Venting I hate it when people ignore my dms

[OverTheRainbow]

I feel embarrassed enough striking a conversation. I'm aware people think I'm offputting or irritating... it just confirms that even more so when people ignore my messages. I really on't add anything to any people's lives...

God I need to die asap... but I just don't know how. Am I just stuck to be miserable but living forever... I just want an answer.

 

[Kirkscoobz]

Listen my friend,
Don't give it a thought about what others may think, its what you think and believe that counts,
There's a lot of like minded of us here OK,

Just ask and some one will have an answer.

 

[noonetoo]

I feel embarrassed enough striking a conversation. I'm aware people think I'm offputting or irritating... it just confirms that even more so when people ignore my messages. I really on't add anything to any people's lives...

God I need to die asap... but I just don't know how. Am I just stuck to be miserable but living forever... I just want an answer.

Now I feel bad. I usually don't reply to people when the message is short or I haven't been on in awhile so when I respond late like days or months later, I get embarrassed too.
I think I need to do a re-run through my messages in another place.

Not here though, No one's bothered with me : (
& I never dare message first, I've experienced too much rejection to try.

I'm sorry you feel that way and people treat you like that. Maybe you're just messaging the wrong people. ; ) Hope you find someone that'll fairly give you their time of day.
: )

 

[Minudah]

I know the feeling. They could have other reasons though. Personally I have a terrible time responding to more than a few lines of conversation because my brain just checks out of that conversation. It doesn't matter who it's with or what it's about, you're lucky if you can get more than ten responses out of me. I don't mean to ignore people, I can't focus.
I have a bunch of private messages in my inbox I still haven't even responded to. That must feel bad them seeing me posting all over the forum... I feel terrible about it. At this point I don't even see how I'm going to be able to respond to them all before Monday when I try to ctb, which is frustrating to think about.

 

[OverTheRainbow]

I didn't mean to make you all feel guilty. I know people are busy... I was just really sad.. there's this person who I really like the company of that suddenly seems really off with me. After a few days of not talking I decided to shoot them a friendly DM. It was so stupid of me... It was just ignored immediately and now I just feel like a creep... I want to ask if I've done something wrong but I just feel that'll make me seem even creepier and weirder...

I just know I can't provide anything good for anyone. If I die, people can go on with their lives and all will be well. I won't be irritating people anymore just by existing. Things would be better for everyone..

 

[Philip]

I feel embarrassed enough striking a conversation. I'm aware people think I'm offputting or irritating... it just confirms that even more so when people ignore my messages. I really on't add anything to any people's lives...

God I need to die asap... but I just don't know how. Am I just stuck to be miserable but living forever... I just want an answer.

You can DM me whenever you want and I will answer asap

 

[OverTheRainbow]

I don't think it's a good idea if people get to know me. I've just brought annoyance or misery to everyone I've gotten close to...

 

[silentsinger]

I can sympathise. Sometimes i get very lonely. I miss people and i sometimes feel desperate for company and communication and i don't hear from people very much in everyday life.
I am sure there are people who would like to know you, especially on here. I hope that you don't continue to be embarrassed to strike up a conversation. Best wishes.

 

[21Neberg]

I didn't mean to make you all feel guilty. I know people are busy... I was just really sad.. there's this person who I really like the company of that suddenly seems really off with me. After a few days of not talking I decided to shoot them a friendly DM. It was so stupid of me... It was just ignored immediately and now I just feel like a creep... I want to ask if I've done something wrong but I just feel that'll make me seem even creepier and weirder...

I just know I can't provide anything good for anyone. If I die, people can go on with their lives and all will be well. I won't be irritating people anymore just by existing. Things would be better for everyone..

That's not true! Just because your friend didn't reply doesn't mean the world will be better off without you. Though it may seem that way to you - sometimes people really are busy or simply forget. Besides, you dont have one friend - you've got thousands on this forum to vent/talk to!

 

[OverTheRainbow]

It just seems whenever people start to like me they immediately go off me.

Sorry I'm saying this stuff so much...

 

[lllll]

It just seems whenever people start to like me they immediately go off me.

Sorry I'm saying this stuff so much...

I understand you. Hugs

 

[Black_Knight]

This is why you immediately shoot them down with gratuitous insults. Can't worry about a relationship that doesn't start.

 

[SelfHatingAspie]

I feel embarrassed enough striking a conversation. I'm aware people think I'm offputting or irritating... it just confirms that even more so when people ignore my messages. I really on't add anything to any people's lives...

I know it's easy for me to say, but don't take it personally.

There are some folks for whom replying to DMs is all but impossible due to factors such as anxiety or trust issues. It wouldn't matter who DMs them, the silence in return would be exactly the same.

For what it's worth, I have at least one unanswered DM. I want to respond to it, as it's highly relevant to my experiences and the person that sent it appears to be at almost the exact same place as I am. However, because there's a lot to unpack, I need to be in the right headspace to compose a reply that's worthy of sending.

Keep sending the DMs. There's a good chance you'll encounter someone that's willing and able to respond. Best.

 

[hilzy]

No message is a message as far as I'm concerned. If I message someone and they dont reply.... I will never message them again for as long as I live. Rejection is shit.

 

[TAW122]

Yeah, I've encountered this a lot in the last decade or so, whenever social media took root and what not. It is depressing as hell and pretty much part of my reason for giving up on social interactions and not expecting much. I guess if anything, it just makes it easier for me to die as I would have less people to write to in my suicide note (if and when the time comes).

 

[RM5998]

I'm pretty bad at responding to messages myself, because I find it hard to find the words to convey what I feel without sounding hollow. It's really hard to use words effectively when they lose their weight. How are you supposed to convey empathy without sounding like all the self-aggrandizing assholes who use the same vocabulary?

 

[Oblivion Lover]

As someone who didn't respond a lot of PMs in the past in another forum, I must say that most of time people don't respond to PMs the reasons are totally different from what you think. I literally deleted my account in a forum because I was overwhelmed by people PMing me and I didn't know how to reply to them or I completely forgot about it. I didn't want to ignore them but it was just too hard for me to chat like a normal person. If someone you chatted with online is not answering you, don't assume that it is because they're annoyed. There are a lot of other possibilities.