I have 0 friends and no gf because of my social anxiety.

[Daystavro]

I am male 26 and I have no friends.
I also never had a gf.
I only dated with women I've met online a few times but it didn't develop into a relationship.
This is one of the reasons I want to ctb.
Is that because of my debilitating social anxiety I will never have a gf.
And I don't want to be single my whole life.

 

[Circles]

I am male 26 and I have no friends.
I also never had a gf.
I only dated with women I've met online a few times but it didn't develop into a relationship.
This is one of the reasons I want to ctb.
Is that because of my debilitating social anxiety I will never have a gf.
And I don't want to be single my whole life.

Same as me mostly. Hell I don't even want any of that anymore but the loneliness festers into rage and bitterness when I think about how pathetic it is. I want to mean something to someone and that I am recognized for my existence instead of feeling like a hollow shell ghosting his way through life.

 

[hikikomori]

sigh being alone sucks it's my reason 2 (never kissed anyone ever) you can try talking to people you can talk too, parents? or people you have to talk to? like bank or store get practice (said very hipcriticly I'm a recluse ) talking in the box kinda helps. 4 me I couldn't do chat other than like quick requests like sandwich or something but I can talk In the shout box fine

just don't hit on anyone in box :p not that kinda site

 

[worldexploder]

I have social anxiety because and got negative feedback my entire life.

 

[okyeah]

u could try taking prescription drugs...It can help with anxiety

 

[Daystavro]

u could try taking prescription drugs...It can help with anxiety

Thanks for the advice man,but I don't think that it will fix my life and make me happy.

 

[okyeah]

Thanks for the advice man,but I don't think that it will fix my life and make me happy.

u never know until you try!

 

[VincentValentine]

And don't forget that, the women themselves will judge and laugh at you and not want to be with you for not having a gf or experience before.

There's another danger also. A lot of women (and men) are just looking for partners that they can dominate/control/manipulate/abuse. So this is a unique situation because the lady is in a romantic relationship with you, but she's the one who's being mean to you. In this case it's a good thing that I don't have a relationship. I don't want that type of relationship.

Now to have a healthy romantic relationship with a quality woman who's nice to you, and the relationship is based on trust, respect, fun, and communication, that's extremely hard or you have to be really lucky like the normies to have that.

 

[TiredHorse]

Now to have a healthy romantic relationship with a quality woman who's nice to you, and the relationship is based on trust, respect, and communication, that's extremely hard or you have to be really lucky like the normies to have that.

I had one of those for 24 years. Then it fell apart spectacularly. That's why I'm aiming to ctb soon.

"It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all..." Bullshit! I had just gotten used to the idea of spending my life alone, reconciled myself to it, made peace with it, when along came this amazing woman. A quarter century later, she is gone. She was the keystone of a magnificent arch of unity and strength that we built together, and that arch has now collapsed into jagged rubble.

I might have been a pillar, but I invested myself in being one half of an arch. Now I am nothing but sobbing, aching debris.

 

[LostInLife]

Here's my 2 cents:
Friends. Yeah, well, let's see. I've had numerous..."friends," so please allow me to tell you of my experiences: nearly all of the people who hurt me the worst, screwed me over, manipulated me, took advantage of me, stole from me, laughed at me, used me, trash talked about me behind my back, they were these same so-called "friends." It's easy to see this in hindsight. I've had 1 good friend and his family my whole life. And now I'm even unsure about them. Maybe the problem is me. Fine. I accept it.

Girlfriends. Yeah. Um... when I was younger, (20s-30s) every guy I knew who had gotten married all had the same sob story to tell: "Don't do it!" "Biggest mistake I ever made, man, just stay single." "I love my kids but, if I had to do it all over again, I'd just stay single." "You're not married? Your smart..." "There's worse things in life than loneliness, and living with this wife of mine is one of them." etc. etc. so keep that in mind... of course, most married men have nothing nice to say about their wives, so maybe that's why the divorce rate is like flipping a coin.

There was this old saying: if it floats, flies, or f*cks, just rent it. So tinker around with those truthy tid-bits before you get too depressed...

I've had a few gfs in my life... never a wife... and it's great while it lasts for sure... but that's like rolling dice.
If I can give you one piece of advice: don't put too much pressure on yourself to have a gf. Don't really worry about it.
Just act as if you don't care... and don't be nice. That's the worst thing you can do. Nice guys always finish last.
(Take it from someone who tried that route for far too long...)

Anyway, I've been alone 90% of my life, and I'm double your age, and sometimes it sucks, but sometimes I'm glad. It just depends on how I look at it.
Oh, and I'd be remiss if I didn't give you the horror story:
Meet girl, hit it off, seems great... sex.jpg ... fast-forward... she has an STD.
That will change your whole perspective really quick.

 

[Deutschv2]

I really suggest mediciation like SSRIs. They can treat depression and anxiety. Prior to Prozac I had problems communicating with people. Very shut in. Obviously I'm still on this site but atleast I don't have anxiety or much depression resulting from the anxiety. You never know until you try.

 

[Final Escape]

I am male 26 and I have no friends.
I also never had a gf.
I only dated with women I've met online a few times but it didn't develop into a relationship.
This is one of the reasons I want to ctb.
Is that because of my debilitating social anxiety I will never have a gf.
And I don't want to be single my whole life.

Awww that sucks, have u tried alcohol lol! Jus kidding that really isn't good for u but I've always been a very anxious person and this used to help. The only things I could think of that do work is meditation, basically put meditation music in your ears and sit breathing in through nose hold it a few seconds and let out slowly through mouth try to sit for like 15 mins to half hour and continue to do this daily. Sounds daunting but it does work. You can close eyes and let thoughts just wander. U don't have to try to concentrate on something. I found good meditation music on YouTube or one of those internet radios like pandora maybe Spotify? After awhile this reduces anxiety for some reason. I've only been able to do it for like an hour at most. Then the other thing is exercise. That really helps nervous energy. The other painful way I have dealt with anxiety is to force myself into social situations regularly. After awhile u get used to socializing. This doesn't come easy for everybody, it takes practice. I've had paralyzing anxiety but regularly going to bars or where people hang out helps force u out of shell. And a couple drinks if u can stop at just a couple or few. Go to strip clubs if u can lol! You can get practice :) like a not super expensive one if u can find more of a dive strip club.

 

[project77]

Well Im going to repeat myself, yea loneliness is really bad for mental health, its also destroying me atm. Still trying to find a solution for it. Maybe atm there is only one....
I understand how you feel, Im 32 now, never had a gf and dont have friends. I know its emotionally hard to grasp but really when you think about it there isnt any intrinsic value in having a gf or friends. Sure this maybe very worthwhile experiences but at least I refuse to give this burden given to us by nature even one bit more power than I have to. Its unnecessary suffering.
Dont kill yourself because of others.
As for antidepressants, from experience I can say theres a pretty good chance they can help you. Took high doses of Venlafaxin and Mirtazapin myself for a while.