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Final Escape
I’ve been here too long
- Jul 8, 2018
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I had one of those devastating heartbreaks where u felt addicted to the person. It did not start out right. I met him because I was an escort. So the sex too soon thing creates problems right away especially if u have like very high attraction and the chemistry is good. I was hooked before I even realized I was hooked lol! I'm just relieved I'm not like thinking about it anymore and can move forward. It took about 5 months to get to this point but during those months I was so suicidal from the rejection and losing interest in everything. My motivation to live was gone. I didn't feel like I would ever get over it. I totally understand why people suicide over heartbreak. It doesn't have to be years with someone to get really hurt. The biggest piece of advice I can give is if u meet someone you find very attractive no matter what circumstances. Do not have sex with them for at least 3 months of knowing prior. This is especially a rule for women, because for us sex is more emotionally impactful whereas for men casual sex is less impactful on average. They don't experience the same impact that women do. I'm not saying there aren't men who don't get emotional over casual sex but they can typically compartmentalise and cut off emotion and just have sex with u with no attachment about it. It's more common for men to do this. For women each time this happens if u have casual sex it will become harder to bond to the next partner. At least if u wait till u are sure the person actually likes u, u don't have to put yourself at as high of risk for something like this. I would tell guys to do the same. If u actually want a relationship than don't pursue hookups. You might really like the girl a lot at first because she's giving u sex but then u realise you are not actually compatible for anything long term. This why people move from failed relationship to failed relationship. You have to look at people as a longterm investment. Anyway. I know many people already know this stuff and even I knew but that doesn't mean I was great at putting into practice.