Friends?

[AQUA]

Where can i find people like you (SS users) IRL?
I had this type of friendship with other patient when i was sectioned but lost their contact info.
i wish i had that again.

 

[Sensei]

A common tip is to join clubs and associations. There you can find like-minded people.

 

[AQUA]

A common tip is to join clubs and associations. There you can find like-minded people

They end up being super normal

 

[Sensei]

They end up being super normal

That's often true, but I think it depends on the club or association. I believe that the more obscure the hobby or interest, the easier to find like-minded people. It may not be an ideal method of finding friends, but it's better than nothing. Be that as it may, good luck in your endeavour and keep us updated.

 

[Miss_Takes]

Where can i find people like you (SS users) IRL?
I hate not having someone to relate to.

There are people like 'us' everywhere. But they havent found the space to be able to express it without fear.

 

[AQUA]

There are people like 'us' everywhere. But they havent found the space to be able to express it without fear.

luckily we have this place

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Where can i find people like you (SS users) IRL?
I hate not having someone to relate to.

I've not found anyone IRL who I can relate to in the way I can relate to people who have experienced what I have. I have a best friend who I reckon might be able to understand, but I care about her too much to dump it on her. I just think that if you haven't stared suicidality in the face, that you can't reasonably expect a friend to be able to understand.
It kind of re-wires your brain, your perspective and your outlook on reality. TBH I'd not want anyone I care about to actually understand that, lest it bring them here. I'd rather be alone.

 

[Maka hiamoe]

Start a rumor on Sanctioned Suicide about the great nembutal fountain which is located wherever you want it to be.

Then all you have to do is go to that place and wait until some people show up so you can strike up a conversation with them.

On a more serious note, I wish I knew the answer to your question.

 

[Mentalmick]

Do you have any resource centers in your area? They're usually good for meeting other "mentals".

 

[painoflife]

It is so difficult because it isn't commonly talked about. Maybe a support group in your area?

 

[AQUA]

Do you have any resource centers in your area? They're usually good for meeting other "mentals".

AHA great suggestion

 

[AQUA]

Where can i find people like you (SS users) IRL?
I had this type of friendship with other patient when i was sectioned but lost their contact info.
i wish i had that again.

Not that i can't make friends, its the opposite. People herd around me but IDGAF about relationship quantity, its quality I'm hungry for.

It is so difficult because it isn't commonly talked about. Maybe a support group in your area?

Unfortunately not. Is that where you met these type of living legends?

 

[painoflife]

Unfortunately not. Is that where you met these type of living legends?

Lol to be honest I don't have friends IRL. I have a few people who contact me when they want something from me, but definately no friends

 

[Nymph]

I'd like to know too but this kind of topic is pretty taboo here so I haven't seen any groups or anything in my language. Not even online

 

[AQUA]

Lol to be honest I don't have friends IRL. I have a few people who contact me when they want something from me, but definately no friends

Is it too late for us to be friends?

 

[painoflife]

Is it too late for us to be friends?

I am still alive so there is time

 

[AutoTap]

I've not found anyone IRL who I can relate to in the way I can relate to people who have experienced what I have. I have a best friend who I reckon might be able to understand, but I care about her too much to dump it on her. I just think that if you haven't stared suicidality in the face, that you can't reasonably expect a friend to be able to understand.
It kind of re-wires your brain, your perspective and your outlook on reality. TBH I'd not want anyone I care about to actually understand that, lest it bring them here. I'd rather be alone.

I had a friend who I thought would understand because they also suffer from mental health issues.

When I told them I was suicidal they threatened to call the police on me.

So now I don't tell anyone irl really that I'm suicidal.

 

[Kramer]

Group therapy type things have lots of seriously or passively suicidal people.

 

[Nodscene]

It seems to get harder as you get older (I'm pushing 50) and have confirmed this with normals as making friends isn't exactly my strong suit.

Normally I'll a few really close friends but since I moved back to my home town I dont have anyone close. The one friend I had here bailed on my even though he knew I wanted to CTB and said he understood. So much for that!

The only person I actually talk to is my ex as we made better friends than partners but she's 8hrs away.

One of my friends who I knew the longest passed a few months ago so it's slim pickings over here. Add in the fact I don't leave the house which means making new friends isn't in the cards.

As I said though I've never been good at it so it's still possible for a lot of you to make new friends if that's what you want. It's not always easy but it can be worth it especially if they are in the same position or have their own problems which you can relate to.

 

[sadworld]

I wish I knew... I've never met anyone irl I can relate to... Having friends irl that are like you guys would be great!

 

[Garbage Person]

I wish I could figure this out too. I've been trying to get to know people from work, but it just isn't in the cards so far. I haven't hung out with anyone by choice since July, and even that was just random chance. I'm all alone aside from people I chat with on the phone, it's incredibly depressing. I feel I'm not worth it anymore to the onlooker, rather it be friendship or especially anything more than that. At least I don't have to worry about social obligations I guess. I'll just cope by feeding myself lies. Maybe one day I'll get my ego back and feel like I'm too good for others. I'd still just be lying to myself though. I'll keep going to work and coming home to an empty house until I expire. The world has thrown me in the pit, I'm not "Garbage Person" for no reason.

