Help How do you get less scared of the nothingness?

[kosmischerunfall]

So, i'm experiencing unbearable pain, and want to kill myself with helium before school starts.

One reason I'm scared of and also that's why the SI kicks in is: The BIIIG FEAR of Nothingness.

I know it doesn't make sense being scared of it because, we won't be there to be scared. Our Consciousness completely vanishes, but my mind still somehow thinks it can imagine that and makes up countless of possibilities what could be after this life.

How do you manage to cope with this?
Please help me it's so important to me:(

 

[Forveleth]

For me existence us suffering. If I no longer exist, I can not suffer. This is a very comforting thought to me. I see nothingness as a relief from suffering so it is actually a positive association in my mind.

 

[w1ngedpearl]

I completely understand you. The fear of nothingness was one of the reasons I failed my recent CTB attempt. I was afraid because I kept imagining all the "good" things I had in my life, my mind told me "It wasn't that bad, you have good parents and there are still people who care about you", "There are still some enjoyable things you saw or knew", "Are you ready to leave them all forever?". It was extremely annoying. Guess it'a part of survival instinct. I decided to try again when things will get worse. In my opinion, the best anti-SI thing is when everything becomes so insufferable that you look forward to diving into the nothingness because it will end the suffering forever.

 

[Andarna]

Personally, I like to redirect my thoughts from "after" to "before".

Instead of focusing on what it will be like after death, I think about what it was like before I was born. Because nothingness has already happened. When I meditate on the fact that I once did not exist, I feel neither fear nor sadness. I have no regret or sense of loss.

The nothingness becomes familiar, and my mind calms down a bit.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

only Non-existence forever can guarantee never suffering so badly its a trillion times worse than the worst u can imagine

i didn't have any problems for 13.8 billion years before i was born because i didn't exist. i never suffered nor had a chance of suffering . it will be like that again after this abomination my brain dies.

if u see this world , life , existence as the evilest worst things why wouldn't i want to not exist asap? of course i do. of course i want to reach the safety of eternal Non-existence as soon as possible

i fear remaining alive as only then can i suffer extreme torture

 

[Forever Sleep]

It wasn't scary when I was unborn- as far as I remember. I imagine death will be the same.

 

[homeboundcripple]

There's no afterlife. Eternal nothingness makes more sense than the idea of life after death. And since we're all inevitably heading to that state, what difference does it really make if we reach it a little sooner.

 

[VoidButterfly]

Much like others here, I've already experienced 13 billion years of nothingness before I was born, and it didn't bother me one bit. That's how I think about the rest of time.

 

[death over slavery]

I was already dead long before I got "resurrected" in this hell of a world (and go back to death once again). At that state, I was not scared, because it was impossible to get scared if you didn't exist. I already experienced the state of death, and I'm sure death after life would be the same as death before life.

I feel like society is a major contributor to why we are scared of death, apart from survival instincts and fear of the unknown. We got religions or beliefs dissuading us via the threat of hell or reincarnated into a being of more suffering, pro-lifers, government passing laws to prevent their citizens killing themselves to escape taxes, and loved ones holding us back.

 

[Kitsune_BCN]

If you observe nature, death is in reality a simple thing. Metabolism of complex beings cant go on forever, and ur matter feeds other creatures. Nothing magic, nothing mystic. Just a process. Dont let you consciousness try to trick you into death is something special. It is not.

 

[kopebaldy]

It's less scarier than whatever the fuck I'm going through rn.

 

[leloyon]

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In any case, I don't know either. Things like infinity and nothingness are, of course, unimagineable, and that's the scary part for me. You can't possibly imagine something unimagineable for an unimagineable length of time, you cannot comprehend what is inherently, by definition, uncomprehendable.

