Help How to soften the blow to loved ones?

[nightshade00]

Besides SI, one thing that's kept me from ctb'ing is how hard I know it'll hit my loved ones (my family, partner, and friends). I'm looking for advice on how I can soften the blow that my actions would cause.

I've already written out a note and instructions for my belongings, etc. I feel like this will at least provide some context and an apology for the grief I'll cause them, along with direction on what to do next.

The methods I'm considering wouldn't let me stage it as an accident, so I can't do that to help them process things (it'd probably be easier to grieve me after an accident vs ctb).

Anyways, does anyone have advice on things I could do or things I could discuss with my loved ones to 'prepare' them for me leaving? (for lack of a better term)

Thanks <3

 

[FuneralCry]

To me it's always a terrible idea being open about plans to die, I believe that most people won't be very accepting and they could potentially interfere.
I just think the fact is that people will be sad by death no matter what but we all have to cease existing someday. Grief and loss are just an inevitable part of existing here, and nobody is obligated to continue existing.

 

[epic]

This question has been eating at me as well. It's a long discussed topic here.
I am planning to tell them keeping all my talking points ready with carefully selected words which should ease shock and pain . Idk if it will work or backfire and cause them more stress.
https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...ur-suicide-plans-or-not-your-thoughts.108485/

 

[nightshade00]

I think they'd intervene if I told them directly, but reading through things has given me an idea.

I feel like if I'm open to them about my mental health in general, my actions might be less of a shock (I would never share plans, but just general stuff about my mind).

 

[jujuklam]

I almost just created a new post about this, before this one popped up.

I'm putting pieces together for ctb with SN and also making a list and moves to tie up loose ends before I leave, and I have been open about my mental health struggles and suicidal ideation and desires with specific people in my life. I'm wondering how people have approached this matter I guess? I feel like talking about it and the severity of my mental health and how I don't see recovery as a viable option as ways to at least eliminate the shock to those I've spoken with, but just thinking about what else I can possibly do to help people who can't quite understand not experience the full hit of grief that they should expect. I know there's no way to eliminate it altogether, but whatever I can do to make it easy for them to grieve, heal and move on I want to do.