Venting I just went no contact with my sister

[FusRohDracarys]

Hahahaha... Ugh. It was inevitable. 20+ years of a tense relationship only further deteriorating as we get older. It's weird to think we were so close when we were kids and now we can't stand each other.

I should just cut off my family entirely.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Here to offer support if wanted.

Want to talk about your sister or your family?

No contact may have its challenges, but it is so freeing!

Are you aware of techniques like hoovering, and the occasional temptation to return to the slot machine of hope?

Here are some recovery resources if you're interested:

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/resources-for-learning-boundaries.30500/

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/manipulation-tactics.31123/

 

[disabledandhopeless]

Can I congratulate you..? Congratulations! I hope you'll be happier after going no contact with your sister. I feel that no contact is better than a toxic relationship.

 

[FusRohDracarys]

@GoodPersonEffed Much appreciated. Thankfully, it shouldn't be much harder than just blocking her number. We barely talk as is and we live over 10 hours away from each other. She's just... well, we're night and day. Our interests, our careers, our political views, our tastes, our life styles... the only thing we have in common is we're both stubborn. Not a great combo. I'll take a look at those resources, thank you!

@disabledandhopeless Thank you, I agree 100%. It wasn't much of a relationship anyway... the only times we ever spoke were meaningless prattle--anything else erupts into vicious arguments. Not worth the energy.

 

[kinzokukae]

congratulations (: many people think going non-contact is immature but i think it actually makes you the bigger person because you prevent future meaningless arguments

 

[Soulless_Angel]

Just becsuse she is yiur sister doesn't mean you have to like her. I loathe my sister and try and have nothing to do with her. I see nothing wrong in it, we have nothing in common so why should a relationship be forced just because we are blood related

 

[GoBack]

I wish I could do that. My relationship with my sister is beyond repair. She's older, not wiser. She thinks she knows things she doesn't. She's half the reason I'm here, having pushed and pushed me into the psych system. Because of that I lost my job, my home, contact with my friends and had to move in with my mam.

She lives nearby , and everyday I have to deal with her and everyday I get angrier and sicker. I have tried standing up tp her then I get threatened with hospital again. Nowhere to run I can't escape her

 

[Soul]

I cut off contact with my toxic sister for 20+ years. After about 15 I even stopped thinking about her every day. That felt good.

 

[KleinerWolf]

I cut off contact with my toxic sister for 20+ years. After about 15 I even stopped thinking about her every day. That felt good.

It's important to cut toxic people out of our lives.
You have done the right thing for self-respect.
Good on you.

I wish I could do that. My relationship with my sister is beyond repair. She's older, not wiser. She thinks she knows things she doesn't. She's half the reason I'm here, having pushed and pushed me into the psych system. Because of that I lost my job, my home, contact with my friends and had to move in with my mam.

She lives nearby , and everyday I have to deal with her and everyday I get angrier and sicker. I have tried standing up tp her then I get threatened with hospital again. Nowhere to run I can't escape her

Sorry to hear you have a toxic sister,
hope you can kick her out of your life if you think it's something that will benefit your mental health/ overall wellbeing.

 

[Soul]

@StrokeMyEgoBaby, thanks for the encouraging words.

@GoBack, leaving the country was my way out. That's tricky at the moment, of course, but you might want to look into the various routes to places too farflung or farfetched for your sister to follow you. x

 

[GoBack]

Thank you @Soul for the suggestion . I really can't go anywhere, besides my bad health and the pandemic. I spent 20 years of my life moving around from place to place, homeless sometimes. I haven't got it in me to start again. Even within my own country which is very small I feel like I've been everywhere.

If I could find a way I would. No matter where I go anyway, it has ruined my relationship with all my family and friends. It's my own fault , I let my guard down with her. I forgot how batshit she really is.