Has anyone else been betrayed by someone who said that they loved you?

[strangemagic]

I'm going through the worst situation right now. I don't know how ill ever trust anyone again if I stay alive.

 

[motel rooms]

Yes. It's not exactly a rare problem

 

[ryaan]

yes, my partner i was planning a future with lied to me. i got weird vibes after a few months and noticed she had updated her profile on the dating app we met on while we were together. she called me paranoid and insecure, shifted the blame when she was caught.

my relationship before that was sexually abusive with someone who is now famous on a huge teen tv show and i cannot escape seeing her online. it took a long time to see what she did as sexual assault because i am a man and she is an attractive and successful woman but it caused so much physical and emotional damage.

before that, my long-term partner cheated on me and lied to my face as i supported her financially.

i am giving up, i don't even try and date really, i just seem to attract people who lie. i'm tired of being caught in a cycle of women who chase me only to do terrible things to me as soon as i come around and develop feelings in return. it's like people are bored and need validation and don't actually want love. i'm not going to trust anyone again.

 

[Rayzieka]

I could go on and on about partners who've done this. But if I really look deep into what's gone wrong in my early life I'd have to say it was learning my stepdad didn't love me and was only pretending he cared to get to my mother. As soon as his own children were born he turned on me. It hurt more than anything but I guess I pushed it down so far I hardly think about it. He went from taking me in as his own to threatening to kill me almost once a week or maybe more. What hurts even further is he would deny it if confronted. Maybe he forgot and repressed the memories of his actions but they're still clinging to me.

 

[Lolkillme]

Yes. Currently going through this. I'll never trust again. And honestly, I had problems before this but it just makes it so much worse

 

[WFJ74]

God yes. I wish I could talk about it here.

 

[The Lonely]

 

[strangemagic]

Yes. Currently going through this. I'll never trust again. And honestly, I had problems before this but it just makes it so much worse

I had so many problems before this too. This person promised to look after me and love me. He threw me away like I was nothing then slept with someone else not even 2 weeks after me trying to kill myself. He said he wanted to help with my mental health but In turn only made it so much worse

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

Yes. I only feel love for sad animals and people really sad. It bothers me to have to tell people I love them when I don't.

It really hurts to be thrown away by someone. I'm sorry you're really struggling. If you don't kill yourself maybe meds would help if you could get some good ones to feel calmer on.

 

[ElizabethsFault]

Only my entire family

 

[FailureGirl]

Yes he seid he loved me and wanted to marry me but he was just using me and emotionally abusing me and physical abuse in the end.
I'll always hate him and even though iv dated great guys since then I cannot put myself into a relationship emotionally like I could before.

 

[Largeletters]

yes, my partner i was planning a future with lied to me. i got weird vibes after a few months and noticed she had updated her profile on the dating app we met on while we were together. she called me paranoid and insecure, shifted the blame when she was caught.

my relationship before that was sexually abusive with someone who is now famous on a huge teen tv show and i cannot escape seeing her online. it took a long time to see what she did as sexual assault because i am a man and she is an attractive and successful woman but it caused so much physical and emotional damage.

before that, my long-term partner cheated on me and lied to my face as i supported her financially.

i am giving up, i don't even try and date really, i just seem to attract people who lie. i'm tired of being caught in a cycle of women who chase me only to do terrible things to me as soon as i come around and develop feelings in return. it's like people are bored and need validation and don't actually want love. i'm not going to trust anyone again.

I'm really sorry you've had to go through all this. It all sounds very painful. I wish there was more I could say, but I really empathize with you.

 

[Taki]

Betrayed yes, told by someone that they loved me no. Lol.

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

My only two relationships before my current one involved being groomed by someone nearly 10 years my elder, then being taken advantage of by yet another older man once I had escaped the initial trap my ex left me ensnared in.

My boyfriend promised me things would be different. In some ways, they have been. I don't get physically abused to satisfy a petulant person's sick fetishes anymore, but I do get constant battering of my self esteem.

My boyfriend promised he would stand by me and take care of me. When I became more ill, my disabilities compounding and overwhelming me, he began to love me less and less. He has admitted that he liked me more before I was so sick.

In desperation, I pleaded to be at his side, as we were in different countries at the time. My boyfriend refused to help me get a partner visa, and he had no desire to ever come to my country. I cannot work and I am ineligible for disability payments, most of my family members are dead or nowhere to be seen. So I am basically screwed.

He told me that I needed to be enrolled in education to better myself and improve my job prospects (I cant work full time so this is a moot point.) I have to spend every penny of my savings on a degree that will not benefit me in any way, because my partner did not want to commit to me.

I have been in his country for a long time now, I am constantly treated like a second class citizen due to my immigration status, no company wants to hire a foreigner on a visa, my university expects me to bleed money for them at every turn, people stereotype me and assume I am stupid due to where I was born, not to mention a great deal of services I have little to no access to due to not having citizenship.

My boyfriend does not care how horrible my life is and how much I am struggling to stay afloat while being physically and mentally disabled. He thinks that being here is a privledge and I'm not entitled to any assistance or sympathy. I am not allowed to talk about the future with him because he will fly into a rage about it.

Betrayed doesn't even begin to describe how I feel. My chain has been yanked for several years now by someone who claimed to adore me, someone who gushed that he would love to marry me, look after me, and spend the rest of his life with me.

