SoulCage
Student
- Dec 28, 2023
- 126
Today, I had a conversation with a therapist who seemingly does not understand what I am going through. So I felt the urge to share my thoughts here and also ask what people think about this bullshit advice:
"You are currently suffering, because you are fearing a future that may never be reality - why are you doing this to yourself, you could live in the moment instead."
I get that. But you know what? I prefer thinking about the possibilities than not thinking about them at all. Without them, I feel like I am not protected or prepared. This feeling is in my experience way worse than my current situation which is: the fear of making bad decisions prevents me from doing anything that changes my situation, including desires. I no longer have any desires or goals, because trying to achieve them just leads to more pain (as it has been in the past). This situation sucks, I can't deny that. But for me it's more bearable than the conditions of my past and possibly my future.
There are different levels of pain and the therapist's "advice" was simply ignoring that. I think she was just trying to help me realize that, but i hate it that she didn't ask me why I feel like this and instead just told me "there is no point in suffering right now". There is a reason and I wish she would try to understand me instead.
Anyone else who can relate?
"You are currently suffering, because you are fearing a future that may never be reality - why are you doing this to yourself, you could live in the moment instead."
I get that. But you know what? I prefer thinking about the possibilities than not thinking about them at all. Without them, I feel like I am not protected or prepared. This feeling is in my experience way worse than my current situation which is: the fear of making bad decisions prevents me from doing anything that changes my situation, including desires. I no longer have any desires or goals, because trying to achieve them just leads to more pain (as it has been in the past). This situation sucks, I can't deny that. But for me it's more bearable than the conditions of my past and possibly my future.
There are different levels of pain and the therapist's "advice" was simply ignoring that. I think she was just trying to help me realize that, but i hate it that she didn't ask me why I feel like this and instead just told me "there is no point in suffering right now". There is a reason and I wish she would try to understand me instead.
Anyone else who can relate?
