Discussion How to forget the women that took your virginity and abandoned you?

[fuzattojuliana]

Have two months my girlfriend abandoned me, she gave me no reason but looking for the situation of course I have a big piece of fault and she won't admit it. I'm suffering so much, looking for the death, but even on this forum the help is minimal, I feel people cold. I won't feel nothing anymore. I'm destroyed.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Well I'm sorry you feel abandoned. I'm 48. I've been heartbroke and abandoned more time than I care to remember. Including being left alone to die. But each time your heart is broken, it feels like the first, so you have my sympathies.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Unfortunately, you cannot forget her. You can learn and grow. Almost everyone has a romantic relationship end and suffers, or has one last and suffers.

I know this is not the answer you seek, but I don't believe the answer you seek exists. I am a 49 year old woman. I have had many relationships, and many recoveries. Some recoveries were easy and some very difficult. Sometimes the other people were the ones who had to recover because I did not feel for them the way they felt about me. Sometimes others used me, and sometimes, when I was younger, I was blind to myself and used them to meet needs that they could not meet and did not offer to. I did not have a family that taught me self-respect or how to have healthy relationships. I had to learn those things for myself. Most people do. Unfortunately, going through challenges is most often how any human learns and grows.

Do I understand that you feel people on this forum are cold? Many are very warm and understanding. I am understanding and have a lot of compassion, but I also am very honest and direct. I offer you a hug and understanding for your suffering, but also honesty in answer to your questions. I don't demand you accept anything I offer. I trust you to figure out for yourself what is best for you and what are the best choices to make.

 

[fuzattojuliana]

Well I'm sorry you feel abandoned. I'm 48. I've been heartbroke and abandoned more time than I care to remember. Including being left alone to die. But each time your heart is broken, it feels like the first, so you have my sympathies.

Thank you so much for being lovely.

Unfortunately, you cannot forget her. You can learn and grow. Almost everyone has a romantic relationship end and suffers, or has one last and suffers.

I know this is not the answer you seek, but I don't believe the answer you seek exists. I am a 49 year old woman. I have had many relationships, and many recoveries. Some recoveries were easy and some very difficult. Sometimes the other people were the ones who had to recover because I did not feel for them the way they felt about me. Sometimes others used me, and sometimes, when I was younger, I was blind to myself and used them to meet needs that they could not meet and did not offer to. I did not have a family that taught me self-respect or how to have healthy relationships. I had to learn those things for myself. Most people do. Unfortunately, going through challenges is most often how any human learns and grows.

Do I understand that you feel people on this forum are cold? Many are very warm and understanding. I am understanding and have a lot of compassion, but I also am very honest and direct. I offer you a hug and understanding for your suffering, but also honesty in answer to your questions. I don't demand you accept anything I offer. I trust you to figure out for yourself what is best for you and what are the best choices to make.

I'm so sorry for what you had passed, no one should feel like a piece of meat, because that's what I'm feeling like. I remembered that so many months prior we broken up, we had sex (but in that time I didn't knew that was sex) and she said after I cried when she said:"I love you but sex don't hold nobody." so she promised be always with me even if we break up but I'm not feeling truth friendship from her.

Have two months my girlfriend abandoned me, she gave me no reason but looking for the situation of course I have a big piece of fault and she won't admit it. I'm suffering so much, looking for the death, but even on this forum the help is minimal, I feel people cold. I won't feel nothing anymore. I'm destroyed.

And to everyone here knows, I had 22 while she had 34 years. Basically of course she played with my heart and since I met her I just wanted to help.

 

[nitroautnz]

Have two months my girlfriend abandoned me, she gave me no reason but looking for the situation of course I have a big piece of fault and she won't admit it. I'm suffering so much, looking for the death, but even on this forum the help is minimal, I feel people cold. I won't feel nothing anymore. I'm destroyed.

Im sorry that happen to you , i wish i have the answer for you. Im looking for it too, my ex don't see herself with me anymore, she still love me and are here for me. But just not the way i want.

 

[fuzattojuliana]

Im sorry that happen to you , i wish i have the answer for you. Im looking for it too, my ex don't see herself with me anymore, she still love me and are here for me. But just not the way i want.

