I have gone through so much rejection I can never be normal

[FireFox]

All I have ever known is being rejected and humiliated by men. My own father didn't want me, the boys I liked at school ended up cruelly humiliating me in front of their friends and I experienced guys standing there while their friends humiliated me and in adulthood it's just a string of rejections.

Guys always want someone else but never ever me. I finally reached a point where I have now accepted I truly am unlovable and even if I get into a relationship I will never be able to fully love a man because I have gone through so much rejection. The rejection has a destroyed the part of me that was loving and expressive.

I actually hate myself I wish I was someone because being me nobody sees anything special in me.

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

It's so hard and I can't say what to do, because learning from a lot of self aware people who have now passed (bless their hearts), it doesn't matter to change in a world where it's hard to accept change in a world that is inherently evil to grow from for me to give you advice to combat the negativity, because their will always be evil in this world that strips away it that it deeply wont matter if you become stronger, because evil people aren't even strong, they are just more cold and unaffected when they get their way. I will say this, though, whatever you may experience or face now because of those men, realize they never mattered. The moment they learn they will be all alone because they were greedy is the day you win by allowing your soul to be at peace and seek whatever your heart desire, because this world doesn't need to be repopulated into anyways. It's full of sadness and misery every waking day.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

It's so hard and I can't say what to do, because learning from a lot of self aware people who have now passed (bless their hearts), it doesn't matter to change in a world where it's hard to accept change in a world that is inherently evil to grow from for me to give you advice to combat the negativity, because their will always be evil in this world that strips away it that it deeply wont matter if you become stronger, because evil people aren't even strong, they are just more cold and unaffected when they get their way. I will say this, though, whatever you may experience or face now because of those men, realize they never mattered. The moment they learn they will be all alone because they were greedy is the day you win by allowing your soul to be at peace and seek whatever your heart desire, because this world doesn't need to be repopulated into anyways. It's full of sadness and misery every waking day.

The world isn't inherently evil and "evil people" don't exist. There is just the world and the people living in it. Evil is a concept that doesn't exist outside of the human mind and one's definition of "evil" can change drastically depending on culture, time period, and personal experiences. All those "evil people" you are talking about don't think of themselves as evil, just as how you don't think of yourself as evil. Hence what makes this type of mindset completely regressive. It just feeds into our own biases in favour of ourselves, inhibiting self-awareness and leading to us regressing due to us being unable to recognize our own faults. Either that or it leads to those who do end up recognizing their faults not bothering to improve on them, instead believing that they are inherently a bad person and thus don't bother to try and improve on themselves.

Also, being in a relationship doesn't equate to reproducing so I don't understand the "repopulated" point.

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

The world isn't inherently evil and "evil people" don't exist. There is just the world and the people living in it. Evil is a concept that doesn't exist outside of the human mind and one's definition of "evil" can change drastically depending on culture, time period, and personal experiences. All those "evil people" you are talking about don't think of themselves as evil, just as how you don't think of yourself as evil. Hence what makes this type of mindset completely regressive. It just feeds into our own biases in favour of ourselves, inhibiting self-awareness and leading to us regressing due to us being unable to recognize our own faults. Either that or it leads to those who do end up recognizing their faults not bothering to improve on them, instead believing that they are inherently a bad person and thus don't bother to try and improve on themselves.

Also, being in a relationship doesn't equate to reproducing so I don't understand the "repopulated" point.

Yeah, I knew that the moment I went on a awakening journey about "God" and his ascendance of judgement in how he made people believe evil as a concept", and shared people aren't inherently evil. Still, we feel it, and we recognize that it exists when we are faced with something that frightens us or will break a population of people. And I equally read on how people have separate views of what's good and what's evil, so I've been in that scope of existentialism far too long to know the idea of that. It's just I can't elaborate on it, because I'm a failure in this society and was stripped of happiness, so there's that. I just meant that there will always be a vast plain of negativity that it feels evil to us, because we're affected by the cause and affect of it is all I meant. Nothing that needs to be too jaded into being commented on, and plus, I shared it really depends on the young woman who reached out on her own outlook of what she experienced, so I was just referencing that. Should there really be a discussing about this on here? Seriously?

