ryaan
Member
- Jun 20, 2021
- 15
whenever i talk about my feelings the people in my life suggest i just need medication or a change of scenery. but i honestly do not think the issue is me at all, it is the world and how cruel others can be.
my last relationship ended and my partner at the time said i was not confident anymore because i started to become quiet and sad about the things she would say about me. she told me she had suffered brain damage as a child and i don't know if that was why she was so mean sometimes but it really harmed me to have the person i trusted commenting on how i look or act. she would yell at me and she made comments about my body not being sexually functional. i finally told her she upset me and she ended things because she "was not able to take feedback about her behaviour because it made her feel bad". she said my lack of confidence was a turn-off. it has been really hard because i know she was mean and i don't understand why she couldn't just treat me with kindness. it made me feel unlovable and i have since spiralled into a need to disappear.
the woman i dated prior to her sexually abused me while i recovered from surgery and created a very intense emotional bond, and i cannot escape seeing her everywhere in my city because she is now on one of the biggest TV shows of this year. there is a billboard with her face on it at the end of my street. i have talked to everyone in my life about it and they always say things like "you're twice her size she couldn't have hurt you" or "you loved her, you need to get over it." i feel like my future was stolen from me and no one takes it seriously. i have been off work for over a year now in therapy for sexual trauma and it is not getting easier, while she is free with no consequences to her actions, making millions of dollars. i was not sober for weeks straight and she was basically my nurse giving me percocet while touching me. i honestly thought i loved her until the drugs wore off and i was constantly ill from withdrawl.
i don't think i will ever be able to accept when people hurt me, and it makes me feel so sad and stupid and used and i don't want to feel this way anymore, it is a cycle i cannot escape. i don't know why i choose to stay with people who make me feel impossible to love. i always try and fix things when they are broken and i didn't do the breaking.
i am at a point where i am unwilling to continue because i'm starting to associate love with being abused. i think i am incapable of being enough for anyone - even if i am enough for myself. i've done all the things i wanted to do before i died, many of them with my last partner. but it feels hollow when i do anything alone and don't have someone to share my happiness and amazement of the world with.
i feel like there is something wrong with me because when someone is mean to me i think i am the problem, instead of accepting that they are hurting me. i beg for forgiveness from people who have done horrible things to me and i don't know why.
i feel suffocated and trapped here, i am trying to find a way out even if i don't take it. it would just be a relief to be able to leave on my own terms if things get as bad as they have been before, which i think is where my life is heading.
my last relationship ended and my partner at the time said i was not confident anymore because i started to become quiet and sad about the things she would say about me. she told me she had suffered brain damage as a child and i don't know if that was why she was so mean sometimes but it really harmed me to have the person i trusted commenting on how i look or act. she would yell at me and she made comments about my body not being sexually functional. i finally told her she upset me and she ended things because she "was not able to take feedback about her behaviour because it made her feel bad". she said my lack of confidence was a turn-off. it has been really hard because i know she was mean and i don't understand why she couldn't just treat me with kindness. it made me feel unlovable and i have since spiralled into a need to disappear.
the woman i dated prior to her sexually abused me while i recovered from surgery and created a very intense emotional bond, and i cannot escape seeing her everywhere in my city because she is now on one of the biggest TV shows of this year. there is a billboard with her face on it at the end of my street. i have talked to everyone in my life about it and they always say things like "you're twice her size she couldn't have hurt you" or "you loved her, you need to get over it." i feel like my future was stolen from me and no one takes it seriously. i have been off work for over a year now in therapy for sexual trauma and it is not getting easier, while she is free with no consequences to her actions, making millions of dollars. i was not sober for weeks straight and she was basically my nurse giving me percocet while touching me. i honestly thought i loved her until the drugs wore off and i was constantly ill from withdrawl.
i don't think i will ever be able to accept when people hurt me, and it makes me feel so sad and stupid and used and i don't want to feel this way anymore, it is a cycle i cannot escape. i don't know why i choose to stay with people who make me feel impossible to love. i always try and fix things when they are broken and i didn't do the breaking.
i am at a point where i am unwilling to continue because i'm starting to associate love with being abused. i think i am incapable of being enough for anyone - even if i am enough for myself. i've done all the things i wanted to do before i died, many of them with my last partner. but it feels hollow when i do anything alone and don't have someone to share my happiness and amazement of the world with.
i feel like there is something wrong with me because when someone is mean to me i think i am the problem, instead of accepting that they are hurting me. i beg for forgiveness from people who have done horrible things to me and i don't know why.
i feel suffocated and trapped here, i am trying to find a way out even if i don't take it. it would just be a relief to be able to leave on my own terms if things get as bad as they have been before, which i think is where my life is heading.