Venting I feel like I've been betrayed and I'm so pissed.

[saunabliss]

I just broke up with my now ex. I shared in confidence that I have suicidal thoughts but I was getting better recently (going to the gym, feel more hopeful of the future). He was very supportive but a few days ago, he screamed and called me fucking bitch many times because he lost a ton of money in stocks and he blamed me for him waking up past market opening time.

I couldn't take it anymore. I rather die than deal with the emotional abuse so I told him to pack up his things and get out (the apartment is under my name). He could have just walked away. Instead, he threatened to call the cops on me and tell them that I was suicidal so they can lock me up. I never been so scared in my own home. I was shaking so much. I'm still shaking as I'm typing this.

He even called my friend and told him lies that I was gonna kill myself now even though I had no plans to. Thank god my friend was able to convince him to leave. Then my ex said he's so glad he didn't have to deal with me anymore and that I was my friend's problem now, not his.

We weren't perfect and had lots of issues and fighting, but we loved each other. But I never thought in a million years he would betray me like this. It's one thing if you want to call emergency to stop your partner from CTB, I get it. But how could he do that just to spite me? To literally try to have one of my worst nightmares come true only then to walk the other way?

Is there anyone I can talk to? I feel so alone.

 

[bland_mammal]

I'm sorry that happened to you.

If the cops get called, it's a crapshoot whether or not someone gets taken away for their protection. Some cops can be reasonable and refer to mental health services, if appropriate, and some will take almost everyone because they don't want the legal or emotional liability of *not* taking someone who then winds up hurting themselves.

You deserve better. I'm glad you're rid of him.

 

[saunabliss]

I'm sorry that happened to you.

If the cops get called, it's a crapshoot whether or not someone gets taken away for their protection. Some cops can be reasonable and refer to mental health services, if appropriate, and some will take almost everyone because they don't want the legal or emotional liability of *not* taking someone who then winds up hurting themselves.

You deserve better. I'm glad you're rid of him.

I had to call 911 once for an ex roommate cause she was having a psychotic breakdown due to her meds. I specifically said not to send any cops, just an ambulance.

They sent 9 freaking cops and they treated her like she was a criminal. For them, mental health is a joke.

Today, I was so scared that the cops would put me in handcuffs and drag me out of my home. I didn't want to take any chances.

Thank you for the kind words.

 

[YandereMikuMistress]

Your welcome to talking here and public chat I just finished reading and it Made me so fucking mad, I can't warp my head around that kinda shit either after everything, you think he loved you more genuinely then this thin layered version of love, that kind of betrayal just urks me because why why I don't understand I thought things were at least "alright" but then somthing like you somehow being the cause of him losing his money in stocks is a pathetic accusation, and unreasonable, at the end of the day no matter how bad it can be my mind tells me I love them and they love me if I do somthing "drastic" for once there bound to at least acknowledge my thoughts, that's how I think that is, not that it ever works out that way but my mind just ya know tells me "'well I love them still and just hope for some kind of acknowledgement before it potentially ends at least" you think you know someone but it's as if the real personality comes out after the initial novelty of "the relationship" where's off and it could be years! You think you know somone but then again everyone's ever changing so how can one ever really know somone, sorry for this by the way I could potentially be coming of pretty rude but that's not my intention I just genuinely get upset with these kinds things that people go through and deal with because I've gone through similar shit, still do, but love love and I suppose the idea that somone that you I'm guessing cared deeply for did you wrong like this.

 

[saunabliss]

Your welcome to talking here and public chat I just finished reading and it Made me so fucking mad, I can't warp my head around that kinda shit either after everything, you think he loved you more genuinely then this thin layered version of love, that kind of betrayal just urks me because why why I don't understand I thought things were at least "alright" but then somthing like you somehow being the cause of him losing his money in stocks is a pathetic accusation, and unreasonable, at the end of the day no matter how bad it can be my mind tells me I love them and they love me if I do somthing "drastic" for once there bound to at least acknowledge my thoughts, that's how I think that is, not that it ever works out that way but my mind just ya know tells me "'well I love them still and just hope for some kind of acknowledgement before it potentially ends at least" you think you know someone but it's as if the real personality comes out after the initial novelty of "the relationship" where's off and it could be years! You think you know somone but then again everyone's ever changing so how can one ever really know somone, sorry for this by the way I could potentially be coming of pretty rude but that's not my intention I just genuinely get upset with these kinds things that people go through and deal with because I've gone through similar shit, still do, but love love and I suppose the idea that somone that you I'm guessing cared deeply for did you wrong like this.

You're not rude at all! Thanks so much for the support.

