How often have you been told "insert word, up"?

[thetwilightzone]

My father is fond of this. "Grow Up, Mature Up, Toughen Up". I've honestly never understood how they're supposed to work on people.

I just remembered this because a 17yr old guy recently told me to "grow up, mature" just because I wasn't in class.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I'm already old and I'm kind of a lost cause for maturing at this point, so I generally only ever get "shut the fuck up."

 

[fuckthis]

I don't usually express how I feel to begin with so nobody really knows what's going on with me. It's shitty because I hold it all in but it stops me from hearing stupid shit like that.

 

[eve2004]

I don't usually express how I feel to begin with so nobody really knows what's going on with me. It's shitty because I hold it all in but it stops me from hearing stupid shit like that.

Same. And anyone who may potentially say anything I actively avoid. (Along with as many people as I can, except the dude who serves my coffee, and sells me fruits and vegetables. And they know nothing.

 

[exhausted]

Yep, got told to grow up. I used to hear "pull your socks up" quite a lot too. I heard "man up" a few times, I am female though. "Buckle up" is what I tell myself each morning.

 

[TearyEyedQueen]

I've heard it a lot from my parents throughout my childhood, sadly. The peak of the help they've tried to get me over the years.

 

[LivingToLong]

I get told 'cheer up, it may never happen' a fair amount. I find that ironic because they don't know what the f*ck I'm thinking. What might be making me unhappy is the fact that I'm still alive, that I'm not allowed to die of my own choice. Maybe I look down BECAUSE it'll "never happen"!

I sometimes respond 'yes, that's exaclty what saddens me"!

 

[JennyCurran]

I had a psych ward social worker tell me I needed to grow up after she couldn't help me with shit... That was useful.

 

[TAW122]

Not everyday, but more oftenly than I'd like. I had people say, "get over it", "just forget it", "you need to move on", etc. It feels rather dismissive and insulting. I try not to think too hard or dwell on it, but sometimes it's tempting to react to their statements.

 

[peacefully31425]

I've been told to "man up" and "do better" on several occasions. They are insults disguised as vague concern. A compassionate, emotionally mature person would explain what the problem was and give steps on how to overcome it in clear and concise terms. People who use these phrases aren't your friend and should be ignored.