Help How to tell my girlfriend I'm going to catch the bus?

[Jacquelyn]

First of all, I'm so glad I found this website. Thank God DuckDuckGo doesn't censor everything like Google.

Now on to my issue.

I have a plan to CTB via OD (won't be specific because site rules) sometime in April. This will be after I receive and then blow all of my settlement money. I'm going to fly to a few states and party with friends.

Here's where my one and only issue comes in: I need to tell my girlfriend.
It's getting harder and harder to talk about visiting her when I know I'm going to be gone in less than two months.

She's known about this plan before we started dating, but she probably thinks I've been improving and my plans have changed.

I don't want to tell her too long in advance. She'll try to stop it.

I don't want to tell her right before I do it. She'll probably CTB out of pure panic. She's made attempts before.

I'm not sure how I want to do this. We've only been dating for a little over a month, but I just don't wanna fuck this up.

Advice? Questions?

 

[Kyrok]

Why tell her anything? You've only been seeing one another for barely a month.
I've been married almost 15yrs and don't plan on telling my wife.

 

[Nitromask]

I don't think telling anyone is a good idea as it puts the whole thing at risk

 

[Jacquelyn]

I don't think telling anyone is a good idea as it puts the whole thing at risk

Why tell her anything? You've only been seeing one another for barely a month.
I've been married almost 15yrs and don't plan on telling my wife.

Probably a good idea to not say anything. I probably won't be able to resist saying a final goodbye in one form or another though. But no one will be able to figure out where I'm at so I don't have to worry too much about anyone intervening. I'll take precaution and maybe barricade entrances.

 

[Memento Mori]

so she knew your plans
then you should make her stop believing that everything's fine now, as soon as possible
it doesn't sound like you're talking much, but since you're a couple for 1 month by now and you don't sound like it was the big thing...I'd say break up with her, and then it's up to you to either tell her what you're up to, without giving her any death date, and/or just say that you move to another place to start from scratch, and then you have two months time to make the contact completely stop without her actually getting evidence what you're planning to do. what do you think of her reaction about breaking up? you didn't really tell us how serious your relationship is/was

Why tell her anything? You've only been seeing one another for barely a month.
I've been married almost 15yrs and don't plan on telling my wife.

don't underestimate this:

I don't want to tell her right before I do it. She'll probably CTB out of pure panic. She's made attempts before.

I'm not sure how I want to do this. We've only been dating for a little over a month, but I just don't wanna fuck this up.

especially when she doesn't seem to know his actual situation and active ctb plans

 

[essbet]

Why on earth would you tell her if you truly want to ctb, especially if she is at some risk of suicide herself? Your desire to say goodbye seems to me to be the less important of the consequences at stake here.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Just break it off with her. It's only been a month.

 

[Sixfeetunder]

Don't. You'll get put in the psych ward.

You can also openly talk about methods on here.

 

[Vaughn]

if you feel you may need to tell her = you may not be ready to die yet...
Don't tell her - this is a private matter and you don't want to panic at the last minute and risk her calling others to this/
keep it to yourself - all that matters at this point is you

 

[21Neberg]

(Wow, amazing profile picture/name!)

As others have said, don't. Telling her is the best way of making sure your method fails before you even attempt. Write your feelings in a note for her to find after your death.

 

[Vaughn]

(Wow, amazing profile picture/name!)

As others have said, don't. Telling her is the best way of making sure your method fails before you even attempt. Write your feelings in a note for her to find after your death.

NEBERG you are a ssssssssssssssmart one - yes.. ! when suicide becomes about you and NOT THEM - things are best @@@

 

[First loss]

Just don't tell her.

 

[Jake.123]

First of all, I'm so glad I found this website. Thank God DuckDuckGo doesn't censor everything like Google.

Now on to my issue.

I have a plan to CTB via OD (won't be specific because site rules) sometime in April. This will be after I receive and then blow all of my settlement money. I'm going to fly to a few states and party with friends.

Here's where my one and only issue comes in: I need to tell my girlfriend.
It's getting harder and harder to talk about visiting her when I know I'm going to be gone in less than two months.

She's known about this plan before we started dating, but she probably thinks I've been improving and my plans have changed.

I don't want to tell her too long in advance. She'll try to stop it.

I don't want to tell her right before I do it. She'll probably CTB out of pure panic. She's made attempts before.

I'm not sure how I want to do this. We've only been dating for a little over a month, but I just don't wanna fuck this up.

Advice? Questions?

If she is like that and has made attepts before she is likely to ctb after hearing of your death even if u dont tell her at all. If i were u i wouldnt tell her. Dont put her through stress if it messes up or u dont go through with it. Ctb is quite a challenge so i wouldnt tell her.

 

[yami9292]

I get the feeling of wanting to tell somone maybe to let them know or give them closure in a way but I hate to say it but you'll reget it. For me it changed the whole dynamic and I only told an online friend. It seems like a good idea to get your feelings out but it's really not the best idea just as everyone's been saying. But as someone said before write a heartfelt note for her for after you're gone and explain that you wanted to tell her but this way was for the best. But of course it's your choice just do what feels right.