I know that, but people look at it that way, especially men, so this is entirely false, especially with the times right now with people opting out of having children, which means it is very normal in society since the dawn of times.

 

[CogitoMori]

The world isn't inherently evil and "evil people" don't exist. There is just the world and the people living in it. Evil is a concept that doesn't exist outside of the human mind and one's definition of "evil" can change drastically depending on culture, time period, and personal experiences. All those "evil people" you are talking about don't think of themselves as evil, just as how you don't think of yourself as evil. Hence what makes this type of mindset completely regressive. It just feeds into our own biases in favour of ourselves, inhibiting self-awareness and leading to us regressing due to us being unable to recognize our own faults. Either that or it leads to those who do end up recognizing their faults not bothering to improve on them, instead believing that they are inherently a bad person and thus don't bother to try and improve on themselves.

Also, being in a relationship doesn't equate to reproducing so I don't understand the "repopulated" point.

Anyone that hurts others with no regard of the harm they're causing is inherently evil. Evil people DO exist and unfortunately it's fucking most of the people in this world.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Anyone that hurts others with no regard of the harm they're causing is inherently evil. Evil people DO exist and unfortunately it's fucking most of the people in this world.

Here's the thing, most people fucking do that in various capacities. People hurt others all the time and most people don't acknowledge it or will rationalize it while having little to no regard for the other person. It's a very common thing. That's not even getting into how people will usually praise those who harm others with no regard so long as the person they harmed is someone they aren't fond of. Take the whole Luigi CEO assassination debacle, for example.

 

[CogitoMori]

Here's the thing, most people fucking do that in various capacities. People hurt others all the time and most people don't acknowledge it or will rationalize it while having little to no regard for the other person. It's a very common thing. That's not even getting into how people will usually praise those who harm others with no regard so long as the person they harmed is someone they aren't fond of. Take the whole Luigi CEO assassination debacle, for example.

Yeah, exactly, so most people are inherently fucking evil. Killing mass killers is helpful, not harmful. I support the death penalty for mass murderers such as that CEO.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Yeah, exactly, so most people are inherently fucking evil. Killing mass killers is helpful, not harmful. I support the death penalty for mass murderers such as that CEO.

No, most people aren't evil. The concept of evil is subjective. Also, the death penalty doesn't even do shit to prevent crime and goes against human rights. That's not even getting other issues, such as the risk of innocent people being wrongly put onto to death row to how marginalized groups might be at a higher risk of being put on death row compared to the general population. Somebody could claim that you must be evil because no good morally upstanding person would ever advocate for killing another person under any circumstances. It's almost like evil people don't exist and "evil" is just a label that people like to slap onto anyone they don't like for a variety of reasons, a lot of which may change from person to person.

 

[CogitoMori]

No, most people aren't evil. The concept of evil is subjective. Also, the death penalty doesn't even do shit to prevent crime and goes against human rights. That's not even getting other issues, such as the risk of innocent people being wrongly put onto to death row to how marginalized groups might be at a higher risk of being put on death row compared to the general population. Somebody could claim that you must be evil because no good morally upstanding person would ever advocate for killing another person under any circumstances. It's almost like evil people don't exist and "evil" is just a label that people like to slap onto anyone they don't like for a variety of reasons, a lot of which may change from person to person.

Yes, they are. Harming people without caring about harming them IS evil. If you hurt people and refuse to aknowledge and correct it, you are evil, as are most humans. It prevented that CEO from continuing class genocide, and insurance companies are ACTUALLY looking at changing their evil fucking policies for the first time, so seems pretty effective to me since peaceful protests NEVER do shit. Yeah, if we actually followed "beyond a reasonable doubt" we wouldn't have to worry about innocent people being in jail. It's almost like EVIL people commodified a public service which incentivized them to convict innocent people in order to profit or something. I'm gonna point you to the "tolerance" problem in which the only way society can be tolerant is for them to not tolerate intolerance. If we want a non-violent society, we have to kill the violent elites and remind them that peaceful protest was the compromise we gave them to violent revolution. If someone hits you, you are justified in hitting them back, because a non-evil society inherently CANNOT tolerate evil, which is objectively causing harm to others with no regard for the harm you're doing. It's not subjective.

