Discussion Has anyone talked about suicide to their family/ experienced being talked to about it? How did it go?

[hohohohotdog]

I'm just curious to know if anyone here has talked about committing suicide to their family members, or has experienced a member talking about it to you yourself, and how did it go?

To be honest, I don't want to die, but since I've started going to college, each day it just feels like that's the only logical option left to do after being burnt out for so long and feeling depressed. I want to talk to my mom about it, but I'm afraid she'll gossip to other people, plus she's the type that doesn't believe in stuff like mental illnesses (she's the typical asian parent + christian), but sometimes she can be understanding. Though, then again, things could go wrong and I get yelled at by my entire family or worse. Anyways.

I just want to see how other people's experiences went with something like this, and if I should make this decision to talk about it or not.

 

[Kyotospade]

I was told that it was selfish to end your life ...

 

[areyousafe??]

What are you hoping to achieve in talking to your family about it?

I personally have never spoken to my family about anything related to my mental health. They know that I have depression and that I regularly see a psychiatrist and psychologist, and that I have been in hospital for suicidal ideation before. My mum is also a typical Asian parent and there is a stigma attached to mental illness. Whenever I talk about anything sad, she just tells me to stop thinking about it, and move on. She is also overbearingly controlling and anxious, so I don't want to broach the topic with her.

I'm always reluctant to talk to people irl about suicide due to fear of a negative reaction.

 

[Darkover]

What are you hoping to achieve in talking to your family about it?

some acceptance and closure
Recognizing the reality of what happening, even if it's painful.

 

[banger12]

At times I've hinted about it over the past year and sometimes expressed hopeless feelings and it never goes well so I bite my tongue nowadays

 

[divinemistress36]

Ya to my mom but she doesnt believe me

 

[loneloser]

They didn't care. I've told them multiple times now. At least every person in my family has told me to go through with it (My SI) or just have directly told me to "Kill yourself"...

 

[Boots2Scoots]

My family gets visibly distraught if I so much as make a joke about it let alone if I tried to have a real conversation regarding CTB. My dad and sister both bawled their eyes out when I tried to have a real talk about my feelings regarding living. I only have 1 person close to me that I have ever been able to level with about it and he ironically enough, is one of the main reasons I stay around. He's the only one I know with a brain as mucked up as my own

 

[heyhellohai9281624]

When I tried to have a conversation about it with my parents, they would be in denial.

When I attempted they were still in denial. My parents were never understanding and they still don't take mental health issues seriously

My sister always understood and emphasized me, she knew exactly how it feels to go through what I went through. She went through similar things and she wasn't mad at me ever for thinking that way, she just tried to find ways to support me better.

I've tried to achieve to be understood that I don't think I wanna die, I just want to be at peace.

I hope you find someone you can talk to about these types of things !

 

[hohohohotdog]

What are you hoping to achieve in talking to your family about it?

im not entirely sure myself. But if I do die, I just dont want them to go "boohoo, I wish I could've done something to help them" when they had an opportunity to.

and yeah, I understand the feeling of a strict and controlling parent too. I'll never understand why they lack the empathy for these types of topics :/

 

[NonEssential]

I've been rather fortunate. My mom understands it because she knows how depressing my lifestyle is. My dad understands because he was hospitalized when he was a teen after a suicide attempt. My sister understands because she's most likely suicidal as well.

 

[depressed-pos]

this has completely been my own personal experience, but my family has come a long ways in understanding mental health because of what i've gone through. i started showing depression symptoms in 5th grade and started treatment not long after that, since then i have had attempts of CTB and they seem to now understand it's not my choice to feel this way. they really try to come at me with compassion most of the time, but i recognize they don't (and might never) understand. there's times where it is definitely really hard for everyone involved and it can absolutely be awkward, but we all try our best to attempt to understand each other and i think that just has to be enough in my situation. if talking to them even has a chance of relieving some of your suffering, i think it's def worth the risk. most of the time the people closest to us really do want to help us, even if they may not know how. i wish you nothing but the best *hugs* <3

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I never talked directly about suicide with my closest relatives (mom/wife). With my mom it once happened a long time ago when I was there and everything went wrong. I had a breakdown and just said I'm gonna kms. Well, that ended up in my mom being anxious and nervous about me and my life all the time even though I wasn't actively suicidal. A few years later there was a situation with my wife and I told her I should have kms years ago and I would like to be dead - all she had to say was: "You need a doctor!"

Well, that's it. It's better not to talk about that with anyone (except SaSu family!) bc people who are not walking in your shoes can never understand the pain and agony that makes people suicidal.

 

[Tombs_in_your_eyes]

my mom has always understood. She has said in the past that if things got too painful and death was genuinely the only way out, that she would do what she could to help me.

Apparently about a decade ago I even told her about the need for anti-emetics in certain methods, and so when she was prescribed some anti-emetics, she saved the ones she didn't take somewhere safe. She kept them there for 5-6 years plus while I wasn't suicidal, without mentioning anything to me, and then once she was diagnosed with a terminal illness and I started talking about suicide again, she showed me where they were.

Turns out they weren't anti emetics but just standard acid blockers hahah but I love her so much. To infinity and back. Losing her love when she dies is why I'm dying. I will never experience love even 5% that wonderful ever again.

