Have you ever fell in love with anybody just by looking at them?

[FoxSauce]

This is gonna be the weirdest thing I have ever asked but for some context.

If your confused then bear with me.

Sometimes I would look at people and have the annoying thought yeah they like me (not in a narcissistic way) but its pretty unsettling

Also i have fallen in love with people right away with just being nice to me, I mean to the point that I wanna know everything about them or be with them all times

No I haven't like acted on those stuff I try not to cuz yeah its creppy.

I just wanted to know of im not the only one it also happens with freinds and relatives.

Depending I have no idea how to explain this if ya have any doubts idk ask.

 

[The_Hunter]

'Love at first sight' is a very real thing, my friend ;)

You're not creepy for feeling like that. I promise you this is normal and natural.

Sometimes people fall in love with people after knowing them for a bit, sometimes immediately; it all differs, and it's all okay.

It's okay to like people when you meet them (even romantically!) and want to get to know them better. I'll be honest. I am sure that a person like you who concerns for morality this carefully is highly unlikely to come off as creepy, because of how much you care for the rights of people. You're not immoral for feeling this :) you're allowed to love people in any way you feel fair, romantically, platonically, aesthetically, emotionally; everything's fair.

Different types of attractions (romance is just 1 out of nearly 6!)

Please allow yourself to feel this, and yes, it's okay to want to talk to people you really like more. Please take care, friend! I hope such people you admire become good acquaintances or friends of yours, even if you don't end up being in any relationships with them. (And that's okay too! Good friends are good friends :D)

 

[Crow_88]

I've had that happen. Where we both fell in love with each other on first sight. This was years and years ago. But I can confirm that it is indeed a real phenomenon. Her name was Celine.

 

[FoxSauce]

Wow I didn't knew this! I thought I was some obsessed creep

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I don't think so. I see attractive people and think, I hope they are happy. I think more for women cuz as a guy, I know we can be dicks.
I think cuz I'm ugly I don't deserve to be happy. I know it's stupid.
I try not to be creepy... I don't think it's working.

 

[FoxSauce]

Everyone deserves to be happy.

I don't think so. I see attractive people and think, I hope they are happy. I think more for women cuz as a guy, I know we can be dicks.
I think cuz I'm ugly I don't deserve to be happy. I know it's stupid.
I try not to be creepy... I don't think it's working.

No no I won't fr.

Ik how it feels and I dont want that

Everyone deserves to be happy!

Even you!
Love is difficult and I can speak of that since I havent been on a relationship myself I can't say much but it's not completely impossible

 

[The_Hunter]

Guide to attraction types! These are various ways you may feel attracted towards another person. Maybe you will feel things that aren't neatly categorized in these, and that's okay. I think this is meant as a general guideline. It really can help you validate your positive feelings towards other people. (Perhaps through realizing they're not romantic/sexual!)

Attraction - There are many different types of attraction, including:

• Sexual attraction: attraction that makes people desire sexual contact or shows sexual interest in another person(s).
• Romantic attraction: attraction that makes people desire romantic contact or interaction with another person or persons.
• Aesthetic attraction: occurs when someone appreciates the appearance or beauty of another person(s), disconnected from sexual or romantic attraction.
• Sensual attraction: the desire to interact with others in a tactile, non-sexual way, such as through hugging or cuddling.
• Emotional attraction: the desire to get to know someone, often as a result of their personality instead of their physicality. This type of attraction is present in most relationships from platonic friendships to romantic and sexual relationships.
• Intellectual attraction: the desire to engage with another in an intellectual manner, such as engaging in conversation with them, "picking their brain," and it has more to do with what or how a person thinks instead of the person themselves.

From here: https://lgbtq.unc.edu/resources/exploring-identities/asexuality-attraction-and-romantic-orientation/

My own examples:

