Venting Having a girlfriend doesn't help me at all

[zdeweilx]

Having a girlfriend doesn't help me getting rid of my bad thoughts at all

It doesn't make me feel any better and there are even times when i wish i was completely alone

Is it normal to feel that way because of depression or am i completely done for ?

I believe the only thing that could help me would be to become unemployed but then after some time i would feel bad being unemployed and it would become an endless loop.

 

[vyvanceandvodka]

Totally normal to feel that way with depression. I haven't dated in 3 years but I struggled with those thoughts when I was dating. I had feelings for her but I just wanted to rot in bed and not go out.

If you can help it, don't become unemployed. I've been unemployed for so long and I'm having a hard time getting out of it. :( Depressed with limited money is not the way to go.

 

[truehappiness]

Having a girlfriend doesn't help me getting rid of my bad thoughts at all

It doesn't make me feel any better and there are even times when i wish i was completely alone

Is it normal to feel that way because of depression or am i completely done for ?

I believe the only thing that could help me would be to become unemployed but then after some time i would feel bad being unemployed and it would become an endless loop.

Yup that is to be expected with depression.
Nothing will get you that kick that you desire ^^'
You need your brain to work normally again in regards to brain chemicals

 

[whywere]

This is just my thoughts and opinions, but darn depression does not care at all.

Having someone else, though, is very important as having another soul around helps to keep a person knowing that they are not alone and that another soul cares about them.

I have massive depression and no one and it hurts like hell sometimes and I really do think that having another person.

NO, you are NOT done for, never ever. nope!

Hugs to you and go watch a beautiful sunset with your loved one, just so special.

Walter

 

[hurb]

I mean maybe it s a boundary thing. Maybe u just need more time alone and be open to them about it.
Honestly i experienced smthg like before but my conclusion was that i wasnt in love with the person i was with at the time Thats why i wanted to be alone.
But i feel like if i was in love with them taking time to explain to them the situation would help in the bigger scheme of things

 

[MyUniqueUsername]

Yup that is to be expected with depression.
Nothing will get you that kick that you desire ^^'
You need your brain to work normally again in regards to brain chemicals

BTW there is actually no proof whatsoever that depression is a result of a chemical imbalance, literally 0.
Hence all these stupid drugs are an ridiculous joke.

 

[truehappiness]

BTW there is actually no proof whatsoever that depression is a result of a chemical imbalance, literally 0.
Hence all these stupid drugs are an ridiculous joke.

Ohhhhh! TIL
I did not knew that.
So it is more because of physical changes in your brain and traumatic experiences.
That is interesting! But also gives me even less hope of a "cure" tbh ^^'

 

[MyUniqueUsername]

Ohhhhh! TIL
I did not knew that.
So it is more because of physical changes in your brain and traumatic experiences.
That is interesting! But also gives me even less hope of a "cure" tbh ^^'

Yeah it's sick how no medical professional will tell you this. They all still act like it is, giving people pills to fix something that's not even the issue, scientifically proven lmao

 

[Charmander07]

Having a girlfriend doesn't help me getting rid of my bad thoughts at all

It doesn't make me feel any better and there are even times when i wish i was completely alone

Is it normal to feel that way because of depression or am i completely done for ?

I believe the only thing that could help me would be to become unemployed but then after some time i would feel bad being unemployed and it would become an endless loop.

Honestly, I think that's very normal and obviously I don't know your relationship but if it's a toxic relationship of course it will have a toll on you.

When I was with my toxic ex, I used to feel so demotivated and tbh it wasn't rlly her fault directly, but it never made me feel better being with her, especially when she would be mean to me and stuff. Even now, I'm with someone else, she's really nice and definitely not a toxic person thankfully, but ofc you're gonna feel down and everyone wants alone time. I do too, you're not alone! As long as you make it clear to your partner the way you feel, and as long as your partner isn't toxic, I'm sure you can work things out to make you feel better. Sorry if I've misunderstood what you've said, I hope you can be happy soon

 

[aufrechtm7]

BTW there is actually no proof whatsoever that depression is a result of a chemical imbalance, literally 0.
Hence all these stupid drugs are an ridiculous joke.

This isn't true, yeah medications aren't for everyone but they're proven to be effective for a lot of people. If you don't want to take them, you shouldn't be forced to though.

As for the original post, yeah it's normal. It might help to mask it, but having a romantic partner isn't a real cure.

 

[MyUniqueUsername]

This isn't true, yeah medications aren't for everyone but they're proven to be effective for a lot of people. If you don't want to take them, you shouldn't be forced to though.

As for the original post, yeah it's normal. It might help to mask it, but having a romantic partner isn't a real cure.

It's still true, they try to fix a chemical imbalance with these. They make your serotonin etc. concentrations higher, meanwhile it's proven that depression isn't result of these chemicals being in too low concentrations. So it's stupid.

But of course drugs will help you to feel better, same as Heroin, you definitely won't be depressed while your high. But is that real, did that fix anything or are you just high now, numb...

 

[Spite]

I'm married to my wife and I'm still clinically depressed and dread existence. It makes me feel horrible sometimes. I hate having depression.

 

[TwistedNightmares]

I have a partner. I also haven't worked a single day in my life, and I still suffer from severe depression. From personal experience, being unemployed does not help me at all.

 

[Proceed]

I'm the same way.

 

[DeadManLiving]

Depends on your patience and temperament, but it helps.

 

[kovinskin]

Having a girlfriend doesn't help me getting rid of my bad thoughts at all

It doesn't make me feel any better and there are even times when i wish i was completely alone

Is it normal to feel that way because of depression or am i completely done for ?

I believe the only thing that could help me would be to become unemployed but then after some time i would feel bad being unemployed and it would become an endless loop.

dude i feel exactly the same. my boyfriends great but im often wishing i was left completely alone and nothing he does could make me feel better in the long run.