grief posting again. want to chat with people who relate

[nembutal]

anyone else primarily motivated by grief at the moment? specifically the loss of life. have you ever tried to implement the thought process of continuing to live on for the person you lost? how did it work out for you?

 

[doormat25]

Yes. It is not working out. I want to be with my loved ones.

 

[voidstar]

The death of my mom about 5 years ago now, at first I tried to stick to my promise to myself to end my life when she died. Which sadly failed.
Then I thought that maybe living in her stead would be the better option but no, the pain stays. It might get buried for a while but for me it doesn't leave. Psychologists couldn't help me either but it gets harder every day.
The only reason I'm sticking around currently is my cat, I saw how much the death of my mom fucked up her cat and as stupid as it seems to be but I don't want to do that to mine.

 

[nembutal]

The death of my mom about 5 years ago now, at first I tried to stick to my promise to myself to end my life when she died. Which sadly failed.
Then I thought that maybe living in her stead would be the better option but no, the pain stays. It might get buried for a while but for me it doesn't leave. Psychologists couldn't help me either but it gets harder every day.
The only reason I'm sticking around currently is my cat, I saw how much the death of my mom fucked up her cat and as stupid as it seems to be but I don't want to do that to mine.

im sure the pain does not fade completely but i really don't understand how generations and generations of people before us were able to cope with loss. may be the fact that i don't associate with any type or religion?

 

[doneforlife]

im sure the pain does not fade completely but i really don't understand how generations and generations of people before us were able to cope with loss. may be the fact that i don't associate with any type or religion?

No , not religion. For me what helped was being busy. Post my father's death, destiny somehow put me in a situation where I had to use every single thread of my brain in solving that situation. Imagine someone is strangling you , for that moment, you would forget everything else and utilise your whole self in trying to save yourself...no matter how much you hate life and want to get rid of it.I was ..kind of in a similar situation. No brain power left to think anything else. But yes , the loved ones will always be there. The grieving will come to an end. But the wish of what life could have been with them will never stop disturbing...

 

[voidstar]

No , not religion. For me what helped was being busy. Post my father's death, destiny somehow put me in a situation where I had to use every single thread of my brain in solving that situation. Imagine someone is strangling you , for that moment, you would forget everything else and utilise your whole self in trying to save yourself...no matter how much you hate life and want to get rid of it.I was ..kind of in a similar situation. No brain power left to think anything else. But yes , the loved ones will always be there. The grieving will come to an end. But the wish of what life could have been with them will never stop disturbing...

Keeping busy helps up to a certain point, I agree. But I was never able to "get over it" or really deal with it and accept it. Still can't.

im sure the pain does not fade completely but i really don't understand how generations and generations of people before us were able to cope with loss. may be the fact that i don't associate with any type or religion?

I'm not religious either so I was never able to get any comfort from that. A few generations back you either pulled through or didn't, mental health wasn't present or acknowledged.

 

[hopeless08]

im sure the pain does not fade completely but i really don't understand how generations and generations of people before us were able to cope with loss. may be the fact that i don't associate with any type or religion?

I've also wondered how people are able to cope with the loss of a loved one but realized that im way too sensitive
and would take it much harder then others who are stronger.

 

[voidstar]

I've also wondered how people are able to cope with the loss of a loved one but realized that im way too sensitive
and would take it much harder then others who are stronger.

Me too, I'm always in slight awe at how other people deal with that. How they can just go on, not that I'm convinced that they don't grieve but personally it's just like this immensely heavy blanket of sadness and apathy has been draped over my whole body and mind and it's just that, grief. Everywhere. Everything reminds me of the loved one I lost.

 

[nembutal]

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[wildbluekiss]

hello! i know you're searching for those who relatable, but me myself...

while i'm not really the one who can relate to a loss of a loved one, i certainly imagined about this a lot, like, a lot.
two people who are my sole reason to go on are my younger brother and my girlfriend. without them, i would've gone six feet under a long, hella time ago.
i wouldn't even try to do any single thing without them, even if it's just one of them went away.

i'll end it all, all at once.
the present time is still A LITTLE bearable with them being here... so, what even matters anymore if they're not here?
that's why... people who could deal with the loss of loved one(s)... are
really strong. and i know that you too are one of them. i wish you well.

 

[outrider567]

anyone else primarily motivated by grief at the moment? specifically the loss of life. have you ever tried to implement the thought process of continuing to live on for the person you lost? how did it work out for you?

Jan 24th marks two years since girlfriend of 35 years died, instantly gave up on ever 'continuing to live on for the person I lost', cannot even fathom such a thought, for without her around, life is not even living, its nothing

 

[iusedtobehappy]

Yes. It is not working out. I want to be with my loved ones.

Me too.

The death of my mom about 5 years ago now, at first I tried to stick to my promise to myself to end my life when she died. Which sadly failed.
Then I thought that maybe living in her stead would be the better option but no, the pain stays. It might get buried for a while but for me it doesn't leave. Psychologists couldn't help me either but it gets harder every day.
The only reason I'm sticking around currently is my cat, I saw how much the death of my mom fucked up her cat and as stupid as it seems to be but I don't want to do that to mine.

I stayed for my kitty too. Now without him I need to die.

 

[hurting]

I have been alone my whole 47 years and could not even imagine finding someone I cared about that much and then loosing them. My heart breaks for all of you.

 

[hopeless08]

The death of my mom about 5 years ago now, at first I tried to stick to my promise to myself to end my life when she died. Which sadly failed.
Then I thought that maybe living in her stead would be the better option but no, the pain stays. It might get buried for a while but for me it doesn't leave. Psychologists couldn't help me either but it gets harder every day.
The only reason I'm sticking around currently is my cat, I saw how much the death of my mom fucked up her cat and as stupid as it seems to be but I don't want to do that to mine.

It's not stupid at all. The first time I was suicidal 9 years ago, the only thing that kept me alive was my dog, he was my EVERYTHING and I could not leave him.