How do I get over a oneitis?

[Kramer]

There's a girl from a few years ago that I saw every week for many months. We'd always smile and stare at each other. We only talked once and it was the last time I ever saw her because I never returned to the store at that time again for months.

This only started bothering me last summer and it won't stop tormenting me. I never got her name and our conversation was hardly a conversation due to her extreme shyness.

Ive tried to find another girl but I can't get over that one. I hate having ocd

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

There's a girl from a few years ago that I saw every week for many months. We'd always smile and stare at each other. We only talked once and it was the last time I ever saw her because I never returned to the store at that time again for months.

This only started bothering me last summer and it won't stop tormenting me. I never got her name and our conversation was hardly a conversation due to her extreme shyness.

Go back to the store.

 

[Kramer]

Go back to the store.

I did later that year and from then on. She was gone.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

I did later that year and from then on. She was gone.

There are other women, though.

 

[Kramer]

There are other women, though.

I know. I think the mask mandate is why this obsession resurfaced. I no longer receive female validation. I hate that I'm dependent on it to function. Probably has something to do with the abuse from childhood by my mother.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

Go to a store without a mask, they'll see your face and you'll come off as a bad boy, and all women love bad boys.
Trust me on this.

 

[Kramer]

Go to a store without a mask, they'll see your face and you'll come off as a bad boy, and all women love bad boys.
Trust me on this.

I have a chronic cough that acts up randomly. It would be a disaster if I coughed throughout a store without a mask. Your idea has crossed my mind though.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

I have a chronic cough that acts up randomly. It would be a disaster if I coughed throughout a store without a mask. Your idea has crossed my mind though.

Have the mask in your pocket if you start feeling like coughing.

 

[Aap]

The fastest way to get over a missed opportunity is a not missed opportunity...of course you will always remember your George costanza "I don't want any coffee" moments...

 

[Kramer]

Have the mask in your pocket if you start feeling like coughing.

I should walk around the store taking huge breaths.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

I should walk around the store taking huge breaths.

You will definitely draw attention like that.
And there's no such thing as negative attention.

 

[Kramer]

The fastest way to get over a missed opportunity is a not missed opportunity...of course you will always remember your George costanza "I don't want any coffee" moments...

The pandemic ruined my opportunities. Anyway most of my opportunities fail a lot. The oneitis was pretty much a sure thing, but her shyness was so bad that she couldn't utter a word despite trying.

You will definitely draw attention like that.
And there's no such thing as negative attention.

Lol

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

The pandemic ruined my opportunities. Anyway most of my opportunities fail a lot. The oneitis was pretty much a sure thing, but her shyness was so bad that she couldn't utter a word despite trying.

Lol

Hm. Expect resident feminists to show up here any minute and call you a rapist and abuser for talking to a girl who did not talk back to you.

 

[sugar]

I kind of giggled at the advice of taking off your mask to look like a bad boy.
Yeah, risking catching/spreading a virus will make you seem really cool and drop panties left and right. \s

Anyway, I don't know you that well but you have many posts about your frustrations with dating and loneliness. In my opinion, getting help for your illness will put you in a better position to form stable relationships. It can be very frustrating, I understand.