I think he really did love me but he had so much resentment over our relationship due to my depression. Like I said, I wasn't perfect and I said some cruel things to him too. People can be downright cunts when they're hurt. Now that I calmed down I'm not so sure if he understood the gravity of his actions. Maybe in his mind, he was thinking "I'm helping her cause she's suicidal" but really he also wanted to punish me, to throw the problem at someone else so he doesn't have to think about it.

All he had to do was apologize sincerely and I would have forgiven him. But that would be staying in a toxic relationship.
I'm sorry you had to deal with something similar. Much love.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm so sorry you went through this. Personally, I think it was a very manipulative thing to do and pretty cruel. Plus, massively immature. Sometimes, I can't work out how reasonable or unreasonable someone is being but I tend to try to ask myself- would I do that to someone? So- would you? Someone you cared about- under those circumstances? Even if you were angry with them? I doubt you would somehow.

If the cops do turn up, I guess it depends who you get. I did have a welfare check after the whole IC SN thing. I even told them I had bought it with the intention to end my life one day in the future. The major thing though is that you're not in immediate risk. I feel like- if you can do your best to stay calm and talk reasonably, they shouldn't have any reason to think you are a threat to yourself. What a headache though. Sorry but- that's a horrible thing to put someone through.

I don't think it was done with kind intentions either. I just think it was a petty, vengeful act. Sorry to have a go at him. I expect a part of you still cares for him. Maybe it's good to see the not so pleasant side now though before it got any worse. I hope you can move on from him.

 

[saunabliss]

I'm so sorry you went through this. Personally, I think it was a very manipulative thing to do and pretty cruel. Plus, massively immature. Sometimes, I can't work out how reasonable or unreasonable someone is being but I tend to try to ask myself- would I do that to someone? So- would you? Someone you cared about- under those circumstances? Even if you were angry with them? I doubt you would somehow.

If the cops do turn up, I guess it depends who you get. I did have a welfare check after the whole IC SN thing. I even told them I had bought it with the intention to end my life one day in the future. The major thing though is that you're not in immediate risk. I feel like- if you can do your best to stay calm and talk reasonably, they shouldn't have any reason to think you are a threat to yourself. What a headache though. Sorry but- that's a horrible thing to put someone through.

I don't think it was done with kind intentions either. I just think it was a petty, vengeful act. Sorry to have a go at him. I expect a part of you still cares for him. Maybe it's good to see the not so pleasant side now though before it got any worse. I hope you can move on from him.

You're right. I would never threaten to call the cops on someone I care about when they're going through a hard time. I couldn't even leave cause he said he would call if I did. I felt so scared and trapped.

And if the cops did came, I know he would exaggerate and and tell half truths. Most likely it wouldn't have ended well.

If he really cared, he would have sat down with me and calmly said I should seek inpatient care and ensure that he'll be with me every step of the way. It's what I would do. But he made it very clear that he just wants to dump me off so that he doesn't have to deal with it.

Still, it hurts a lot. I feel like I can never trust anyone again. I'm keeping my thoughts to myself from now on. I'm struggling and my suicidal ideation is at an all time high.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Still, it hurts a lot. I'm struggling and my suicidal ideation is at an all time high.

It's bound to be I would think. This is someone you cared about and trusted and hoped they cared about you. Maybe they do but, this has shown they can also be extremely vindictive and insensitive.

Were they kind of immature? Sometimes, I feel like the real test of a person is to be around them when they are under stress. I have to say, I fail too sometimes. I can get short and irritable with people under stress. I've never gone so far as to swear at them as far as I can remember though and I certainly hope I wouldn't do something as cruel as that.

It's bound to be painful but in truth- I think you're better off without that in your life. I'm glad you had enough self respect to throw him out. It's bound to take time but, I hope you can move on from this. For now though, it's understandable you would be so upset. I'm sorry.

 

[saunabliss]

It's bound to be I would think. This is someone you cared about and trusted and hoped they cared about you. Maybe they do but, this has shown they can also be extremely vindictive and insensitive.

Were they kind of immature? Sometimes, I feel like the real test of a person is to be around them when they are under stress. I have to say, I fail too sometimes. I can get short and irritable with people under stress. I've never gone so far as to swear at them as far as I can remember though and I certainly hope I wouldn't do something as cruel as that.

It's bound to be painful but in truth- I think you're better off without that in your life. I'm glad you had enough self respect to throw him out. It's bound to take time but, I hope you can move on from this. For now though, it's understandable you would be so upset. I'm sorry.

I tend to swear when I get really angry and I also yelled at him in the past. I get easily irritable due to my depression, which is common. But I sincerely apologized and try to do better. I did some things I wasn't proud of but I try to be mindful of it.

When he acted out, he felt absolutely no remorse for it. He admitted that because I yelled at him in the past, he should have the right to treat me however he wants. That's when I knew it was over. I could have worked with him if he was at least aware that what he did was wrong.

Thank you for hearing me out. This thread has been really helpful.