pdyduc
Member
- Aug 4, 2020
- 22
What do you do to find your worth? how do you feel like you are worth something? What do you say to yourself to reaffirm yourself about your worth?
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muffin222
Enlightened
- Mar 31, 2020
- 1,188
I think we're all worth it in the sense that we have intrinsic worth as unique human beings. There's only one you in this entire world of 7 billion other humans, so I think in the grand scheme of things, that's pretty remarkable
Life_and_Death
Do what's best for you 🕯️ Right now, I'm stressed
- Jul 1, 2020
- 6,897
Repeat it. The more you hear it, the more you believe it. It's like how a bully will repeat the same thing over until you believe it. It's the same concept just in a positive way.
Value is difficult to assess as there are differing measurement standards. For example, you may not have much value to one person, but are highly valued by another. It can even be difficult to measure ones value to oneself. Complicating things further is the fact that "worth" often has a future or potential value. For example, a person who is making progress dealing with their problems would have an increasing value or worth.
One might look at "worth" as a result measured by someone in a particular situation. This would be more of an effect than a cause. It would seem to be a source of frustration trying to manipulate how others value us. A more reliable measurement might be made of the progress we each make in our own lives.
Measurement criteria is also important. If one selects money, fame, or business success as the criteria for valuation, one may not find much satisfaction. If one selects improvement in humor, kindness, being less angry, or helping others, one may find both more progress as well as happiness.
One might look at "worth" as a result measured by someone in a particular situation. This would be more of an effect than a cause. It would seem to be a source of frustration trying to manipulate how others value us. A more reliable measurement might be made of the progress we each make in our own lives.
Measurement criteria is also important. If one selects money, fame, or business success as the criteria for valuation, one may not find much satisfaction. If one selects improvement in humor, kindness, being less angry, or helping others, one may find both more progress as well as happiness.
VIBRITANNIA
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- Aug 10, 2020
- 1,156
we all have something to offer to peoole and this world, whether they appreciate it or not. we all have skills or personality traits that are useful/helpful. like muffin222 said, we're all unique, one of a kind. that makes us worthy enough.
I walk outside my back gate and wander around the neighbourhood and the woods. I talk to the locals and make friends with their dogs. I try to explore and understand my immediate environment.
Once I had a high powered job and I travelled and felt important, but that was an illusion. What is all that worth? Only what someone is willing to pay for it. Value is an abstract construct and one you can hack to your benefit, to an extent.
Now I get value from experiencing my surroundings and enjoying my environment. I have no cause and no point to make. Why should I? Who cares? Let people make their own minds up.
Once I had a high powered job and I travelled and felt important, but that was an illusion. What is all that worth? Only what someone is willing to pay for it. Value is an abstract construct and one you can hack to your benefit, to an extent.
Now I get value from experiencing my surroundings and enjoying my environment. I have no cause and no point to make. Why should I? Who cares? Let people make their own minds up.
Dr Iron Arc
Into the Unknown
- Feb 10, 2020
- 21,031
Honestly, I wish I knew. Every achievement I've made feels hollow to me and even when I do something that might seem genuinely good my brain circles back by bringing up the fact that it will never take away how terrible I already am. I feel like I need external validation but whenever I get it, it always feels so fake even when I know it isn't meant to be. I guess I would need some ideal person who I wholly trust to give me that kind of validation. Someone who truly gets how horrid I am but is still willing to forgive me anyway. That's pure fantasy though so here I am. If anyone else has any luck, I sure would like to know. 
WinterFaust
Shimmer
- Apr 13, 2020
- 412
Honestly, I wish I knew. Every achievement I've made feels hollow to me and even when I do something that might seem genuinely good my brain circles back by bringing up the fact that it will never take away how terrible I already am. I feel like I need external validation but whenever I get it, it always feels so fake even when I know it isn't meant to be. I guess I would need some ideal person who I wholly trust to give me that kind of validation. Someone who truly gets how horrid I am but is still willing to forgive me anyway. That's pure fantasy though so here I am. If anyone else has any luck, I sure would like to know.
I can relate a lot to this. At my best circumstantially a few years ago, I still felt that I was a horrible monster. It didn't matter how much love or kindness I was given. It didn't matter how much good I tried to do, the feeling never left. Of course, external validation feels good in the moment and having someone who truly loved me despite it all and tried to convince me I wasn't a terrible person, it was always there. Outside influences certainly can help but the bulk of the issue and the work really is internal. Until you can forgive yourself for whatever it is that you may or may not have done, that validation will always seem fake.
I have not yet learned how to forgive myself so take my statement with a grain of salt haha.
Dr Iron Arc
Into the Unknown
- Feb 10, 2020
- 21,031
True, true. Validation and forgiveness probably are far better coming from the inside than not. If only that wasn't so difficult to find...
waterbottleman
Not a person
- Sep 30, 2019
- 721
Bro seriously you have the best avatar on this site. I laugh every time I see it.
Dr Iron Arc
Into the Unknown
- Feb 10, 2020
- 21,031
I don't care if I worth something. I care to have it, to be my way. Don't believe in anyone's worth table. For sure Looking for acceptance from others has a negative worth.
mathieu
Enlightened
- Jun 5, 2019
- 1,090
I look to others to validate me and often they don't and I feel like absolute shit.
leiche
i need a cigarette
- Aug 19, 2020
- 196
i feel like that when my friends say i'm better than them at something. i think then "well maybe i'm not that terrible actually...."
Deleted member 17949
Visionary
- May 9, 2020
- 2,238
I try to imagine myself as another person and think about how I would treat them and what I would say to them. I find that I am unreasonably hard on myself at times, way beyond what I would ever be on other people. Reminding myself that I am a person like everyone else around me with real limits and feelings helps me expect less and appreciate more.
