Discussion Goodbye threads

[Kyotospade]

Does it hurt any of you to see the amount of goodbye threads and post on here or does it give you a sense of comfort?
Does it help knowing that a lot of these ctb methods work ?

 

[TheHolySword]

I think it's sad it's where our lives has led us, I can only hope they are finally at peace. In a morbid kind of way, it gives me comfort knowing my method has seen a lot of success here.

 

[Boots2Scoots]

It's a mixed bag for me. Even when in support of choice, it's always disheartening seeing that someone was so beaten down mentally that it had to go that way.

On the other hand, it's always nice to see that someone was able to make an escape/take the path that they so desired. I envy it in a way as this is what I ultimately want but my SI refuses to allow it.

 

[ringo99]

It doesn't hurt me. If anything I feel more resolute about my decision. SaSu has been a boon by introducing me to SN. The ease of using it is really appealing to me since I have no way of getting N or nitrogen in my country without getting the police involved. Ctb is still a crime in my country even though it's 2025....Go figure. Before that my only choices were hanging or jumping both of which terrify me.

 

[SteamaHorns]

It's difficult for me to really have a single kind of feeling about it. All of the things that led the individual to go through with it in the first place, ruins what little peace or relating positive feelings I could have had from it. I don't know if even doing it can be considered a good thing for the individual to begin with either. I just see it as a natural occurance for some people and can only hope that it really is the best thing for them.

I'm glad that there are well-known methods that appear to be reliable.

 

[squidsponge]

I process it as people are courageous enough to exercise their free will. In that sense it gives me strength for when it's my time. Sort of like "look these guys did it you can as well if it's what you want

 

[OptingOutSmiling]

Every story is touching. Every story is a unique person. Every story had a beginning and end. Every story is real, yet surreal. Any one of them could be us. It's a fact and a comfort, a loss and a hope. It's just so final.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Both really. Being selfish, it's especially difficult to see better known (to me) members go although, every goodbye thread is sad to me. In that it epitomizes a period- long or short of intense suffering a person has gone through. That there's likely no feasible way they could see to turn things around. It also represents a kind of freedom though. Hopefully, an end to their pain and the peace they deserve.

Plus, yes. I have to say, those who (presumably) succeed using my chosen method (SN,) tend to build my confidence in using it myself some day. It's a whole range of emotions though. I sort of feel like I'm going through it with them when I read them.

 

[divinemistress36]

Its sad and makes me jealous at the same time

 

[Ashes of a Dreamer]

It gives me a sense of comfort, as people found what they were looking for - death. Btw, it encourages me to do the same, so suicide is indeed contagious - only if you have already contemplated it ;D

 

[SomePeacePlease]

Its sad and makes me jealous at the same time

This is my feelings about it. Knowing it's everything I want, but having a son I don't want to cause trauma. It's only so long it's possible to exist without living, and I'm jealous of the ones that finally feel peace. I'm happy they finally find their rest, and hope they have finally found their well deserved peace.

 

[WatchmeBurn]

It's really sad. I would rather people be happy, there's no joy in any of this. I wonder how many of them could have lived a happy life if things had gone differently, e.g., if they had access to healthcare, if they had more financial support, and so on.

There are some who will never live a good QoL just because of genetics and even that's really sad, though at that point there is some peace in what they're doing, though I'd much rather they have access to a peaceful/dignified death rather than having to DIY it. I am sure a lot of people here are forced into this situation because of socioeconomic injustices though, and that is maddening and despairing.

 

[Namelesa]

While the circumstances that led them to ctb is sad, the actual suicide isn't cus if a person has a successful attempt then their suffering ends which to me is the most important thing at the end of it and so I am glad that they are no longer in pain. I feel sad if the attempt fails cus that means the person hasn't been able to achieve want they wanted and now has to continue to suffer.

 

[zerocontrol]

As unfortunate as it may be, it still feels nice to see people successfully overcome primal fears and win against their struggles and misery. It gives me hope that someday I'll also be writing my last words and waving goodbyes in this forum.

 

[tiredash]

it hurts. dont comfort. dont help.

 

[masquerade]

Does it hurt any of you to see the amount of goodbye threads and post on here or does it give you a sense of comfort?
Does it help knowing that a lot of these ctb methods work ?

imo it's just a part of the process, and every ctb is a whole new thread, so I'm inclined to think it's a bit biased. but I do admire their courage to leap into the unknown, I wish I had that level of bravery

 

[opheliaoveragain]

Does it hurt any of you to see the amount of goodbye threads and post on here or does it give you a sense of comfort?
Does it help knowing that a lot of these ctb methods work ?

it's a mixture. the ones I was close with, I felt their pain and understood the choice. just like I hope mine will be respected when the time comes.

 

[human909]

Its sad and makes me jealous at the same time

I can relate to that.

 

[bigbang33]

I feel deeply for people who make goodbye threads. It's odd. It's complete strangers. I don't know anything about them. And yet when I see that they haven't come back I'm filled with a sadness that I can't quite put it into words.
I just wish that I could give everyone a hug or hold their hand.

 

[loneloser]

its cool to see how the site helps so many people

 

[Michi_Violeta]

It's not easy, but I won't say it hurts. I'm new here and I already saw a thread chronicling briefly someone's death: it was touching, yet haunting at the same time. All I could think of, however, is that I was glad for that person to finally be in peace. I no longer believe in happy endings, I know this world is a fucking cruel and unjust place, that karma is bullshit and that good people suffer while the bad ones are fucking happy: the least we can ask is that people in pain are free from their suffering with dignity and in their own terms. When I see that someone was able to do precisely that, it gives me a weird sense of calm and, yes, it makes me think one day I can be in peace too.

 

[needthebus]

it makes me feel sad and nervous. but also glad that people are able to make a choice to stop pain if they want. it bothers me more when they are younger. I feel frustrated society is so harsh because if the demands of this world (full-time job or homeless) were less, i think some of us, many of whom are disabled in one way or another, would be more likely to stay alive.

I also try to, if someone is doing it in real time let them know people sometimes change their minds, it's okay to change your mind. Like, I feel nervous i am coming across as pro-lifer when i do that, but some people have tried everything or are really sick and other people really still have a chance to be happy. I just worry too, it all makes me nervous. I want to be supportive without encouraging them.

I feel like if i ever do a goodbye thread on here live, id probably be alone and lonely at the time and would want people to talk with me. It's hard to see them. But it's also normalizing: like, sometimes people do end things, it happens. its makes me feel slightly less terrified of how i may ctb in next 6 months-2 years.

 

[kitchenwindow197]

It makes me feel comforted that others will end up wherever i end up, if there is an afterlife atleast we wont be alone..