I don't know how I am expected to ever trust anyone again. I am expected to perpetually struggle with a degree that I cannot apply myself properly in, all whilst my bf sits on top of his cushy cubicle drone salary and pays no bills due to his family's undying support.

I honestly don't know how someone can look you in the eyes and proclaim that they love you, while they actively orchestrate your demise by creating these unrealistic demands that further crush your spirit and relinquish your will to continue.

My partner omits information about the severity of my conditions from his family due to shame. No one knows how awful things are behind the curtains, the thin veneer that separates the pitiful cripple girlfriend from the idllyic normalcy he'd prefer instead.

I got a crush on my best friend a long time ago because he is the only human being who ever treated me like a person when my biggest insecurities were laid bare. I hate myself for this.

God, I wish I could have stability and peacefulness, but the world is a cruel mistress indeed, isn't it? I just want someone to treat me with kindness and not threaten me constantly with the prospect of homelessness if I piss them off.

 

[stellabelle]

I'm going through the worst situation right now. I don't know how ill ever trust anyone again if I stay alive.

Oh of course. And I don't say that in a sarcastic way, I say it in a serious way.
Don't blame yourself for the betrayal. Blame the ones who betrayed you.

 

[Freelyffe88]

It would be nearly impossible to get through life never having a person who you love betray you. Of course there's drastically different degrees of betrayal. I feel betrayed by my parents for telling me that Santa Claus was real. Not because I gave a shit one way or the other, but why would society as a whole think it's alright to lie to kids and why would you play along with it? It's a very minor betrayal, but a puzzling one nonetheless.

 

[whywere]

YES! I had a girlfriend who behind my back took $10,000 U.S. dollars out of my checking account and blew it gambling. She promised me up and down that she would never do it again. Well guess what about a year later, she took over $20,000 and again blew it on gambling. This is where one of my attempts of ctb came into play. When I was in the physic ward after my attempt I had her thrown out of my place and I have never trusted anyone again after that. Walter

 

[GenTra]

Can't be betrayed by someone who said they loved you when nobody ever told you they loved you.

 

[ithappens]

Yes. It makes it very difficult to trust anyone ever again, which in turn makes life even more meaningless to me. What is the point of being alive if other humans aren't worth investing anything into (since it seems a majority of them are just out to screw over as many people as possible for their own benefit)? Sure if I was a complete sociopath I'd stay alive for lesser garbage like shoveling food into my gob or just for the sake of existing, but I personally see no point in being alive in a world where I will never have a safe friend or family. Without significant others in your life that you can trust life becomes rather dull and pointless, not to mention even colder than it was before.

 

[PDAnnie2610]

Yes. But I still love him. That's why ctb seems like the only way for me to move on.

 

[divorceddepression]

I'm going through the worst situation right now. I don't know how ill ever trust anyone again if I stay alive.

The only girl I had ever been with left divorced me. She cheated on the way out without remorse. It was a blindside after 12 years; she never spoke of being unhappy or anything, just dropped a bomb on me( and our kids).
It's been 2 years of hell afterwards as she started slowly turning my daughter against me. Everything turned into extremes. Vacation wasn't vacation: it was an attempt to kidnap. Being close to my daughter was turned to possible molestation. My daughter would report everything back to her and she'd blow up over everything; looking to make me into the demon she needed to justify herself for tearing apart our family.
Im currently going through court for made up sexual assault accusations. How does someone even do that!?
I wish death upon myself daily. I wish to end this life and be at peace (in heaven).

Si is a bitxh

 

[Smily]

I guess it happened to everyone. In my case, had a girl for 2 years, and then she messed with me for years after we broke up. Coming and leaving as she pleased, lying, and etc. It turned me into a careless douche though - didn't break me at all, actually made me not afraid of meeting new women. I had several relationships after that but they didn't last long since I was never really interested in - basically only used it to satisfy the physical needs. Back then I'd say a proper person would be the only option that could keep me wanting to carry on with my life, but things have changed since then. I don't want another person in my life to postpone my imminent departure.

 

[Snake of Eden]

Yes and it is painful af. Dont want to go into details about it but a so called friend whom i helped gloated at me for being in the same situation they were in when i helped them. They were happy to see me in distress. It was one of the most painful things I had to go through in life

 

[Benegra]

I totally fucking feel you man. It fucking hurts and I know this will last a long time.

 

[Insomniac]

Yes. My parents.

 

[The Lonely]

Yes. My parents.

Cheers!

 

[ScaredToLive]

Yes, don't get me wrong I can't pin this on her, I was messed up before her, but she did take a lot of my energy and my love and used it to build herself up and abandoned me when she felt she had done that. It's tipped me over the edge though.

 

[SelmaJezkova10]

Yep, i wasted 4 useless years of my life because of my boyfriend

 

[Naufrago]

Yes. Most people cheat at some point or situation in life. The big question is, have they been discovered?

 

[OpheliasFlowers]

Yep, i wasted 4 useless years of my life because of my boyfriend

I'm sorry. I've been there too. (3 years for me w/one boyfriend). It sucks.
Literally just happened (AGAIN) to me about a month ago. I should've known better at my age and with my history with relationships and especially this particular person, as I knew them many years ago and then we reconnected and they turned out to be just as elusive, secretive, and a liar as they were decades ago. But I'm so desperate right now for connection and to feel valued by someone I guess I willingly ignored the warning my brain was giving me and I chose to listen to their seemingly caring words, only to have the rug pulled out from under me. I was only a game to them....again. I can't trust anybody. I need to always remember that.