A
arnd
Member
- Nov 14, 2021
- 12
Hello this is what I have so far for one of the notes I am planning to leave.
I have a couple questions:
I am not sure if putting "my decision was made for me the moment isolation began again and long before we last spoke" or something along those lines. Feels like that would help with relieving them from any responsibility. Maybe it comes across as bitching and pouting or maybe just wouldnt make much sense to them tho idk.
Also I wanted to know if should I switch the orders of paragraphs 3 & 4.
Also if there is anything else I could add to soften the blow or at least delay it. When I tried to speak of this in the past irl or just death related stuff it made them a bit uncomfortable.
And finally, should I let them know I don't want them to "engage" with the next of kin that will be handling my remains? It is a part of my life that has meant nothing but pain and I do not want to put them through that. I know it is something that is ultimately outside of one's control, but just want to know what you guys think.
Sorry if some things dont make much sense
Appreciate the help
I have a couple questions:
I am not sure if putting "my decision was made for me the moment isolation began again and long before we last spoke" or something along those lines. Feels like that would help with relieving them from any responsibility. Maybe it comes across as bitching and pouting or maybe just wouldnt make much sense to them tho idk.
Also I wanted to know if should I switch the orders of paragraphs 3 & 4.
Also if there is anything else I could add to soften the blow or at least delay it. When I tried to speak of this in the past irl or just death related stuff it made them a bit uncomfortable.
And finally, should I let them know I don't want them to "engage" with the next of kin that will be handling my remains? It is a part of my life that has meant nothing but pain and I do not want to put them through that. I know it is something that is ultimately outside of one's control, but just want to know what you guys think.
Sorry if some things dont make much sense
Appreciate the help