I was in love with my boyfriend and felt close to him for two or three years. We have been together for four years. We live together. His dad moved in with us and was supposed to be gone three years ago. I honestly feel so much resentment towards his dad because he's such a clueless stoner. He should have known he should have left a long time ago. I mostly avoid both of them now. I fell out of love with my boyfriend. I have no idea how to handle pain and grief anymore. I don't want to break up with him and break his heart. He's trying so hard and he's likely at home crying, wondering what happened. I tell myself all the time that I can't leave him and be okay with that but I can't stay either. I am on break at work and went to our faculty massage room. I'm lucky that we have this. I can just avoid people. I did have break buddies but I've been avoiding them lately because I don't want to live anymore and I don't want to keep feeling numb when I try to care about people. It hurts to feel this way. I hate where we live. I hate how depressed I am and how he does everything for me. I resent it and I've asked him to stop but he won't. He will buy things for me and when I don't use it right away he gets offended. He loves me and will do anything for me and I want to break up with him but I can't do it because it's not right. He loves me. Why would I break up with him? Why can't I love him? I just can't love, man. It feels too uncomfortable and painful to even tell him I love him or to be nice to him. It feels painful to be nice to him so I ignore him. What is wrong with me? Help!
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Tackingintothewind
Mage
- Mar 2, 2021
- 530
Nothing people fall in and out of love all the time... it's the reason divorce rates are do high. Just remember you don't owe your boyfriend anything. If you dont love him you dont love him so you are better off breaking up now than letting him cling to false hope. You will both be in this unbearable limbo as long as you maintain this relationship. Healing can only begin once you've broken up
World of a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.
Just be honest in all things and relationships.
Just be honest in all things and relationships.
motel rooms
Survivor of incest. Gay. Please don't PM me.
- Apr 13, 2021
- 7,084
Why would you break up with him? Because of this:
Nothing.
Oblivion Access
I don't know anything
- Jul 5, 2019
- 333
Nobody can help the way they feel about someone, only what they do about it. Since we can't control it's irrational to blame oneself for it. Of course, humans aren't really rational beings so we still do that. But reminding yourself of this fact can sometimes help.
WadeingThru
Experienced
- Feb 25, 2022
- 209
Have you told your boyfriend's Father it's past time for him to go?
You should worry about your heart and mental heath first. Your boyfriend will have to deal with his feels.
Have you told your boyfriend his father should move out because it's the root of y'all's relationship issues?
Maybe you should look for a place to live. Your relationship with your boyfriend might improve. Because it would provide a place for y'all to be together without his father around and when you have good alone time it helps you to focus on yourself and your needs.
Sounds like you need to break it off. You will be relieved to have closure and move on.
Nothing, relationships are complicated. Love is not easy.
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Spiritual survivor
A born again but occasionally suicidal
- Feb 13, 2022
- 509
Nobody can truly love until they understand what happened when man fell from grace and lost the Holy Spirit. Most people prior to getting Holy Spirit live only in the body and soul. This is referred to as the old nature. When we get Holy Spirit we become able to love and we are then in the new nature or a whole man. The whole man is three parts. The body, the soul, and the spirit. U can't really experience love until u have spirit. This is why many relationships don't last without the two people having the spirit activated inside them. People are selfish without the spirit inside to restrain the desires of the body and soul which causes them to not be able to put the feelings of their partner ahead of their own. Not preferring their partner over themselves is why relationships fail. U can only turn on the spirit part of u through speaking in tongues which is a simple thing to learn to do. Sorry I sound like a crack pot lol! This stuff changed my life to learn though. Good luck :)
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Oh please no religion. I am an atheist who also knows Christians and born against who have been divorced 2-3 times. I am not interested in religion in the least. It actually makes me feel worse. Thanks though. I know your heart is in the right place.
whatevs
Mining for copium in the weirdest places.
- Jan 15, 2022
- 2,914
But the Holy Spirit can fill you like no man will ever be able to...
Sherri
Archangel
- Sep 28, 2020
- 13,794
I couldn't love anyone for 5 years after my nasty breakup. I was a nun. Then I decided he wasn't worth me being like this by spying on his profile one day all happy with the women who got me to to this site. Now I have a bf and a love life and he is history and my bf is way cutter than him. His loss. I didn't lose him at the end, he lost me. Think about it. Hope you find your path, and wish you all the best, takes time to heal when u break up with someone.
callme
I'm a loose cannon - I bang all the time.
- Aug 15, 2021
- 1,235
Hey, not to cut your moral assuredness (I'm not cutter like your bf
damn autocorrect), but this conviction sounds a bit like "You can't fire me, because I quit". It is only so if you are convinced of doing right for the sake of being convinced.I mean, are you sure your past relationship was your ex's fault? Or you are not counting sides, just want to continue forward? In which case, hats off to you.
Wow, that's judgemental af...Hey, not to cut your moral assuredness (I'm not cutter like your bf
I mean, are you sure your past relationship was your ex's fault? Or you are not counting sides, just want to continue forward? In which case, hats off to you.
callme
I'm a loose cannon - I bang all the time.
- Aug 15, 2021
- 1,235
callme
I'm a loose cannon - I bang all the time.
- Aug 15, 2021
- 1,235
whatevs
Mining for copium in the weirdest places.
- Jan 15, 2022
- 2,914
It's good etiquette to side with the person in the forum and not the ex which we will never interact with.Hey, not to cut your moral assuredness (I'm not cutter like your bf
I mean, are you sure your past relationship was your ex's fault? Or you are not counting sides, just want to continue forward? In which case, hats off to you.
callme
I'm a loose cannon - I bang all the time.
- Aug 15, 2021
- 1,235
Yes, that was my assumption, I'm on her side, because from afar she seems healthy. Maybe that's why she said, his loss.
Sherri
Archangel
- Sep 28, 2020
- 13,794
Didn't quite get you there. Ans I don't want to. PeaceHey, not to cut your moral assuredness (I'm not cutter like your bf
I mean, are you sure your past relationship was your ex's fault? Or you are not counting sides, just want to continue forward? In which case, hats off to you.
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