• Sexual attraction:
  • NOTE: often involuntary. try not to feel guilted by having it! XD (muuch easier said that done)
  • "I think that person is kind of hot. I feel aroused by their presence and/or visage. I wouldn't mind engaging in intercourse with them."
  • NOTE: Can easily differ from time to time. You can also find someone super attractive and be uncomfortable in their presence, only to grow used to it later and be able to function normally when they're around. If you feel overwhelmed by it then don't worry! it can get better :)
• Romantic attraction:
  • (The hardest to define. Everyone has their own definition of it. You should seriously think about this yourself and think about all the crushes in the past and decide whether a certain person makes you feel the same way that previous crushes in the past made you feel.
  • Here is my personal definition! (yours may be different! please don't take this as a strict definition, hah) (Hopefully this helps you form your own definition of romance.)
    • "I love the way this person exists. I want my life and this person's life to be intertwined, I want my existence to be intertwined with this person's existence; I feel a spark with them that connects the most essential parts of our being and creates a special kind of solace that absolutely envelops me. My entire life has been splashed with color through this person."
    • I would actually say suicidal ideation and romance—both of these emotions—interact in a fascinating way.
      • Some reflections on my own experience. Does thinking of this person you love often completely overwrite suicidal thoughts? Do you find yourself deeply wanting for them and deeply wanting for death back to back, almost like a pendulum? Do you find that the mere thought of them comforts you deeply, and you almost seek solace in their memory, as if you're instilling an image of them within yourself? Maybe I am just rambling about my experience. But perhaps these might be signs of romantic attraction.
• Aesthetic attraction:
  • "God, that person's style is so wonderful. I like the colors in their look. It somewhat reminds me of the feeling I get from witnessing a painting or beautiful landscape."
• Sensual attraction:
  • "I wish I could cuddle this person or sit close to them. I feel comforted by their physical presence. I want to hold this person's hand or sit right next to them."
• Emotional attraction:
  • "I love this person's personality and how they express themselves. I like their expression and quirks."
• Intellectual attraction:
  • "I really enjoy interfacing with this person's mind. I love the way they think and use language."

Hope this helps. Best of luck with understanding your emotions :)

 

[FoxSauce]

Thqnk you this helps a lot! Some point are very true!

 

[The_Hunter]

Wow I didn't knew this! I thought I was some obsessed creep

i'm a creeep... i'm a weeeirrdoo..... what the hell am i doing here... i don't beloong here...

 

[FoxSauce]

i'm a creeep... i'm a weeeirrdoo..... what the hell am i doing here... i don't beloong here...

Lmao

 

[The_Hunter]

Side note: Listening to Radiohead's music has genuinely helped me feel a fair bit better about romance, and the unapologetic lyrics and deep instrumentals have been seriously healing for me at parts. I would dare say that Creep is only one touch of what Radiohead's capable of exploring into these themes. Nude and All I Need just put it so poetically. It's... weird music, indeed. I think it helps you process those complex emotions better. It also lets you know that you aren't alone in these feelings and lets you live in reality with these very real emotions. I think that is a good thing. It's okay to feel this and the more we understand it the better.

And also, this is what Thom Yorke himself says on his emotional turbulence relating to sexuality.

I feel tremendous guilt for any sexual feelings I have, so I end up spending my entire life feeling sorry for fancying somebody. Even in school I thought girls were so wonderful that I was scared to death of them. I masturbate a lot. That's how I deal with it.

Should we aspire to this? God no. But I feel noting this is useful because it addresses that you're not alone in struggling with how to deal with this complex & serious emotionally visceral matter of sexuality.

My best wishes to you in navigating this complex matter. If you have any thoughts on this, feel free to write to me anytime. It's a fascinating subject psychologically & philosophically, and certainly up my alley of interests to analyze. Thank you for making this thread. It's very fascinating indeed! Please take care of yourself.

 

[FoxSauce]

Ofc Tbh i didnt knew stuff like this existed. I thought love at first sight is total bs

But you give reslly good points!
I reading this and its true

I not worried about the love facts

im more worried when to draw the line mostly to obsessive over love
the line is so thin it can be crossed.

anyways Feel free
To post anything on hearts content!

 

[The_Hunter]

Ofc Tbh i didnt knew stuff like this existed. I thought love at first sight is total bs

Hah, fair. It's rather... ROMANTICIZED if I may dare say...
But the cliche is indeed based off of a grain of reality! But the denial of it is just as iffy, hah.

But you give reslly good points!
I reading this and its true
I not worried about the love facts

Glad you found it informative :D! It was quite the revelation to me ^^

im more worried when to draw the line mostly to obsessive over love
the line is so thin it can be crossed.

Falling in love can be a great way to help you feel more connected with what you idealize and admire about people and yourself in general too. Falling in love can be a great exercise even just for yourself, even if you never even are able to connect with the person. Love for yourself because it adds color to your life <3 and I think that's a good reason too. As well as loving because a person is just so damn wonderful.

anyways Feel free
To post anything on hearts content!

you as well :) thank you for reading

 

[moya117]

i personally think that love at first sight CAN be happen AND I HONESTLY THINK ITS SO CUTE, but some ppl (at least in my environment) confuse love with lust with romanticized idealization of the other person (i dont know the right term lol)

but me sadly and fortunately have never fell in love at first sight

 

[SVEN]

i'm a creeep... i'm a weeeirrdoo..... what the hell am i doing here... i don't beloong here...

If you are, altogether now ... "Oh, yes you do !"