How to give someone a suicide note in the best way?

[WeirdTheaterKid02]

I want to give a note to someone special to me explaining why, but I don't want to hand it to them directly and be like « wait to open it » cuz then they'd feel guilty for not looking at it sooner. But I don't want to mail it because I feel like that would be really traumatizing. Should I just leave it somewhere where they'd find it later on? Genuinely not sure. Thanks all

 

[ts0hill]

Send a delayed email on a timer

 

[WeirdTheaterKid02]

Send a delayed email on a timer

I'd like it to be a physical note.

 

[darkwaters]

I'd like it to be a physical note.

Regular mail…although if you change your mind you can't delete a letter that's already been sent I guess.

 

[theboy]

You can leave it under your pillow
In the drawer of your bedside table

 

[WeirdTheaterKid02]

You can leave it under your pillow
In the drawer of your bedside table

We don't live in the same house. Right now I'm thinking maybe just leave it in their car. But honestly I'm so conflicted. I want them to know why but I also want it to be as painless as possible.

 

[MelancholyMagic]

You can leave it under your pillow
In the drawer of your bedside table

This would be risky. It could easily get lost.

You could hide the note in a place you know the police will not see (because they will poke around in your business afterwards) and then have a delayed email telling the person where to look.

 

[theboy]

We don't live in the same house. Right now I'm thinking maybe just leave it in their car. But honestly I'm so conflicted. I want them to know why but I also want it to be as painless as possible.

remember it doesn't have to be a hard place to find.

 

[Disaster]

Inside a book he's unlikely to read?
I'm struggling with the physical note ideas myself. Not the place (I have many great options I won't share here), but what would be less traumatic, learning from the police or the note? I mean both getting a note after a police call would be awful, and getting a note and having to wait for the police. Both sound absolutely awful, which sucks less?

 

[Das Nichts]

I'd like it to be a physical note.

I've stashed mine somewhere and the delayed mail will reveal the location.