If my ex would be like this, I would be happier but of course, as you I wanted her again with me. I don't understand why this love finish for nothing, with no reason.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I don't understand why this love finish for nothing, with no reason.

I thought you said in another thread that it was because your narcissistic mother interfered.

 

[almost_dead]

Have two months my girlfriend abandoned me, she gave me no reason but looking for the situation of course I have a big piece of fault and she won't admit it. I'm suffering so much, looking for the death, but even on this forum the help is minimal, I feel people cold. I won't feel nothing anymore. I'm destroyed.
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I have had a heart break from a crush recently (we were not even dating ! ) . I cant tell you anything because even I have been crying for like an year . Fuck you Life, you fucking bitch

 

[fuzattojuliana]

I'm so sorry dear.

 

[Blank Dreamer]

Have two months my girlfriend abandoned me, she gave me no reason but looking for the situation of course I have a big piece of fault and she won't admit it. I'm suffering so much, looking for the death, but even on this forum the help is minimal, I feel people cold. I won't feel nothing anymore. I'm destroyed.

Similar experience here. My ex was the person that I lost my virginity with. This was almost 10 years ago. In the beginning, I didn't want to do it. It stayed that way for a while but then I started to feel a little guilty because of it. Needless to say, she convinced me into doing it. It wasn't forced as she asked me countless times if I was ok with it.

Anyways, later in our relationship things started to progressively get worse and we ended up breaking up. The people I knew then were telling me that she was cheating on me and I saw some signs that made me realize it. I forget her reasons as to why she broke up with me but I remember it being a bunch of bull. Couple days after that I was walking with a group that included my ex and her new boyfriend at the time. We were walking into the woods and some of the guys we were with started walking back. It was only me, my ex and the boyfriend that were alone in the woods. So what happens? Well the two of them started to do it. In front of me.

I mean, I was fortunate that I had my iPod with me already listening to my music. So I didn't need to hear their... mess. I didn't know what I was thinking at the time and I should've seen it coming. I didn't even feel angry. It was truly one of the moments where I felt absolutely nothing. Later that evening I was going to a college bar with my college friends. I started drinking a lot. Way too much that I blacked out. Turns out that I got thrown out of the bar by the bouncers. I was left out on my own doing whatever. Apparently I was screaming, yelling and falling over a lot. Crossed over a road with a bunch of vehicles. It's amazing that I didn't die from being hit by a vehicle. My friends managed to find me by some miracle. Woke up to see myself having a black eye and bloody knees.

It took me awhile to move on. Took me even longer to recover to a functioning level. I understand how much hurt you are going through now. All I can say is that you can't ever forget her and the situation. She may have abandoned you but there are others that won't. Me included. I hope you can take the time and choice for coming out on top. So for now, take it easy.

 

[fuzattojuliana]

Similar experience here. My ex was the person that I lost my virginity with. This was almost 10 years ago. In the beginning, I didn't want to do it. It stayed that way for a while but then I started to feel a little guilty because of it. Needless to say, she convinced me into doing it. It wasn't forced as she asked me countless times if I was ok with it.

Anyways, later in our relationship things started to progressively get worse and we ended up breaking up. The people I knew then were telling me that she was cheating on me and I saw some signs that made me realize it. I forget her reasons as to why she broke up with me but I remember it being a bunch of bull. Couple days after that I was walking with a group that included my ex and her new boyfriend at the time. We were walking into the woods and some of the guys we were with started walking back. It was only me, my ex and the boyfriend that were alone in the woods. So what happens? Well the two of them started to do it. In front of me.

I mean, I was fortunate that I had my iPod with me already listening to my music. So I didn't need to hear their... mess. I didn't know what I was thinking at the time and I should've seen it coming. I didn't even feel angry. It was truly one of the moments where I felt absolutely nothing. Later that evening I was going to a college bar with my college friends. I started drinking a lot. Way too much that I blacked out. Turns out that I got thrown out of the bar by the bouncers. I was left out on my own doing whatever. Apparently I was screaming, yelling and falling over a lot. Crossed over a road with a bunch of vehicles. It's amazing that I didn't die from being hit by a vehicle. My friends managed to find me by some miracle. Woke up to see myself having a black eye and bloody knees.

