Discussion I hate when people say "you'll devastate everyone you know"

[nigelhernandez]

If people you rarely speak to/interact throughout your whole life get devastated only after you die then that's just grief being amplified in a funeral, that doesn't mean that they care by any means. I absolutely can't stand people who seem to think everyone has people who care about them.

I wonder if these people would think suicide is selfish for a homeless person on the streets with no one to talk to.

 

[Whited Sepulchre]

I felt dat most when my mother died and I was too little so I forgot and everyone else around me erased her from their thoughts too soon.
Funerals are like a sad movie.
It's meant to jerk tears.
In the end, we all just forget and move on. I know. Dats the only way to survive. But no one should guilt an already dying, flickering soul into dragging on in the hell dat is life for the happiness and peace of mind of ppl who will wipe their crocodile tears the moment the funeral march ends.

 

[Remember to forget]

If people you rarely speak to/interact throughout your whole life get devastated only after you die then that's just grief being amplified in a funeral, that doesn't mean that they care by any means. I absolutely can't stand people who seem to think everyone has people who care about them.

I wonder if these people would think suicide is selfish for a homeless person on the streets with no one to talk to.

Sorry I don't agree. Yes maybe guilt creeps in and attaches itself to the grief but it's still painful. I haven't seen some people for a while but I don't love them any less.
I get what you are trying go say, I hate people that turn up at funerals that hardly know the person, pretending to be sad and trying to interact with the family when they are devistated.

 

[MAIO]

If people you rarely speak to/interact throughout your whole life get devastated only after you die then that's just grief being amplified in a funeral, that doesn't mean that they care by any means. I absolutely can't stand people who seem to think everyone has people who care about them.

I wonder if these people would think suicide is selfish for a homeless person on the streets with no one to talk to.

Its not about you dying, it's that you are choosing to die which goes against strong group think. It's the same response as leaving a hardcore cult-see it through the same lens as a hardcore cult.

 

[Montmorency_1]

I completely agree with this. The attempt at guilt tripping people into living is awful and so transparent. They can't treat you like shit, then try and stop you killing yourself, then make you feel guilty. Time to think about my own peace rather than other people's. Although it would be a shock at first perhaps, I'm sure people would move on. Time doesn't stop.

 

[Slow85]

Doctors and health care professionals said to me when I tried to CTB (my only attempt ) two
Months ago
"Think about your children "

but they really don't understand that I AM thinking of my children . I am thinking of a better life for them without a parent that is in bed all day , doesn't interact or show them the attention they need. What kind of memories are they for children when they are older ?
They can't see how I am thinking of the ones I love

 

[Soulless_Angel]

Doctors and health care professionals said to me when I tried to CTB (my only attempt ) two
Months ago
"Think about your children "

but they really don't understand that I AM thinking of my children . I am thinking of a better life for them without a parent that is in bed all day , doesn't interact or show them the attention they need. What kind of memories are they for children when they are older ?
They can't see how I am thinking of the ones I love

When I was on a bridge, ready to go the negotiator screamed at me with true fear in her voice, *think of your children* I don't think she understood that I was, My children need a stable life, a stable secure upbringing, and I am not afraid to say I simply cannot give them that!


Those who paid you no attention in life yet are there to grieve your death, are only grieving their own guilt at not being their when you are alive, their grief is nothing short of selfisness
For those there when you are alive, their grief confuses me, is it real or is it also one of pain and regret?