 

[Liseli]

For me currently it's knowing I won't have to suffer through any loneliness anymore. I won't have a chance of being betrayed or ostracized by anyone. I will go in peace. Living in anxiety for me is worse

 

[Cosmophobic]

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In any case, I don't know either. Things like infinity and nothingness are, of course, unimagineable, and that's the scary part for me. You can't possibly imagine something unimagineable for an unimagineable length of time, you cannot comprehend what is inherently, by definition, uncomprehendable.

"The person who conceives their existence as merely accidental, must certainly be afraid of losing it through death. On the other hand the person who sees, even only in a general way, that their existence rests on some original necessity, will not believe that this necessity, which has produced so wonderful a thing, is limited to such a brief span of time, but that it is active at all times. But whoever reflects that up till now, when they exist, an infinite time, and thus an infinity of changes, has run its course, but yet not withstanding this they exist, will recognise their existence as a necessary one. Therefore, the entire possibility of all states and conditions has exhausted itself already without being able to eliminate one's existence. If ever a person could not be, they would already not be now. For the infinity of the time that has already elapsed, with the exhausted possibility of its events in it, guarantees that what exists necessarily exists. Consequently, everyone has to conceive themselves as a necessary being, in other words, as a being whose existence would follow from its true and exhaustive definition, if only we had this." - Arthur Schopenhaeur.

Phew...I couldn't find that online so I had to type it out. I just finished reading On the Suffering of the World and I had that section marked. Your diagram reminded me of it.

Suffice to say I don't know shit, like everyone else when it comes to this subject, but it is interesting to think that infinite consciousness (as a principle not individual) feels more intuitive to us than an arising out of infinite nothingness and a returning to infinite nothingness.

 

[Parasitism]

So, i'm experiencing unbearable pain, and want to kill myself with helium before school starts.

One reason I'm scared of and also that's why the SI kicks in is: The BIIIG FEAR of Nothingness.

I know it doesn't make sense being scared of it because, we won't be there to be scared. Our Consciousness completely vanishes, but my mind still somehow thinks it can imagine that and makes up countless of possibilities what could be after this life.

How do you manage to cope with this?
Please help me it's so important to me:(

I decided to write a poem for you:

Pushing through the fog of instinct

Now, there is no more

No more fog

No more instinct

Success was no more success

Only no more now

 

[whyyyyyyyy]

So, i'm experiencing unbearable pain, and want to kill myself with helium before school starts.

One reason I'm scared of and also that's why the SI kicks in is: The BIIIG FEAR of Nothingness.

I know it doesn't make sense being scared of it because, we won't be there to be scared. Our Consciousness completely vanishes, but my mind still somehow thinks it can imagine that and makes up countless of possibilities what could be after this life.

How do you manage to cope with this?
Please help me it's so important to me:(

No one really knows for sure what will occur after death. When one commits suicide, it is necessarily a leap of faith. You do not know what will happen next. You can't predict it with any certainty whatsoever. You just do it on the off chance that your suffering will end.

If killing yourself makes you stop existing, then you won't exist to care about not existing. If killing yourself doesn't make you stop existing, then you don't have to worry about nothingness, because you've just endured death and seen whatever's next.

That either happens or it doesn't. It either ends your existence, or it doesn't. If you don't exist, you can't care, nothing to fear. Alternatively, if you die and do still exist, then there was no need to fear nothingness.

It's either one or the other. You either exist in the next moment, or you don't.

You might wake up in hell, heaven, Candy Land, bug world, Saturn, who knows? That's really unknown. You can guess well, but you can't truly know for sure what will happen until you actually do it.

If you kill yourself, know you're taking a leap of faith, into an unknown future, hoping for the best, that at least maybe your current suffering will end. This is the only truthful attitude if you're going to kill yourself.

 

[ih34rty0u]

do you remember anything from before you were born? no, so that means you didn't feel any pain back then. you also didn't know that you didn't even existed.

whenever i catch myself stressing about dying, i keep reminding myself that we had already experienced nothingness once, and death is just like coming back home. nothing to be scared of.

the way you feel about it doesn't prevent it from happening, so thinking about it is just torturing your mind.