Help How do you stop missing someone?

[Rn110bg101]

Title. Is there anything that can be done? It doesn't have to work for a long time

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

The only thing that temporarely works for me is a healthy amount of Chartreuse and video games.

 

[LastWhisper]

Whatever I do, nothing helps or works. There maybe some things that can work, but I can't even do it because of that feeling.

 

[Jblack]

It's only temporary but Jack works for me. It kind numbs things for a little while. More of an escape. I don't think we can really stop missing someone. Especially if that person held a very special place in our heart and was important to our life. Maybe try to remember the positive things that person did for you and that as long as you remember them, they are never really gone.

 

[Kat!]

If you mean, like a friend you had in the past, I suggest making a new one, or being more social.
This happens to me a lot.
But if you miss someone who is very important, sometime the feeling will fade away, you just have to find a way to cope.

 

[foxdie]

Depends on the someone I guess, how much they meant to you. Time is the only thing I've ever known to work. The pangs of pain fade or only show up in difficult moments. Kind of a shitty answer, sorry.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Depending on who they are, if it's a relationship that ended one suggestion is to try doing something they'd hate that you wouldn't be able to get away with around them. The sense of freedom might provide at least some temporary relief...it has to be something you'd also want to do though so it can't just be something you'd both hate...

If you're talking about a lost family member...I'm not sure...I try to distract myself when that kind of thing happens...

 

[Despondent]

I don't know it what context you mean by missing someone: distance makes it hard or they're no longer somebody involved in your life.

The loss of someone has changed me and I'm still trying to cope two years later. At the beginning of it all, I really needed distractions. Watching TV was one but my thoughts would get caught up to me about the situation. Another thing that helped was car rides because I felt closer to that person for some reason. I was always moving and not in one spot because I was, well, driving

 

[stygal]

If it's a failed relationship you want to stop thinking about:
Delete/ Throw away everything that still reminds you of them. Afterwards distract yourself as best as you can. Talk to other people about your pain. Try to remind yourself why they aren't in your life anymore or remember times you fought/they were in the wrong (aka try to get angry at them). All in all don't let your mind paint a positive picture of them.

If it's a person you lost because of death/no contact:
Distraction is still key. Talk about your pain as well. This time remember the positive times you two had together. Accept your sadness/grief and let it all out...especially in the beginning.

 

[Meditation guide]

I try to think of bad things about them. I can usually talk myself out of missing them by remembering anything bad.

 

[ovaltinee99]

It helps to recognise that the version of the people we invent in our heads are more often than not better than they are in real life. Especially true romantically speaking. Remember the times the real versions fell flat and didn't match up. Sometimes the feelings we had when with said person are because of the 'value' we assigned to them. It pays to remember that "the magic was in you all along." Probably true, it's up to you.

But also sometimes you just need to replace them and be preoccupied with someone else.

 

[sarahR]

Some people say time, those people are wrong. I haven't forgot someone special in my life. 6 years are passed.... the feeling remains the same.

 

[Kruger]

You don't. Both my parents died when i was in my 20's. I'm now in my early 50's and i miss them more every day.

 

[Meditation guide]

i miss them more every day.

I feel your pain. I miss my parents terribly too.

 

[Zhontafly]

Let go or be dragged.

 

[StuFin]

"How do you stop missing someone?"

Aim better.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Time.

 

[Quax]

Find a new someone

 

[Weary Soul]

A lot of good advice here.

For me, I try to remember the good times with love and laughter as best I can, and try to be grateful that I had them in my life and were touched by their love, even if it was for a very short time.

It is not easy when the grief is raw. When that happens, I allow that grief to run its course or try to distract myself.

In my experience, time does help.

I am sorry you are going through this, it is very hard.

 

[Throwmyselfaway]

You don't. I have known so many people that have died. I've lost way too many friends and family. Especially in the last few years. I miss them all

 

[blueflame]

I would say...find a goal that truly motivates you, it could be in relation to the person or not but the feeling of motivation and determination might replace the feeling of lack....

 

[unlovible000]

Currently going through something similar, the only person in my life that I could actually socialize with and trust, has abandoned me, they stopped talking to me about 4 months ago, I don't know why, I was able to find there Snapchat account, they never answer back, only read my a few posts, they eventually unfriended me a out a week ago. I have no way of knowing how to cope either so I don't know what to say. This cluster fuck of a past few months may be one the many major reasons I'm considering suicide as an option.

 

[Nymph]

You don't, best is to distract yourself, suffer and give it time. It's tough