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Ghost2211
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- Jan 20, 2020
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Tell me the truth guys. Is this my fault, and if so to what degree. I won't argue it. I want perspective.
So my ex won't live together because I no longer have interest in building a relationship, and he says he can't be near me because he loves me too much to be near me under those conditions (friendship). We have exhausted separate housing options that would give the kids a good neighborhood. I said we could do therapy together to cohabitate in a healthy way, he says no. He is telling me to "just figure out how to support my own household", but even with child support I wouldn't have enough. He would rather us live in complete poverty rather than coexist because I won't give him what he wants, and in his mind this is logical and rational. I even said we could work in the direction of living apart, but right now it's not financially doable with 3 special needs kids.
Half the time he cries at me he still loves me and wants to fix it all and the other half he yells at me how he is homeless despite the fact he literally has a home here. Oh and best part today he told me he's been "friends" with the girl he cheated with and left me for since summer, and didn't tell me they were in contact. He justified this saying he didn't feel this was relevant since they were just friends, and he didn't do anything wrong. I told him I had enough of the lies by omission and deception.
He's not taking responsibility for this housing problem since it's "both of our fault" that HE is being selfish and rigid, and unwilling to coexist for the children's wellbeing despite the fact that I would. He says it's partially my fault because I only want to be friends, so he's just reacting to the problem I caused.
So my ex won't live together because I no longer have interest in building a relationship, and he says he can't be near me because he loves me too much to be near me under those conditions (friendship). We have exhausted separate housing options that would give the kids a good neighborhood. I said we could do therapy together to cohabitate in a healthy way, he says no. He is telling me to "just figure out how to support my own household", but even with child support I wouldn't have enough. He would rather us live in complete poverty rather than coexist because I won't give him what he wants, and in his mind this is logical and rational. I even said we could work in the direction of living apart, but right now it's not financially doable with 3 special needs kids.
Half the time he cries at me he still loves me and wants to fix it all and the other half he yells at me how he is homeless despite the fact he literally has a home here. Oh and best part today he told me he's been "friends" with the girl he cheated with and left me for since summer, and didn't tell me they were in contact. He justified this saying he didn't feel this was relevant since they were just friends, and he didn't do anything wrong. I told him I had enough of the lies by omission and deception.
He's not taking responsibility for this housing problem since it's "both of our fault" that HE is being selfish and rigid, and unwilling to coexist for the children's wellbeing despite the fact that I would. He says it's partially my fault because I only want to be friends, so he's just reacting to the problem I caused.
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