For me it's always a decision to say "fuck it, whatever", and then start crying (ignoring alcohol). I think I've cried around five times since joining the forum or something, at least no more than ten times. I did have a handful of crying bouts where I didn't want to cry but it happened automatically, one was when I told my therapist about my situation somewhere between 9 and 24 months ago (lmao @ my memory).
I think your assumption that you will lose sanity from crying is wrong. I've heard that crying lowers stress and hits you with dopamine or something, can't be that bad. I get not wanting to cry randomly at work or whatever, so I'll think of something.
I think that increasing focus and getting a bit more aggressive in general would be good. Sadness is usually generated by some kind of rumination or getting overwhelmed I think.
Just yesterday I cried 4 times. 3 in the morning for random stuff and one in the evening because I was just sad. Regarding the part where I should be relieving, my therapist told me the same thing. That it was an answer to something and that crying isn't bad, which is another way to release your feelings but mine seems like a well that is never emptied, and that frustrates me a lot.
I don't physically cry much anymore these days because I've done it so much already but I do whine a lot so I guess I'm still a crybaby.
I don't think there's anyway to stop it that won't trigger said crybaby tendencies so I'm not gonna bother.
I though the same some years ago but this always comes back. I think it's a mix between my personality and my depression but I don't really know how to deal with it.
There can be a similarity between crying and anger. Each may be triggered by something unexpected especially if sudden. If you go into a situation with low expectations, you may be able to avoid reacting to things with an emotional "hair trigger".
This is interesting. May be you need to scream and do sports to relieve pressure and anger.
The thing is that I don't feel anything when I cry. To put you in situation I'm gonna describe why I cry yersterday:
-One was at the bakery. They gave me a croissant and I had to go with my head down because I was already sobbing and I didn't want to be seen.
- In a conversation about random stuff. A friend was telling me about his job and the conversation leads to aliens and totally random and anecdotal stuff. I suddenly started to cry and my friend was ???? Did I said something wrong? And the thing is that nothing happened. I just started to cry because yes.
-A friend told me that they loves me and wants to take breakfast with me someday. I started to cry like a child.
-When I was in my home alone I started to cry with no reason. I wasn't in a bad mood or sad or...anything. Just in my room crying without thinking.
Sometimes I cry because someone is kind with me as if no one had ever been good with me or I didn't received afection in a long time and this can be misunderstood that people are generally mean to me or something like that when the reality is, as a general rule, that everyone is nice and good with me. I don't feel that grateful or feeling like those actions are a world to me to start to cry the way I usually do. Most of the time that I start crying, I don't feel anything strong.
This doesn't apply to movies/games/songs. Also when I'm angry I don't cry because I have other resources to deal with it and solve it, although it's true that I can cry later out of frustration.
The thing is that most of the time I start to cry when I'm playing or watching something or talking with someone without anything having caused it. I can watch peppa pig and been crying and that's weird.
