 55]

I kind of don't care. I mean, I'm sure I should... but I don't care. Also, I know literally nobody cares enough about me to even want to harm me on purpose... so I feel like I really have nothing to worry about.

 

[amerie]

I kind of don't care. I mean, I'm sure I should... but I don't care. Also, I know literally nobody cares enough about me to even want to harm me on purpose... so I feel like I really have nothing to worry about.

Well I mean you're 55 and already lived your life but I've been seeing a concerning amount of 18-25 year old users doing it and I don't want them to decide that they want to recover and abandon this site and then when they try to get jobs and actual careers their face is attached to a "death cult"

 

[dissociation]

 

[Dejected 55]

Well I mean you're 55 and already lived your life but I've been seeing a concerning amount of 18-25 year old users doing it and I don't want them to decide that they want to recover and abandon this site and then when they try to get jobs and actual careers their face is attached to a "death cult"

That's fair... and yeah, just because I don't give a fuck about my reputation at this point doesn't mean others shouldn't care about theirs.

The Pollyanna version of my brain, though, says that I wish we lived in a world where people who were depressed (for whatever the reason) and go ranting and venting about it, but at some point are somehow able to turn their lives and depression around... I wish that as long as they never harmed anyone else by their actions, they wouldn't have their honesty about their suffering used against them. That is just another unnecessary thing a depressed person should have piled on them that not only does everything suck right now, but even if they find a way through all their current issues, someone will be waiting on the other side to push them down for having those vulnerabilities and being honest.

 

[hippiedeath]

Anonymity is important. I've been tracked for things I've said online. It's no joke. Police can get involved, and will. I've seen it happen. Be very careful.

 

[INYGTRMTFMO]

Yeah, I don't look anything like the Picrew I made. :3

Though I'm less worried about a stranger doxxing me and more worried about someone that knows and loves me stumbling on this site, somehow connecting a post to me (even though I make a diligent effort to not disclose anything truly identifying), and realizing that I am significantly less okay than I pretend to be.

 

[Dejected 55]

I'm not trying to be comical, because this is a serious discussion... but I've seen a few times people mention they were afraid someone they know would sign up here and find them. I guess I was wondering, how would someone sign up here and then hold it against you for being here? I mean, they were here.

Like... if you showed up to the Epstein cruise and tried to out someone as being on the Epstein cruise... I'd say, "Hey you BOTH were on the Epstein cruise, right?"

Randomly... many years ago I was partaking of some free therapy available through my employer. The psychologist was one of the rare guys who seemed to care. I don't know how good he was at his job because the free sessions were limited to a specific amount and after that the contract with that office was such that you couldn't continue on your own dime even if you wanted. It was a weird setup.

Anyway... I was in the waiting room for one of my sessions and a woman was leaving her session and I recognized her from work. It was obvious she recognized me too and she paused for half a step but walked by without saying anything. She was not someone I knew but we were in a weekly meeting that we each had some partial responsibility to the project. I never saw her again at the doctor's office but I did see her still in that work meeting. Sometimes we exchanged a friendly glance, but it's like we both knew to be respectful and not bring anything up.

 

[R. A.]

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seriously though yeah this is an issue. in the last two months alone i've seen three <21 y/o women share very very ID'able photos so i'm sure there were others i didn't. i another time i saw someone specifically state "well i'm gonna die soon so it doesnt matter!!" - that might have been from an older member but yeah someone who's already disproportionately at-risk of being the target of shitty internet behaviour would do well to not post shit like this.

i'm honestly less concerned about feds than i am about the subhumans in our midst. there have been enough horror stories of member-member interactions. the point of this site is dying on one's terms, nor being abducted by some creep

 

[Dejected 55]

Semi-tangent story... and I know women usually have more to fear in these regards than men typically do...

Many years ago... many years... I had a job where I was all over my service territory of a two-state region. I lived out of hotels most of the week. On one particular day I had checked into the hotel, saw I had a blinking red light with a message on it, but clearly it was not for me as I'd just checked in so I ignored it after listening to whoever it was asking for whomever was not there.

I went out and got pizza to bring back to the room. While I was in the room I saw I had another message, and the person seemed angry this time. While I was eating dinner and tired from my day of work, the phone rang and I answered it. The person on the other end was angry and looking for someone and didn't believe I wasn't lying about whomever it was not being there. I was getting frustrated and eventually blurted out, "Look I don't know who you're looking for, I just checked into this room this evening and there is nobody else here!" and I hung up the phone.

A few seconds after doing that... I realized... IF that dude really didn't believe me... he could just show the fuck up and what was I going to do? I imagined it was some kind of drug deal gone bad and dude was going to come looking for drugs or money and would be sure I was the guy who had wronged him. I did NOT sleep that night.

I also in my angst, decided to microwave a bar of soap. It just kept expanding and expanding... I didn't let it explode... but the microwave smelled like soap and I couldn't eat anything cooked in it anymore. Fortunately I checked out the next day without any harm coming to me.