MsMaudlin

MsMaudlin

This is the fierce last stand of all I am
Dec 8, 2019
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I'm sitting upstairs writing out my funeral plans, readings and things.
Very surreal, shit just got very real.
I feel so sad.
 
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Iloveyouall

Iloveyouall

Mage
Feb 12, 2020
501
Would you mind to share some of them with us ? If you feel it could help you to feel a little less sad of course.
 
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Hennessy

Hennessy

Specialist
Jan 14, 2019
360
A funeral can be very expensive. My funeral will be without a ceremony, no gravestone and I will use the cheapest coffin possible.

If I understand things correctly, in my country the first 20 years in a grave is for free, then you have to pay rent for the grave. I will not pay anything! They can throw my body in a landfill if they like! I want the little money I have to go to my family, and not to the big funeral-business!
 
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Jean4

Jean4

Remember. I am ALWAYS right.... until I’m not
Apr 28, 2019
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Glass half empty, glass half full? I have no reason to make funeral plans. Heck. I have nobody to pick up my body... or know I'm dead.

You have people in your life to make funeral arrangements for, and people to care you are gone. Your life mattered to people. :heart:
 
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shallow

shallow

A thought can pull the trigger...
Feb 17, 2020
59
I also have my funeral plans documented. It maked me calm writing it down.
 
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BFishy

Student
Dec 25, 2019
180
I have written but not legally. I just want to be cremated, then sweep my ashes into the trash or put me in a baggie and throw me away. I see no point in a ceremony for myself. No grave no marker nothing. Most of that is for the living. I don't see or think I am worth any of that.
I don't mean to be a downer, I just tend to speak frankly about my self worth.
 
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Jean4

Jean4

Remember. I am ALWAYS right.... until I’m not
Apr 28, 2019
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I have written but not legally. I just want to be cremated, then sweep my ashes into the trash or put me in a baggie and throw me away. I see no point in a ceremony for myself. No grave no marker nothing. Most of that is for the living. I don't see or think I am worth any of that.
I don't mean to be a downer, I just tend to speak frankly about my self worth.
Not a downer. Factual. It's how you feel... and you are part of our family. You are worthy to us. :heart:
 
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BFishy

Student
Dec 25, 2019
180
Thankyou my friend
:hug:
 
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Largeletters

Largeletters

Alone
Jan 21, 2020
640
I'm sitting upstairs writing out my funeral plans, readings and things.
Very surreal, shit just got very real.
I feel so sad.
I'm sorry. I made my will a few days ago.
 
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Dear Flabby

Please listen to “Across the Universe”
Feb 20, 2020
254
In Canada and the US, you can join what's called a "Memorial Society".
(You have to google this+ your city/area)
The society negotiates a cut-rate deal with several local funeral homes.
You pick the funeral home (and price) you want.
Where I live, a Memorial Society Membership (one-time $50 fee) can save you between $200 and $1000 on the bare basics (just the stuff you or your family has to do to comply with the law. I am going with the cardboard box special;)
 
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Largeletters

Alone
Jan 21, 2020
640
In Canada and the US, you can join what's called a "Memorial Society".
(You have to google this+ your city/area)
The society negotiates a cut-rate deal with several local funeral homes.
You pick the funeral home (and price) you want.
Where I live, a Memorial Society Membership (one-time $50 fee) can save you between $200 and $1000 on the bare basics (just the stuff you or your family has to do to comply with the law. I am going with the cardboard box special;)
Thank you for this info. I am in the US so maybe it will work out for me.
 
BPD Barbie

BPD Barbie

Visionary
Dec 1, 2019
2,361
When I was writing mine I had very specific plans and wanted this passage adapted to me current situation and read out.

You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed. You want your mother to know that all your energy, every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.

And at one point you'd hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him/her that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you. And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let him/her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her/his eyes, that those photons created within her/him constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.

And the physicist will remind the congregation of how much of all our energy is given off as heat. There may be a few fanning themselves with their programs as he says it. And he will tell them that the warmth that flowed through you in life is still here, still part of all that we are, even as we who mourn continue the heat of our own lives.

And you'll want the physicist to explain to those who loved you that they need not have faith; indeed, they should not have faith. Let them know that they can measure, that scientists have measured precisely the conservation of energy and found it accurate, verifiable and consistent across space and time. You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they'll be comforted to know your energy's still around.
According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you're just less orderly.
 
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faust

faust

lost among the stars
Jan 26, 2020
3,138
When I was writing mine I had very specific plans and wanted this passage adapted to me current situation and read out.

You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed. You want your mother to know that all your energy, every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.

And at one point you'd hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him/her that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you. And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let him/her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her/his eyes, that those photons created within her/him constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.

And the physicist will remind the congregation of how much of all our energy is given off as heat. There may be a few fanning themselves with their programs as he says it. And he will tell them that the warmth that flowed through you in life is still here, still part of all that we are, even as we who mourn continue the heat of our own lives.

And you'll want the physicist to explain to those who loved you that they need not have faith; indeed, they should not have faith. Let them know that they can measure, that scientists have measured precisely the conservation of energy and found it accurate, verifiable and consistent across space and time. You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they'll be comforted to know your energy's still around.
According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you're just less orderly.
I wanted to reply to this thread initially, but end up making a screenshot of this masterpiece!
 
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BPD Barbie

BPD Barbie

Visionary
Dec 1, 2019
2,361
I wanted to reply to this thread initially, but end up making a screenshot of this masterpiece!
I found it years ago and never forgot about it. It's just perfect.
 
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faust

faust

lost among the stars
Jan 26, 2020
3,138
I know what you mean.
Life seems so unreal to me, death is even more real.
I have not yet planned my funeral in details (I hope I won't be found), just imagining reaction of my parents: "What the f@ck was he doing in Mexico".
 
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Hopeindeath!

Elementalist
Dec 7, 2019
800
It is sad when you are thinking about leaving people you love. It's also sad that you @MsMaudlin are planning to leave us.
 
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benjaminbusdriver

benjaminbusdriver

Member
Mar 5, 2020
27
That is a brilliant plan. I'm inspired now. I was planning mine this morning too. The reality sets in when you're online pricing things out. It's insane how much they charge. I have no money left (bankruptcy) and I don't want to burden my brother with the cost, so I have to figure out what to do. I want to be cremated and have my ashes spread in the lake where I grew up with a gathering of family and close friends. I would trust them to put on a nice social gathering as I entertained a lot. I started to write a eulogy and then thought that would be too much for my family. Is that weird?
 
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HadEnough1974

I try to be funny...
Jan 14, 2020
684
I'm sitting upstairs writing out my funeral plans, readings and things.
Very surreal, shit just got very real.
I feel so sad.

@MsMaudlin dont feel sad. Funerals don't need to be sad, they can be fun. We need a funeral parlour with a slogan, "we put the Fun in Funerals".

You can have a clown and a stand up comedian telling jokes at your funeral. Maybe a magic ballon guy making funny balloons for the kids?

Hey I hope I put a smile on your face. At least I tried.
 

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