 

[AQUA]

Be that as it may, good luck in your endeavour and keep us updated.

Update: I've (surprisingly) developed/made some friends/ships on here which I couldn't have imagined would happen, let alone a single fulfilling friendship.
I'm starting to recognise how censored modern society is now.
It's probably why this site is so soothing because it genuinely publishes both sides to CTB. (Pro-choice) LOVE IT!

 

[LittleJem]

This place is AMAZING. I have only been there once IRL but their heart and philosophy is amazing. They are now doing activities online: https://dragoncafe.co.uk/

Other than that, when I was terribly ill and suicidal there was a drop in centre which said I was too ill to be part of their activities at that point! But there are places to support people with mental illness.

The guy I was kind of dating, probably not anymore, he finds his friends at Alchoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous and not sure where else. But those kind of places - it's a bit like Fight Club.

Do courses or do stuff with shared hobbies - but how you find other peopel in the same boat, the only things I can think of are those above this...

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

Problem with meetups is that everyone will be paranoid of getting doxxed. It takes people that are almost dead-set on dying or for other reasons aren't concerned with privacy to get it done. I suppose the doxxer wouldn't necessarily have enough evidence tying the doxxed to the SS account, so just denying the doxx might be enough to get it out of your hair? Not sure, I'd love to meet other members IRL, tho, it's a shame. No reason to hand out business cards and ID, tho, maybe it could be anonymous-ish somehow? Idk.

 

[Imaginos]

I don't think I'm capable of ever having friends. It doesn't matter how much we had in common. We could both be suicidal, anxiety riddled, efilist hermits struggling with agoraphobia, but it wouldn't matter. There's a fundamental discomfort attached to things like this, at least for me. One that's always present, regardless of the situation. There's a weight/anxiety in trying to get to know someone else and to get to be known in return. One side of me can't abide loneliness, and the other side can't abide socializing. It's a predicament where I'm always left feeling profoundly uncomfortable, just in different ways. This is another reason why I'd be a lot better off dead. Even the most minimal of human relationships are denied to me. And with anhedonia, along with loneliness, denying a sense of relief in anything else of a more solitary variety, that leaves nothing left. So I need buckshot exploding my brains ASAP basically.

 

[141592653]

I know it might not satisfy a lot of you but I met most of my [completely crazy] friends via Tinder.
Here is how I do it :
- I write a very fucked up description
- I publish fucked up photos (currently mine is me with ravaged face showing a "badass" finger)
- I only swipe right fucked up profiles (especially in their descriptions)
[NOTE : to find more fucked up profile, consider browsing LGBTQ+ part of Tinder, it's filled with depressed weirdos like me]
- Once I match, send a REALLY fucked intro. Mine used to be
"My biggest dream is to rent a van, go to a road trip with people, take a lot of drugs and fuck then die together by CO poisoning"

And the most incredible part is :
1) You actually meet people
2) I never got banned (idk how cauz I have a couple of hundred of matchs)
3) You actually get laid [with those very same weirdos] if you want to

Actually, now that I think about it, I met a couple of persons who actually were on SS via Tinder

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

I don't think I'm capable of ever having friends. It doesn't matter how much we had in common. We could both be suicidal, anxiety riddled, efilist hermits struggling with agoraphobia, but it wouldn't matter. There's a fundamental discomfort attached to things like this, at least for me. One that's always present, regardless of the situation. There's a weight/anxiety in trying to get to know someone else and to get to be known in return. One side of me can't abide loneliness, and the other side can't abide socializing. It's a predicament where I'm always left feeling profoundly uncomfortable, just in different ways. This is another reason why I'd be a lot better off dead. Even the most minimal of human relationships are denied to me. And with anhedonia, along with loneliness, denying a sense of relief in anything else of a more solitary variety, that leaves nothing left. So I need buckshot exploding my brains ASAP basically.

Nooo, we're friends bro.

 

[summers]

I know it might not satisfy a lot of you but I met most of my [completely crazy] friends via Tinder.
Here is how I do it :
- I write a very fucked up description
- I publish fucked up photos (currently mine is me with ravaged face showing a "badass" finger)
- I only swipe right fucked up profiles (especially in their descriptions)
[NOTE : to find more fucked up profile, consider browsing LGBTQ+ part of Tinder, it's filled with depressed weirdos like me]
- Once I match, send a REALLY fucked intro. Mine used to be
"My biggest dream is to rent a van, go to a road trip with people, take a lot of drugs and fuck then die together by CO poisoning"

And the most incredible part is :
1) You actually meet people
2) I never got banned (idk how cauz I have a couple of hundred of matchs)
3) You actually get laid [with those very same weirdos] if you want to

Actually, now that I think about it, I met a couple of persons who actually were on SS via Tinder

I mean, I already have a van if you're down :)

 

[141592653]

I mean, I already have a van if you're down :)

Well I would directly have said yes a year ago. But now I'm recovering so I only say yes to the roadtrip, the drugs and the sex kek

 

[summers]

Well I would directly have said yes a year ago. But now I'm recovering so I only say yes to the roadtrip, the drugs and the sex kek

That's what I was thinking too. I'm not going to ctb for a little while still. Hmu if you're ever in the US