Levei um tempo para seguir em frente. Levei ainda mais tempo para me recuperar a um nível funcional. Eu entendo o quanto você está sofrendo agora. Tudo o que posso dizer é que você nunca pode esquecer ela e a situação. Ela pode ter abandonado você, mas há outros que não o farão. Eu incluído. Espero que você tenha tempo e escolha para sair por cima. Então, por enquanto, vá com calma.:coração:
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Eu estou sure

Similar experience here. My ex was the person that I lost my virginity with. This was almost 10 years ago. In the beginning, I didn't want to do it. It stayed that way for a while but then I started to feel a little guilty because of it. Needless to say, she convinced me into doing it. It wasn't forced as she asked me countless times if I was ok with it.

Anyways, later in our relationship things started to progressively get worse and we ended up breaking up. The people I knew then were telling me that she was cheating on me and I saw some signs that made me realize it. I forget her reasons as to why she broke up with me but I remember it being a bunch of bull. Couple days after that I was walking with a group that included my ex and her new boyfriend at the time. We were walking into the woods and some of the guys we were with started walking back. It was only me, my ex and the boyfriend that were alone in the woods. So what happens? Well the two of them started to do it. In front of me.

I mean, I was fortunate that I had my iPod with me already listening to my music. So I didn't need to hear their... mess. I didn't know what I was thinking at the time and I should've seen it coming. I didn't even feel angry. It was truly one of the moments where I felt absolutely nothing. Later that evening I was going to a college bar with my college friends. I started drinking a lot. Way too much that I blacked out. Turns out that I got thrown out of the bar by the bouncers. I was left out on my own doing whatever. Apparently I was screaming, yelling and falling over a lot. Crossed over a road with a bunch of vehicles. It's amazing that I didn't die from being hit by a vehicle. My friends managed to find me by some miracle. Woke up to see myself having a black eye and bloody knees.

It took me awhile to move on. Took me even longer to recover to a functioning level. I understand how much hurt you are going through now. All I can say is that you can't ever forget her and the situation. She may have abandoned you but there are others that won't. Me included. I hope you can take the time and choice for coming out on top. So for now, take it easy.

I'm sure I don't want do that, I meant not in that time, not in tha situation, even the date. She make things run faster than the clock only for take profit of mine. Once I pretend being drunk and she was for touching almost when, she said:"No, it's wrong!" as admirable but the same girl who did this brave act of respect, was the same girl who was trying me convince me saying "I'll not put my finger" "But you have the himen" and after do so much things with me say "oh but after this and that you're not virgin anymore" I just did that with her because in part I was innocent, I didn't knew what was sex and of course, a part is my fault because I liked to seduce but do nothing, sincerely I wasn't spending many things. She conduced all the situation. I'm no faulty here.

 

[Blank Dreamer]

Sounds to me like your ex didn't know what she wanted. Or she's a manipulator and a deviant.

If you say that it isn't your fault then it isn't. Seems to me that she's done this to you pretty often?

 

[fuzattojuliana]

Sounds to me like your ex didn't know what she wanted. Or she's a manipulator and a deviant.

If you say that it isn't your fault then it isn't. Seems to me that she's done this to you pretty often?

Yes, I think it at first, after she changed to my eyes but now I'm sure as all fake. She have no right of she wanted.

 

[miguel6565]

Im sorry you in so much pain,i can tell you i might not be easy to recover and you might think eventually in a future about it but most memories will fade and some wont thats how love works,being heart broken its the worst feeling after depression that I have ever felt,my last girlfriend broke me in pieces and made me fall into a depression which i still have,i dont regret knowing her because he helped me a lot and i will always be in love whit her even if she dont,i think love is wanting the best for the other even if isnt by you side anymore,i hope you can recover because i still didnt recovery and 2 years have gone from her

 

[fuzattojuliana]

Im sorry you in so much pain,i can tell you i might not be easy to recover and you mihgt think eventuallt in a future aboout it but most memories will fade and some wont thats how love works,being heart broken its the worst feeling after depression that I have ever felt,my last girlfriend broke me in pieces and made me fall into a depression which i still have,i dont regret knowing her because he helped me a lot and i will always be in love whit her even if she dont,i think love is wanting the best for the other even if isnt by you side anymore,i hope you can recover because i still didnt recovery and 2 years have gone from her

My ex girlfriend help me a lot too but I have to regret her because she have no heart.