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jamie_
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- May 21, 2022
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I don't really think I can just control how I feel and react about it tbh. That's why I'm writing in this first place really; if I could choose I would not bother feeling weighed down by these painful thoughts and not being able to express such to them. But yes I cannot control how or if they respond and I don't really expect much, I have been here before. I will less so be hard on myself but I don't think i'll be able to not feel hard about the situation.you can control how you feel and react to it.
I never said it was an easy thing to do. I think it's less about choice and more about understanding your feelings and perceiving that you cannot control everything, especially when we are talking about someone else. If your expectations are not that high, the fall cannot be that low, and realizing that you are the only one in power over yourself and how you feel and react to certain situations can help to further alleviate the fall, in my opinion.I don't really think I can just control how I feel and react about it tbh. That's why I'm writing in this first place really; if I could choose I would not bother feeling weighed down by these painful thoughts and not being able to express such to them. But yes I cannot control how or if they respond and I don't really expect much, I have been here before. I will less so be hard on myself but I don't think i'll be able to not feel hard about the situation.
i agree that other people do not control the fate of my feelings and reactions but equally neither does that mean the power rests in me and my mindset, it is situations that cause things. and you dont always have the power to change them. i'm not necessarily going to feel worse i am aware nothing changes, but that's the point i am already at the bottom just clinging on.power over yourself and how you feel and react to certain situations
the worst thing that you can do to somebody imo. especially when it is out of nowhere, especially when it is someone where you would talk every single day and someone you believed cared for youBeing ghosted hurts like hell, you can't help but wonder what you did wrong everyday. I hope you get the closure you need to put all these unsaid feelings to rest.
I felt this so much.the worst thing that you can do to somebody imo. especially when it is out of nowhere, especially when it is someone where you would talk every single day and someone you believed cared for you
Maybe you could find them on a social media, pass it on via someone in their life you can find. Maybe look them up in a person directory?but I wouldn't even know where to send it at this point.
Maybe you could find them on a social media, pass it on via someone in their life you can find. Maybe look them up in a person directory?
ah i see. i have the same problem. i sent that same OP image to a trusted mutual friend who passed it on. didn't change the result in the end but at least i have a comfort knowing that they looked at it even a brief second more than if a letter in the post got lost on the way and never really knowing if they saw it at all. have less anxiety about departing knowing that they didn't read it after seeing it rather than the chance they didn't read it because they were never aware of it... well that's if my trusted mutual actually is trusted and didn't lie about sending it but i'm trying to not listen to that side of my brainThey will probably block me on social media