Fighting Neighbors

[TheCrow]

I can hear my neighbors fighting (a couple, male & female), and the girl is crying, pleading, "What more can I do?!"

I for one, am so glad I am over that kind of shit. Anyone else? Anyone else stop trying with dating?

 

[21Neberg]

I guess you're better off hearing them fighting than hearing them having sex lol.
I haven't given up dating. I got dumped last week, when I finally admitted that the scars on my arm were increasing and not because of my cat, but because of cutting. She already knew, but after I admitted it and I showed even more how broken I am she finally left me.
I'm not trying to find anyone else. I'd just get turned down. I don't blame women for not wanting to be with me though - I don't even want to be myself! I guess I have stopped trying after all.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

You always come off as very friendly and empathetic, Crow. If anyone would make a good partner I get the feeling it would be you. But I definitely understand why you feel the way you do.

I've pretty much always had a girlfriend but I always felt like a poor excuse for a boyfriend. I was never able to fulfill any of the traditional male roles such as being the breadwinner, for instance. I think on some level that's eaten away at me and given me something of a chip on my shoulder. I'm also just not the easiest guy to deal with.

Sometimes I feel completely over the petty relationship shit every couple deals with. But I also recognize that other than my family, I am totally alone as I don't have friends or a job or anything. So without a partner I think the loneliness would be pretty soul-crushing.

 

[Rollo]

I guess you're better off hearing them fighting than hearing them having sex lol.

You're better off hearing them having sex than what comes after - their kids running and jumping around making it sound like a SWAT team is trying to break into your appartment.

 

[NumbItAll]

I can't even get anyone to talk to me so I've never had this problem.

I have neighbors who are a very old couple and scream at each other constantly over petty bullshit even though they are on the brink of death. It's just normal for them.

 

[killing me softly]

I can hear my neighbors fighting (a couple, male & female), and the girl is crying, pleading, "What more can I do?!"

I for one, am so glad I am over that kind of shit. Anyone else? Anyone else stop trying with dating?

this reminds me of the live tweeting of a rooftop breakup from a few years ago:
https://cheezburger.com/7430661/guy...breakup-in-riveting-display-of-modern-romance

 

[Aesthler]

I'm not exactly date material to begin with but I'm also too stubborn to say I'd give up completely on it. Actually, that's pretty much all I look forward to is the potential to meet someone, I'm also okay with the dying option as well.

 

[TheCrow]

this reminds me of the live tweeting of a rooftop breakup from a few years ago:
https://cheezburger.com/7430661/guy...breakup-in-riveting-display-of-modern-romance

Holy shit, that was amazing.

 

[TheCrow]

I guess you're better off hearing them fighting than hearing them having sex lol.
I haven't given up dating. I got dumped last week, when I finally admitted that the scars on my arm were increasing and not because of my cat, but because of cutting. She already knew, but after I admitted it and I showed even more how broken I am she finally left me.
I'm not trying to find anyone else. I'd just get turned down. I don't blame women for not wanting to be with me though - I don't even want to be myself! I guess I have stopped trying after all.

God, I'm sorry. As much as I understand why people have to leave to "keep themselves healthy" or because they're "worn out from trying to help" blah blah blah, I really don't get why people can't love someone thru thick & thin—thru the ugliness and muck of it all. Maybe you are "broken," as you say, but don't you deserve love, time, attention, help, and compassion just as much as someone that drinks their cup of coffee in the morning and finds promise in the day? My best friend that passed away was a heroin addict, and I mean an addict. I loaned her money, she'd lie to me all the time & I'd know it, we'd fight all the time—and I never stopped loving her or gave up on her. She was broken, too, and I've never loved someone more. Just because your ex saw you in a vulnerable state and walked away, does not mean your broken parts as a whole are not beautiful. You are a person of value—just look at all that you contribute here and the many, many people here that are greatful for it. Do not doubt your ability to be loved.

 

[Pulpit2018]

Sorry to once again be the bearer of bad news( its like my job in this forum ) but in the modern world:
most people are looking for someone that brings something to the table.Personally i have no problem with broken people,being one myself,but most people do not care and will dump you if you become too much of a problem for them.

 

[TheCrow]

You always come off as very friendly and empathetic, Crow. If anyone would make a good partner I get the feeling it would be you. But I definitely understand why you feel the way you do.

I've pretty much always had a girlfriend but I always felt like a poor excuse for a boyfriend. I was never able to fulfill any of the traditional male roles such as being the breadwinner, for instance. I think on some level that's eaten away at me and given me something of a chip on my shoulder. I'm also just not the easiest guy to deal with.

Sometimes I feel completely over the petty relationship shit every couple deals with. But I also recognize that other than my family, I am totally alone as I don't have friends or a job or anything. So without a partner I think the loneliness would be pretty soul-crushing.

Aww, thank you. That's really sweet of you to say, I really appreciate it. I tend to go for the types that don't really love me and I play the "maybe if I can just _____" game for a couple years. Lame.

Being a guy sucks in the same way it does for women—men are kind of expected to make money and be successful, and women are expected to be attractive and forever young. Before I went on disability for not being able to walk, I hadn't worked in a long time, either. I know how that feels. Not only do you feel like a piece of shit, but you don't want to leave your house and run into anyone you know so that you have to tell them what a piece of shit you are. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Ever see the movie "Uncle Buck"? I watched that recently and realized that's who I am now in my family. Except he has a car. Fuck.

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I could totally see how dating someone could make things a little easier. I don't have any friends, either. Sometimes it's nice to have that one person that you kind of have built-in plans with that takes all the pressure off. Ho hum, life is lonely. God, it's like I felt more normal in elementary school with more friends & classmates around me. But, here we are...

 

[TheCrow]

Sorry to once again be the bearer of bad news( its like my job in this forum ) but in the modern world:
most people are looking for someone that brings something to the table.Personally i have no problem with broken people,being one myself,but most people do not care and will dump you if you become too much of a problem for them.

This is true.

 

[TheCrow]

You're better off hearing them having sex than what comes after - their kids running and jumping around making it sound like a SWAT team is trying to break into your appartment.

HA! God, so true. I'd actually much rather hear people having sex than kids running around.

 

[TheCrow]

I'm not exactly date material to begin with but I'm also too stubborn to say I'd give up completely on it. Actually, that's pretty much all I look forward to is the potential to meet someone, I'm also okay with the dying option as well.

Aww, well I hope you find someone then. I'm not really an optimistic person, but considering some of the situations I've seen, I do think there is someone for everyone if you try hard enough (or if you're one of those lucky assholes where things like that just fall into your lap).

 

[21Neberg]

God, I'm sorry. As much as I understand why people have to leave to "keep themselves healthy" or because they're "worn out from trying to help" blah blah blah, I really don't get why people can't love someone thru thick & thin—thru the ugliness and muck of it all. Maybe you are "broken," as you say, but don't you deserve love, time, attention, help, and compassion just as much as someone that drinks their cup of coffee in the morning and finds promise in the day? My best friend that passed away was a heroin addict, and I mean an addict. I loaned her money, she'd lie to me all the time & I'd know it, we'd fight all the time—and I never stopped loving her or gave up on her. She was broken, too, and I've never loved someone more. Just because your ex saw you in a vulnerable state and walked away, does not mean your broken parts as a whole are not beautiful. You are a person of value—just look at all that you contribute here and the many, many people here that are greatful for it. Do not doubt your ability to be loved.

You're far too kind. Your message really touched me, thank you.