How am I supposed to make friends as an adult or meet women?

[Weebster]

I tried school. The friends thing never lasted beyond a semester. Coworkers were always just acquaintances. College had the option of hookups but my ocd fixated on STDs and unwanted pregnancy so those hookups didn't happen.

I'm so miserable in my 30s.

 

[summers]

Join a group on facebook with people who share the same interests as you.

 

[kiuya]

There's dating apps for friends, you could try one of those. If you have a hobby or want to start a hobby that can be done as a group, you could also try to search for hobby groups to join. It's such an cliche thing to say someone who doesn't have any friends, but it helped me. Before I didn't have friends but when I joined a stamp collecting club I got some. Even though they all are like 60 years old.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

Same problems, i've been asking help for the last like 5 years to all kinds of social workers and stuff hoping they could at least point me somewhere young-ish people hangout and they either just give me a ''awwww what a fucking retard'' look or send me to play to a place for like, literal retard, not in a mean way, like, actually medically retarded. They proceed to get extremely angry when i dont want to make friend/date the random old retarded dudes constantly creeping on me.

 

[whatevs]

There's probably some problem with your personality, as I have said numerous times. Look at how people have reacted to what you wrote in the forum, at least one got banned as a result. You are less likable than average. From a fellow narc, with love.

The thing that's more exhausting about having some degree of NPD (or any other 'hurtful' or 'annoying' PD) is how you cannot ever be yourself fully for extended periods of time. Any time I stopped watching every step and being tense I would offend someone, act like a dick, show less empathy than is acceptable, etc. That's on top of feeling contempt for everyone as you get to know them better, even if you don't want to, even if you actually want to like people and don't want to focus on their flaws.

 

[TotallyIsolated]

I met most of my friends at a regular board games meetup. I don't even particularly like board games, but its a great way to socialize. People tend to break into small groups, which makes it far less intimidating. If you don't get along with the people you're playing with or if it just feels too much then you can just focus on the game and move on. But if you do find people who you click with then they'll hopefully be there next time and you can try to build up a rapport.

 

[MellowAvenue]

Work really isn't a place to look for friends. I know that sucks, especially if you work at a place that consumes a significant amount of your social time, but the odds of work friends becoming real friends is kinda rare. It's also possibly for the best because it makes it harder to separate your work life from your personal life (Speaking from some experience here). A shame your schooling never allowed you to find someone you would call a close friend though.

My suggestion would be looking for hangout spots, preferably physical locations but digital can work as well so long as you take precautions to make sure the people you're talking to are as they seem, that center around something you're interested in and try and find people to talk to. If they're there then presumably you have something to make initial conversation about and then kinda go from there.

 

[Symbiote]

Join like-minded people who share the same ideas or interests as you. I went to a Donald Trump rally once and left with a giant pickup truck, Let's Go Brandon flags, a cooler of Natty Lights, and half a brain.

 

[stellabelle]

I hate to be the person, but there's no such thing on this scummy planet. You'll be lucky to find even just ONE.

They're all the same. It's sad.

 

[whatevs]

Join like-minded people who share the same ideas or interests as you. I went to a Donald Trump rally once and left with a giant pickup truck, Let's Go Brandon flags, a cooler of Natty Lights, and half a brain.

Well, at least you aren´t an actual Brandon supporter, these must have like one tenth of a brain, I reckon.