Venting Horrible day at work. Venting but also open to suggestions.

[Jack_Nimble]

I quit my job today with no other job lined up. It's not my first time doing this by any means. I'll be fine in my career.

I quit due to bullying. A coworker threatened to vandalize my car last week. And bullied me yesterday. So today I told management about it. They talked to him about it and nothing more. So his response was to bully a very small woman at work about it. In her words she blew up on him twice in less than half the day. Told her it was her fault. That's more than enough to break my heart right there. But to make matters worse she acted like it's my fault and said if she got called into the office that she wouldn't say a word about what happened. Exactly how a bully wants their victim to behave. That broke my heart incredibly. I've worked in some very rough environments and never seen anything like that. Def has me considering suicide.

Obviously the bully will continue to escalate as the employer doesn't want to fire anyone. Since the mindset is to submit to the bully and not discuss what he's doing I can't continue to be employed there and be taken seriously. So I quit and when I got home I emailed HR to explain how he bullied a small woman who isn't willing to be honest about what happened to her.

I know I need a career change but can't hardly afford that now. My employer will likely ask me to come back, they usually do. Maybe on a different shift. But I have no intention to. I don't see how this could possibly work out.

I'm so sick of toxic people and those who suggest submitting to them just to shut them up. I'm so sick of employers acting like bullying is no big deal and not taking care of it.

I just wish I were dead so bad. I wish I were never born. I hate being alive. I was raised in a toxic family and seemed to be the only one to grow up being incapable of handling toxicity.

Thank goodness I have a career where I can walk away when shit goes south. But I'm also incredibly sick of this cycle and having to do so.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I think you made the right decision.

 

[Jack_Nimble]

Thanks

It was just so heartbreaking to see how he was willing to pick on such a small woman and how she was afraid to be honest about what happened. I feel so much for her and I know it's not my fault. But I also know ya can't help anyone unwilling to be helped.

 

[Trismegistus_13]

I'm not usually one to advise making decisions like this, but I absolutely think you did the right thing here. I'm really sorry that happened to you and that woman. That must be so frustrating. I really hope you don't feel guilty for that woman. That guy sounds awful!

 

[Jack_Nimble]

I'm not usually one to advise making decisions like this, but I absolutely think you did the right thing here. I'm really sorry that happened to you and that woman. That must be so frustrating. I really hope you don't feel guilty for that woman. That guy sounds awful!

Thank you. I was able to get over it in a couple of days. Thank goodness for me. It sucks for the woman, I do feel for her. But if she's not willing to be honest with HR about it there is nothing that can be done.

Fortunately I do have a small savings. And I am a welder so work is easy to find. And over the weekend I discovered door dash pay is actually not much less money really so I'm bringing in pay already and it buys time for me to really take my time in selecting another job or finding another career altogether. Not sure if other careers may have less toxic people than manufacturing or not idk.

But yeah, this dude has been fired from this company before.

Thanks again everyone for the support.