 

[-nobodyknows-]

My relationship with my family was ruined when they found out that I had tried to attempt suicide. I tried to explain things to them, to tell them why I felt the way I did, but they could never understand it. The way they looked at me, they way they talked to me… it all changed. I don't think I will ever be able to see them the way I did before they knew I had these sorts of problems

 

[FailerQt.]

I talked about it with my mom about two and half years ago and her reply is the biggest reason why I am so hesitant. The reply was that I wouldn't be the only one dying, she'd go "with me". She couldn't bear the pain of losing her only daughter she has and everything she currently has/does would become pointless.
Sometimes I think it would be better if I still did it and "took her with me" as I see how much she's suffering, how much she's struggling every day. It's as if the bad karma or luck is in the whole family.

 

[ringo99]

Confided to my mother. Stupidest thing I ever did. She told me to work out on a treadmill for a few days and then went to an astrologer to consult whether I would really ctb. Predictably to ease her mind he lied and said no. Not a trained psychologist or therapist mind you. An astrologer. The most humiliating part was that she outed me in front of my relatives. I literally wanted to die of a heart attack right then and there. I'm NEVER telling another family member or relative how I truly feel ever again. They only exist to cause you more pain in your moment of greatest vulnerability.

 

[The_Hunter]

When I tried to have a conversation about it with my parents, they would be in denial.
When I attempted they were still in denial. My parents were never understanding and they still don't take mental health issues seriously
My sister always understood and emphasized me, she knew exactly how it feels to go through what I went through. She went through similar things and she wasn't mad at me ever for thinking that way, she just tried to find ways to support me better.
I've tried to achieve to be understood that I don't think I wanna die, I just want to be at peace.
I hope you find someone you can talk to about these types of things !

I'm really glad you have someone like your sister to confide in & be there for you through all this it truly is a wonderful thing

I also second it that confiding with a proper person on these things, who knows suicidality firsthand--especially talking in person!--is very very cathartic, and I truly hope everyone is able to experience a heart-to-heart relief like that :)

 

[iamnotalive]

When I told my parents they told me I was selfish and that it was wrong of me to put this burden on them.

 

[BlueButterfly111]

I had opened up to my mom about it 6 years ago when I was 16. It was when I was feeling very suicidal for the first time. I told her how depressed I felt, and at first she gave me a hug and asked if I needed to go to a counselor. She did end up taking me to a counselor. But then for like a week after that she would barely talk to me and was acting really distant. I think she was resentful because she felt she did her best to raise me on her own, and like I had no reason to be depressed.

After that, any time I would open up to her about depression she would get angry, so I didn't talk about it anymore. She hasn't really been supportive of me for the last few years though, ever since she met her now husband. She wasn't even there for me when my boyfriend passed away almost 7 months ago. But anyways sorry to go into a vent. I just wanted to share what happened with me. I don't have any advice, I'm sorry.

 

[slightoverlooked]

i have a failed attempt which landed me in the ER and then psych ward and yea they were very sad but after i left the facility they acted like im healed. sometimes i tell my mom that im gonna do it one day but then she either cries or tells me that she doesnt even know what to do anymore...which me wanting to ctb doesnt have anything to do with her but she doesnt get it. one time when i wanted to jump in front of the train she caught me half way and dragged me back to our house. she cried and said shes gonna khs too.. now i still mention it occasionally but she just always sighs. i feel like they dont take me serious. but i think shes serious abt khs when i do it and thats one of the reasons why im still here. i have 3 siblings she would leave them bc of me and i cant bear that thought.
also, when my cat got lost i cried so hard and said that i spent sm vet money on her and that i tried to give her the best life and that i want to die bc i felt like i failed as a mother...well well well...she told me with tears in her eyes: "see thats how i feel. i carried you in my stomach and worked so hard. i tried to show you how much i love you and hearing you wanting to die makes me want to die too. cuz it makes me feel like its my fault and that i failed you."
yea idk. still think they dont take me serious and it makes me want to die more bc i hate not being taken seriously

 

[SadFoxDreamer83]

I'm just curious to know if anyone here has talked about committing suicide to their family members, or has experienced a member talking about it to you yourself, and how did it go?

To be honest, I don't want to die, but since I've started going to college, each day it just feels like that's the only logical option left to do after being burnt out for so long and feeling depressed. I want to talk to my mom about it, but I'm afraid she'll gossip to other people, plus she's the type that doesn't believe in stuff like mental illnesses (she's the typical asian parent + christian), but sometimes she can be understanding. Though, then again, things could go wrong and I get yelled at by my entire family or worse. Anyways.

I just want to see how other people's experiences went with something like this, and if I should make this decision to talk about it or not.

I have been telling my parents since 2020 that I am about to commit suicide because I am not able to find a way to earn money or get far away from this cursed pit, not only is it useless to talk to them but they also laugh at me, insult me and threaten to lock me up in a psychiatric hospital or even throw me out on the street and become homeless. I think that if you have parents who love you you should talk to them, but if they are parents who have always hated, abused and despised you then it is better not to tell them anything about it, not even a suicide note.

 

[J&L383]

Never have. Want to. But how to break the ice? It seems like once the ice is broken, it shatters into a million pieces. I haven't figured out how to melt the ice instead.