I would ideally prefer to just get rid of the part of my brain that craves social connection, schizoid-style (no offense to those who are suffering from the more extreme variants of schizoid personality disorder) or let's say, like monks and some neurodivergent individuals. Not rely on anything external for my internal peace, not depending on others for my satisfaction. But that is unrealistic (for now), so my best bet is to explore, get involved in public discussions about stuff I am interested in or that I closely identify with, but IDK- I'm struggling with the same, and fictional escapism is no longer very helpful, to say the least. At the same time, conversation with most people drains me, conversations about pointless and boring stuff, and so I do not have the liberty to be selective, but is that too much to ask for in this world with over 8 billion people?! I believe however that this luck-based phenomenon can be quantified and an algorithm developed to match individuals based on similarities, on every level, and a probability of them finding the company of the other fulfilling and enriching, but I currently lack the knowledge to find or develop any such thing, so just be yourself and put yourself out there and all those cliches, I guess. Best of luck!