 

[greebo6]

Rejection hurts very much. Had plenty myself. Its all I have really expected to get for a long time now. It does eventually effect you.

 

[FireFox]

Rejection hurts very much. Had plenty myself. Its all I have really expected to get for a long time now. It does eventually effect you.

@greebo6 Majority of society don't understand I rescently googled on how to cope with being single and the advice is ALL USELESS. It's the same

" being single is not bad"
"Love yourself"

Every advice is just invalidating.

if man or woman gets dumped by their partner they have all the detailed advice and care in the world to cope. Everything is made for people in relationships nothing is made for single people.

I no longer see life as worth living being single. More and more I feel alone I can't cope anymore.

This world is made for couples. Single people like us it was never made for us. No one cares about people about us single everyone cares about the woman or man who gets dumped because everyone can relete to having a break up but majority can not relete to always being rejected and never being picked.

It's destroyed me in so many ways.

 

[EternalShore]

" being single is not bad"
"Love yourself"

Every advice is just invalidating.

if man or woman gets dumped by their partner they have all the detailed advice and care in the world to cope. Everything is made for people in relationships nothing is made for single people.

I no longer see life as worth living being single. More and more I feel alone I can't cope anymore.

This world is made for couples. Single people like us it was never made for us. No one cares about people about us single everyone cares about the woman or man who gets dumped because everyone can relete to having a break up but majority can not relete to always being rejected and never being picked.

It's destroyed me in so many ways.

All people think about is how bad their relationship can make them feel sometimes! :/ They don't realize how awful not being in one at all is! D: having no one to talk to or possibly care even a little about you~ :( even in abusive relationships, they usually care some~ :( People on this earth are so selfish and evil~ :( They take something as wonderful as a relationship for granted and when people don't have those things, they just make fun of them or try and gaslight them! :/ It's just wrong and terrible! :/
I really wish you could find a man who you can date, and I bet you'd want to marry him too~ :( The world isn't worth it without one~ >_<

 

[FireFox]

All people think about is how bad their relationship can make them feel sometimes! :/ They don't realize how awful not being in one at all is! D: having no one to talk to or possibly care even a little about you~ :( even in abusive relationships, they usually care some~ :( People on this earth are so selfish and evil~ :( They take something as wonderful as a relationship for granted and when people don't have those things, they just make fun of them or try and gaslight them! :/ It's just wrong and terrible! :/
I really wish you could find a man who you can date, and I bet you'd want to marry him too~ :( The world isn't worth it without one~ >_<

@EternalShore I have even experienced judgemental behaviour from other women who used to be single and now have boyfriends and husbands. If you are single and upset no one cares.

I got builled out of a digtal detox community on discord by these formerly single women.

● One woman let's call her A - She said I need to "put myself out there". I already explained I have the natural confidence to talk to people but all my life guys ignored me and dont want to know me. She responded saying "use dating apps". I explained I don't feel comfortable using dating apps because me being a black woman growing up my whole life I have experienced never being seen as pretty while racial groups got desired even men of my own race harassed me and abused me while they were always nicer to the white women and girls. I read dating apps have a very low succes rate for black women I don't want to go through a competition I won't win. She is a white woman, she doesn't get how hard it is for black women to find love due to society and men attracted to eurocentric standards of beauty.

She proceeds to criticise me for my poor "attitude" and how its my fault I am single. She went on about her experiences of not being attractive and having a facial swelling deformity and how she met her husband on a dating app. Not everyone is lucky as she is

● Another woman let's call her B- she talked about her experiences of male rejection and how she "never let it get to her". She says she has husband now and how" I need to put myself out there". This same woman went on about London having free therapy and how I am not trying. I live in London and these free therapies and low cost options have restrictions. NOT ALL of London is the same every area is different. Some areas have more mental health care options than others.

Woman A said "there is a reason why you struggle to make friends". Just because they were lucky to find partners and achieve recovery doesn't mean it will happen for everyone else. Life doesn't give us what we want.