Help How can I make it easier on my nephew?

[Sarahlynn]

I have a great and caring family that loves me, and I know they will struggle when I die. I am mostly concerned about my nephew though. He is 10, and the sweetest kid there is.

He has been through a lot of shit already in his short life, but some how turned out to be one of the most caring and loveliest person I have ever met, especially for his age.

I am so worried that me CTB'ing will be what finally messes him up.

Others who have close kids that will be affected, what can we do to minimize the damage inflicted on them?

 

[Ghost2211]

There is not much you can do. The loss will be hard on children. You could write him a letter expressing his value and how loved he is, but in the end it will effect him.

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

like RoseyBird said, it'll affect him no matter what you do. i think the best course of action would be to show him as much affection as possible, so that he knows you love him.

 

[bravotess]

Hopefully who ever tells him will say it was an accident. There's still a loss there but he won't feel like he should/could have done or said something to prevent it.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

Sadly it is hard to do much for one so young. He will be sad. The most you can do is trust those around him to help him through the grieving process.

 

[francisgone]

I have two of the sweetest boys you can wish for and have the same dilema. They have been the love and light of my life: they are the sweetest, bravest and most charming kids I could wish for and now I lost them. I miss their bright questions about life, their big curious eyes and I miss them fighting as well but I screwed up. I had to leave my home as my wife could not stand living with me and my online crap any more. She would explode in front of the kids and I could see their pain and sadness again and again exposed to so much wrath and adult life trash . I also have a step daughter whom I looked after since she is 3. She is now a brilliant and beautiful young woman and all her teachers are always telling me she is a natural born leader. They are all fun, gifted and smart but I made them suffer more than they deserve and I really feel it is time for me to go, let them walk free and had the same question as you do. To be honest I am still hesitating between going far away look for a job and help them from a remote location or finishing with my pain once and for all which at least will prove some true determination I lacked so much in my life. So here is what I thought. I will do my will next week and plan to write some letters for them. I think a lot about the messages I want to share with each one of them as 3 of them are really special. I want the messages to be meaningful, true, short and have an impact in their life. I also want this message to bring the image of a caring and loving dad I don t feel any more as I want them to feel loved. I think the real challenge for me now in putting this message together is explaining that stepping off my life has become the best way for me to show how much I love them. Finally I plan to put a picture of myself in case they want to carry it with them or tear it apart to make them feel a bit better.

 

[SoIntoYou]

I might be getting the wrong feeling here, but maybe like the day of or before you do it, you could sit down with him and explain everything you want to him.

 

[francisgone]

I might be getting the wrong feeling here, but maybe like the day of or before you do it, you could sit down with him and explain everything you want to him.

I am not allowed to see him and he does not want to see me anyways

 

[Cosmiq]

I think you just have to accept that you have no real control. My niece just turned 11, I have a keepsake to leave for her. I wanted to make a video telling how much she means to me, but I haven't been able to make it through a recording. So far, I'm thinking of just making small clips from apps until I ctb just have a compilation of sorts to help her remember me.

 

[Final Escape]

It would be nice if u could tell him but that might foil your plan. He might tell someone.