Discussion Has anyone been called spoiled/selfish/lazy/etc...regarding your suicide and depression?

[top_cat]

or any other mental issues? I feel a lot of people actually think these things about people with mental issues but choose not to say them

 

[Mr. Hang Man]

Always have, family always told me to get over things and refuse to believe I have actual diagnosed mental disorders.

 

[Roberto]

Slow, slow, slow ... so many times, useless so many too ... the rest is seeing what is happening around me and I know it's true. I'm incompetent. And the enterprises doesn't want to hire me. It's been so many years that I have lost my experience, because new tools are used in programming. My programs crashed, all of them. And I don't know how to make anything better. Selfish too. And lazy I call myself lazy. My father used to say that I was birth tired. Also that if I went to the sea I wouldn't find water.

I want to end my life.

 

[ShadowOfTheDay]

My dad told me I was selfish when he found out that I had tried to kms. Of course it's usually a selfish act, but the implication from that statement was that he would never do something so selfish. If you knew the guy, you'd rearealize how intensely ironic it was, coming from him.

 

[elizabeth.luck]

Not quite that. My mom is a nurse and I'm always telling her how I have to find a job that's willing to let me go to the doctor when necessary but my mom always tells me "you don't go to the doctor THAT much" and totally downplays mental illness because to her, unless I'm bleeding out and all my kidneys are falling out, I'm not sick. I go to some type of doctor at least twice a week. Apparently, that's not sick enough for her.

 

[Tabbyql]

When I came back from hospital my partner said my only problem is i feel sorry for my self.

 

[dandan]

Sure and I even feel selfish sometimes...

If I die I stop suffering?

If I die my mom will suffer , similar to the pain I feel daily....

 

[BandAddict]

Yes, and it hurts just as much everytime if not more. Selfish, lazy, silly, manipulative, dramatic....could go on and on. I don't understand how people can be so insensitive, making us feel guilty and invalid just because they don't want to listen with the intention of better understanding the way we operate.

 

[Dead beat dad]

or any other mental issues? I feel a lot of people actually think these things about people with mental issues but choose not to say them

Not me personally, but when my grandpoppa killed himself when I was a kid, and my mom suggested that he was indeed selfish. I disagree but that's just my opinion, I don't know if time has softened this for my mom.
Peace brother

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

Only just about every single time I ever opened up about it. YEARS ago I stopped sharing. My favorite are the people who "love" you and beg you, for years on end, to open up but who within seconds of your doing so look at you as if you've grown cloven feet, a pointy tail, red skin, and tiny horns on your forehead. Then they spit at you, "You need professional help!" Code for, "Get the f*ck away from me, freak!"

 

[Empty Smile]

I've had times when people would tell me to get over it.

I tell them, "How bout I break your fucking legs and tell you to walk it off?"

 

[Nihil]

My father once said, when I revealed to him that I was suicidal and had the Suicide book by Geo Stone, I was "being overtly emotional, too dramatic, and quite frankly, selfish." He then gave the book back to me, strangely enough (though he later stole it and tossed it...want my $60 back). One other individual who knew about my depression said it was all just in my head, and downplayed it like it was nothing. I get therapy for my depression now and am getting some of the help I need, but I'm otherwise silent about my suicidal ideation and attempts to anyone outside this forum.

 

[J F]

Don't get me started. I have been officially diagnosed with bipolar disorder, PTSD and Anxiety Disorder.

I have attempted suicide 6 times. Been hospitalized involuntary 6 times to a psych ward.

My wife, her parents, my parents and my wife's friends and family all believe that "it's all in my head" and to just stop acting this way. Mental illness doesn't "really exist". If u can't X-ray it, find it on an mri or blood test then they believe it's not truly a sickness.

They have all called me a selfish son of a bitch for all my attempts. That I don't think of anyone but myself when I try to ctb.

I could go on and on. It gets much worse. But I will stop.

 

[Empty Smile]

My father once said, when I revealed to him that I was suicidal and had the Suicide book by Geo Stone, I was "being overtly emotional, too dramatic, and quite frankly, selfish." He then gave the book back to me, strangely enough (though he later stole it and tossed it...want my $60 back). One other individual who knew about my depression said it was all just in my head, and downplayed it like it was nothing. I get therapy for my depression now and am getting some of the help I need, but I'm otherwise silent about my suicidal ideation and attempts to anyone outside this forum.

Mentioning your suicidal thoughts to non suicidal people, is pretty much a no no in this world. They say they know how we feel, but yet they've never experienced it.

 

[Nihil]

Mentioning your suicidal thoughts to non suicidal people, is pretty much a no no in this world. They say they know how we feel, but yet they've never experienced it.

Oh, I'm aware. I'm too terrified to mention anything suicide-related to my therapists, to any other friends and family, or strangers in general. Involuntary commitment (never had it happen to me) scares the crap out of me, don't want to lose my guns (my primary way of going should that time ever come), don't want massive medical debt, and don't want my employment prospects hampered while actively job hunting. The whole subject of suicide is generally taboo in society, and even talking about it can very quickly make one's life so much worse, make one even more suicidal, and make it harder to leave this world (all of this if you get involuntarily committed, that is). Of course, I've also heard from folks and read about stories where commitment actually helped improved their lives, in which case I'm happy for them. For me though, it would only make my life a much more terrifying nightmare.

 

[Broken]

My dad often tells me to just go off and kill myself and generally just makes me feel like shit!

 

[TAW122]

As far as my circumstances, not specifically mental health nor suicide, I've been called stubborn (not directly, but subtly) by people who expect me to recover and to get better. It has done nothing but create tension, strife, and unnecessary conflicts/arguments between me and them. I simply stopped addressing them, or opening up anymore because I can't change them and they can't change me (short of threatening force, which then would escalate things and go out of control).

Ever since I've tolerated and accepted (resigned to the fact) that I'm fucked up and pretty much FUBAR in mental health, relationships, romance (which is a joke fantasy nowadays lol), and social life, I've felt better about myself and it has helped me. Other things helped includes knowing that I can always exit at any time and that I have my method (which nobody, not even the people living with me (roommates and landlady) nor my family has any knowledge of); having a successful encounter last month (when I traveled and obtained what I was looking for); and pretty much don't care about what society wants, just living life on my own terms (for the most part).

 

[Funkbunny]

Yes. And those individuals were put firmly back in their place.

 

[bluesleep]

Lots of time, people don't get it, they think excercise is the answer, but they don't get what it's like to not even want to get out or the house and hating being awake.

 

[crea_the_hopeless]

Yes, my entire life.

Yes, and it hurts just as much everytime if not more. Selfish, lazy, silly, manipulative, dramatic....could go on and on. I don't understand how people can be so insensitive, making us feel guilty and invalid just because they don't want to listen with the intention of better understanding the way we operate.

Story of my fucking life