Discussion Gen Z

[bobpork]

Anyone else in their early 20s who's unemployed, dropped out of university and don't know what to do with life?

 

[FoxSauce]

Not studying but working just did a year in college. But financial stuff is making it difficult. Yes I wanna keep studying

 

[death over slavery]

Currently unemployed and has plans to drop out of college

 

[pickpocket]

Anyone else in their early 20s who's unemployed, dropped out of university and don't know what to do with life?

oh my god yes. i'm 20, i was meant to start college in september but had a serious medical incident and became physically disabled. i have literally no friends and my (small) family hates me, resents me, they say it to my face

 

[neurotic]

It's more normal than people think. It's not like you weren't cut out for it or anything. A lot of life experience you have is still being affected by a person, your younger self, who had absolutely no control until around this time.

At these years, it's good to remind yourself that This is when it starts and you can start consciously building. Trauma, stupid decisions, and physical/mental problems you can now identify and medicate/cope towards are the first priority since you need a stable foundation to build on (Which might have been the reason it didn't work out in the first place, but the good thing is you're exactly where you should be in your life to figuring it out. Shame on those who didn't teach you or hurt you that stifled you up to this point!)

A lot of my friends who are getting into their late 20's are starting college again more confident and assured, or starting careers they truly wanted to get into, or others just completely stop using their college degree and pursue something blue collar. It's far from a perspective that you failed now and you'll deal with it for the rest of your life, that's just fear mongering to make you will something up into existence. So please don't fall for the self blame that so many people do in their early 20s, you're finally really You and you're just going to keep improving. Things slow down from this point on, which is a relief if you come from a very hard, fast life. It's not as urgent as you may think it right now. So take your time and figure out how you want to build a life for yourself, there truly isn't a rush.

 

[wishingonstars]

I dropped out of college a few years ago but have been working a job I enjoy. I'm even getting promoted but I can't focus or show up on time and I've already tried almost everything to get better. The only two things left (ketamine assisted therapy and a PTSD service dog) are both really expensive and feel out of reach. Being independent is important to me and I will never be able to get a service dog which I think would completely change my life if I can't keep this job but I am very stuck at this point. I see no point in going forward but I have to stick around for my family, friends, and elderly cat.

I know that's a bit different from your situation but it's just to say I get how difficult/impossible it can be to work and/or do school and how much it can hurt to see everyone else just doing it and pushing through and I wish I understood why I can't do the same. I also hate being given the same advice over and over by people who mean well but just don't get it. No one seems to have an answer for what to do when you've tried everything and it isn't enough.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

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[l1ablemistakes]

I'm 22 and let me just say being employed and successful has not helped me

 

[violetforever]

Anyone else in their early 20s who's unemployed, dropped out of university and don't know what to do with life?

this was literally me from 2022 until the beginning of this year. now im back in school. idk what to say about it.

 

[negi-maguro]

I'm 24, while employed, It's not that different to being unemployed as I'm working in an NGO with no career ladder at all and low pay. I don't know what to do with my life either. Well, I do know what I want, but I don't have the courage, capital, and mental state to do it. Thinking of getting a master overseas but I keep failing scholarships. Even getting an letter of acceptance is really hard because it takes a huge mental toll every time I try to sign up for one (same goes with finding a new job). I'm drained 24/7. Sometimes I chant "Fighto! Fighto!" to keep myself going.

 

[eyenumbing]

im a college drop out with a job. its not the worst thing in the world, but i don't want to continue with this path. i want to hopefully go back to school and figure things out for myself.

 

[hiiiii]

i'm unemployed and graduated but with a horrible gpa from my mental breakdown... the degree is basically useless now and i can't go to grad school like i had originally planned. i don't know what to do with myself at this point. all i do is apply for jobs and cry and seethe

 

[nitrogenous]

Anyone else in their early 20s who's unemployed, dropped out of university and don't know what to do with life?

I'm in my early 20s, just got fired a couple days ago due to accusation of being manic (which wasn't true), and had been fired from another company a couple months earlier due to mental health reasons too. So, this is my second time being terminated because of my mental health. I withdrew from uni early last year, again because of my mental health and it makes me feel like a failure. I'm starting uni again tomorrow actually, but my advisor already thinks that I should drop down to part time as she doesn't think I am capable to study. I feel like dropping out this time not gonna lie, but perhaps I won't be able to do so as I think I would probably just ctb instead…

 

[Hvergelmir]

I will never be able to get a service dog

I just wanted to cut in, and ask if you truly need a certified service dog.
My dogs have been amazing without formal training. An untrained dog is very feasible to get, for most people. With time and persistence it could also become well trained, though formal certification might be out of reach.

 

[YourLocalSadGirly]

Me core. I'm so cooked I dropped out of university TWICE. I've only quit my job one time though lol. I know it's the recovery section but I've given up on recovery.

 

[leloyon]

Never had a job nor did I ever go to uni, high school failure. Otherwise yes.

 

[wishingonstars]

I just wanted to cut in, and ask if you truly need a certified service dog.
My dogs have been amazing without formal training. An untrained dog is very feasible to get, for most people. With time and persistence it could also become well trained, though formal certification might be out of reach.

Yeah I've done a lot of research and I do want a partner not a pet. I have a wonderful cat who without prompting or training will interrupt spirals and has saved my life by insisting attention and then providing pressure therapy, she is wonderful and I'm sure a pet dog would be too and be able to provide more too with training but I would benefit from an animal that could go everywhere with me without restriction as navigating daily life is difficult and my hyper vigilance drains me so I can't function properly. Plus service dogs can provide specific things that are hard to self train in a pet such as reliably waking me up from nightmares. I have good credit so I think I might be able to take out a loan in order for it to work out. It would take a while to describe why a certified service dog would be necessary rather than a ESA in my case but mostly just having a constant companion, I'm really messed up by my PTSD it effects every aspect of my life and traditional treatments aren't enough. I just want to be able to function properly and having a dog in my corner all the time who's job is making the world a little less scary sounds life changing.

 

[dontletthembribeyou]

I'm a student but have no real direction. Junior year and no portfolio or internships or nothing. Low GPA too. I've been unemployed for most of the past 3 years because of burnout/chronic pain but I just got a job again bc I need money, we'll see how that goes :/