Send him a link to this thread and tell him you feel this way. Tell him you gave up a long time ago and want to finish things once and for all. Do it today so you're not wasting more of his time.
I've discussed this with him multiple times. He breaks down emotionally and becomes unreceptive.
How is it the case that your parents have ultimate control over your life forever? Surely there is some way you can live your own life as an adult?
If that's the only reason you're struggling I hope you can find some solutions. CTB is always there. Whatever you decide to do, best of luck.
In our country we don't quite get to move out unless we're going out of state for education purposes or for marriage.
as for what's in my 'control', i haven't really got any. There's a hierarchy here and i dont want to have all my social links turned on me yet. I'm still just starting out at adult 'life'
I don't know your situation, maybe ctb is not the answer and you could choose instead of it , to cut ties with your parents. But if you still insist on this decision, it's not that difficult to make someone hate you - just behave in a rude, toxic way that pushes them away (without any explanation) and it'll do the job. But you should heavily reconsider your options before you make him hate you, because chances are there's no turning back to the way it used to be between you two.
I did that just a while ago.. he just left explaining that he still loves me and would wait for me with open arms
It's not that simple. Especially when he's grown an attachment to me as I've been the only one there for him during hard times.
I'll try to keep it constant so hopefully he does lose feelings.
Is there any way you and your boyfriend could move far away from them?
I don't think it's a good plan to be honest. Please don't cheat on him. That would be the worst thing to do.
I don't really have any good ideas, sorry.
We're not allowed to move in together until and unless we're married.
We're not quite there yet.
Thank you for taking your time to try help out.
My view is to
never pull such tricks, but I don't know if it applies to you
It appears your parents are the one problem. If you don't solve it, you're dead and he's heartbroken. Maybe he'll ctb too. Truly an immoral murderous outcome, and they're the aggressors
This means they are the enemy, and must be incapacitated. It is moral to counterattack them hard until they relent or are unable to act against you
If your boyfriend isn't on board with this, his love is lacking. If this analysis is right
I see from the link that you do believe in hell. Im on board of that too, Its the only thing keeping me from ctb. But im getting closer to the edge each time.
It's not that easy you see.. cultural hierarchy exists here and if you disrespect your parents you're an utter and complete failure
Some people may say i care about other's opinion too much but hey. At this age (young adult here) we need eachother and support as we're just starting out in this cruel world. I don't want to lose my social links yet
i'm not sure why you want to, but, the only way this is ending, is in a lot of pain from both sides.
Because I'm not in control of anything.
Every person I've talked to tells me 'at least I'm in control of how i respond'
And then completely judge me for wanting to kill myself
The entire story is long. But it's that im not allowed to feel strong emotions. I must always keep other's wants in front of my needs, otherwise I'm selfish.
I must dedicate my life to parents as i will not be here if it weren't for them, I'll even have to let them choose to name/abandon/punish my own child if they want to
It's expected of me. I have no control over anything. Why am I still here.
