How To Stay Calm and Collected?

[charlie_z]

Hi everyone. I want to ask what people have considered a good way to remain calm and collected during their CBT. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated. Thank you.

 

[JimFord99]

Think and plan ahead. This works for me. I am not afraid to die, in fact I am looking forward to.

 

[Life+me=error]

Make peace with death before you commit.

 

[Nem]

Maybe a bit of alcohol might help
Peace/hugs

 

[MisanthropicLycan]

I will be swallowing a handful of xanax before I ctb to help with anxiety.

 

[charlie_z]

I've considered cannabis. Sometimes it leaves me mellow and feeling very certain of my choices. Other times, however, I experience a sense of panic. I've also thought about using some type of benzodiazepine, but it's difficult for me to get them in quantity now.

 

[Lethe]

Keep your mind busy. Drink your SN imagining it's noodle broth or something pleasant, then immediately occupy your mind with a videogame or Sudoku puzzle or something.

 

[heylightiforgot]

Keep your mind busy. Drink your SN imagining it's noodle broth or something pleasant, then immediately occupy your mind with a videogame or Sudoku puzzle or something.

I thought SN would render you anxious and mentally incoherent etc. pretty quickly?

 

[Brick In The Wall]

I thought SN would render you anxious and mentally incoherent etc. pretty quickly?

I highly doubt this to be the case unless you're already in that frame of mind beforehand.

OP I would recommend this eloquently written thread. It has alot of valid points that resonated with me atleast.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/ways-of-making-peace-with-dying.5212/

 

[heylightiforgot]

I highly doubt this to be the case unless you're already in that frame of mind beforehand.

OP I would recommend this eloquently written thread. It has alot of valid points that resonated with me atleast.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/ways-of-making-peace-with-dying.5212/

Oh, well I mean it seems relatively likely to trigger vomiting and is a poison, so I guess I didn't really think you could just drink it and go about ordinary activity while it 'kicks in', so to speak. But maybe I'm mistaken. One of my major fears was it rendering me confused and panicked prior to death.

 

[Sweet emotion]

What does it die me now....Xanax.....lots of Xanax combined with Benadryl and that is something I plan to do when I die.

 

[a_strange_day]

If you are ready and in the right state of mind everything should go smoothly. But I would still take some benzos to make things easier.

 

[CrushedHopes]

As soon as you come to terms that you're putting an end to your own suffering, then you're not likely to be anxious when you kill yourself. It's difficult to remain calm and collected - you are terminating your life, after all. But if you panic, then you might fail, and end up with serious complications, making you worse off than before. If you're gonna do it, do everything you can to ensure that you have no chance of survival.

 

[noctiva]

Hei @charlie_z, I am currently working on the same issue. My method is ready and planned, now I need to get myself mentally ready. I've written all my notes, I have collected the things I want to give to people. I now need to prepare my mind. I have made peace with death, I'm okay and actually happy about that.
What is left is to struggle with the process of dying itself. How do I stay in the moment, calm and collected when I take my last meto dose until I drift off after taking SN? I've been meditating a lot, in the place and in the position I want to be after I've taken the SN. I collect my thoughts, try to think nothing at all and do diaphragm breathing to keep calm. This type of breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, leading to activation of the parasympathetic nervous system promoting calmness and relaxation. I think if I can access this state of mind after taking the SN, I will be fine and my mind will rule over SI.
One thing I have stopped doing is reading all the threads of people worried about their SI kicking in, because I think that just makes me overthink after SN if my SI will kick in or not. At that point I think I'd start to scan for thoughts that could be SI, leading to panic. ;)

 

[CaptainT]

Getting things in order took my mind off things, gave me clarity of intent. On the day itself of my attempt last week, I walked in nature, listened to Bach, had a pint in a cosy pub. It was all strangely calm. Then a couple of hours before I took diazepam (valium) which works wonders. Makes you totally zen. Those combined with more booze put me in a totally tranquil state.

It was only when I woke up (having failed!) that the shit hit the fan :/

 

[trynacbt]

I don't think this will be particularly helpful to you, but in my case, staying calm and collected will be a necessity for success. I'm going to be attempting at home where family are present and if I freak out I just know I'll be found. I guess I'll do it by thinking about why I need this. About how I've been looking for it for four years and now I have it, in a way that is fairly easy, without need for violence. That to me is a wonderful blessing, and so I should meet it with peace.

 

[charlie_z]

My method is ready and planned, now I need to get myself mentally ready. I've written all my notes, I have collected the things I want to give to people

I too have been donating clothes and small articles to donation. The donations make me feel lighter and cleaner. That is one of the few things I've done that have helped me begin to come to terms with my death.

I now need to prepare my mind. I have made peace with death, I'm okay and actually happy about that.

This is fundamental for me and where I'm most struggling presently. In an earlier post, I mentioned a friend who studies Buddhism and meditates as a part of his daily routine. He is using these practices to help him prepare for his death. You mention that you have begun meditating. I don't know what the protocol for this site is with respect to asking an other member to provide details regarding their practices, but if it's all possible, I'd like to learn more of what it is your doing. If that's possible, please let me know. By the way, you write beautifully; delicately but filled with a transcendent voice. Thank you.

 

[MeltingHeart]

Getting things in order took my mind off things, gave me clarity of intent. On the day itself of my attempt last week, I walked in nature, listened to Bach, had a pint in a cosy pub. It was all strangely calm. Then a couple of hours before I took diazepam (valium) which works wonders. Makes you totally zen. Those combined with more booze put me in a totally tranquil state.

It was only when I woke up (having failed!) that the shit hit the fan :/

thats sounds good- you pre-attempt activities I mean.
Acceptance and a level of understanding that you wont have to feel the way you do each day-thats what I will do anyway.

 

[SuicidalSymphonies]

I'm not afraid to die. But, I'm sure some Valium would help greatly, so I will be taking that.

 

[ChristopherWalken]

I too have been donating clothes and small articles to donation. The donations make me feel lighter and cleaner. That is one of the few things I've done that have helped me begin to come to terms with my death.

This is fundamental for me and where I'm most struggling presently. In an earlier post, I mentioned a friend who studies Buddhism and meditates as a part of his daily routine. He is using these practices to help him prepare for his death. You mention that you have begun meditating. I don't know what the protocol for this site is with respect to asking an other member to provide details regarding their practices, but if it's all possible, I'd like to learn more of what it is your doing. If that's possible, please let me know. By the way, you write beautifully; delicately but filled with a transcendent voice. Thank you.

I know you were asking Noctiva but I have been learning Kriya yoga meditation. There's a video on youtube by Sadhguru that can get you started.

 

[charlie_z]

I know you were asking Noctiva but I have been learning Kriya yoga meditation. There's a video on youtube by Sadhguru that can get you started.

Although directed to Noctiva, the question was really open to everyone. So, thank you. I'll check out the video. It means a lot. Thanks.