Fake positivity about chronic pain

[Szinuus]

So I've decided to vent on the other site about my chronic pain. Here's the response I've got:

Fuck, just find what will give us happiness. I was working as a cashier when I got sick. No one could help me. Pain, hospitals, complications after medication, exacerbation of the disease by wrong diagnoses and poor treatment. When I realized that in a moment the disease would take away my studies and chances for a better future, I decided to act. The first years were a nightmare. Today marks 16 years since the first attack. My body pushed the pain into my subconscious. It doesn't bother me anymore, it's part of me. When the disease recurs, I feel strong because I know I can do it. Every year the attacks are weaker, less frequent and less painful, even though I abandoned the treatment. The doctors said that without therapy I would not live to 30. It's all just in our heads. Today I have a great job, high earnings, and my passion is to see the world. I have all this only thanks to very hard work and struggle with myself, my pain, psyche, overcoming the next "impossible". I can't remember the last time I cried. Life is beautiful. I know that I will not live long with this disease. Therefore, he does not waste any moment. Being the last time at the doctor doing tests I heard that the end is close and the only thing I thought was "it's okay, I experienced everything I wanted". I was sorry only for the sake of my loved ones. (It turned out that it was a horse fortunately I went to 5inne doctors because they would have cut me, fucking moron ;)))))) If I had given up then, I would cry like you today. God, how I thank myself!

Its so horrible that people dismiss other people's suffering. What a sad world we live in. I just want to be gone.

 

[Seekingawayout]

So I've decided to vent on the other site about my chronic pain. Here's the response I've got:

Fuck, just find what will give us happiness. I was working as a cashier when I got sick. No one could help me. Pain, hospitals, complications after medication, exacerbation of the disease by wrong diagnoses and poor treatment. When I realized that in a moment the disease would take away my studies and chances for a better future, I decided to act. The first years were a nightmare. Today marks 16 years since the first attack. My body pushed the pain into my subconscious. It doesn't bother me anymore, it's part of me. When the disease recurs, I feel strong because I know I can do it. Every year the attacks are weaker, less frequent and less painful, even though I abandoned the treatment. The doctors said that without therapy I would not live to 30. It's all just in our heads. Today I have a great job, high earnings, and my passion is to see the world. I have all this only thanks to very hard work and struggle with myself, my pain, psyche, overcoming the next "impossible". I can't remember the last time I cried. Life is beautiful. I know that I will not live long with this disease. Therefore, he does not waste any moment. Being the last time at the doctor doing tests I heard that the end is close and the only thing I thought was "it's okay, I experienced everything I wanted". I was sorry only for the sake of my loved ones. (It turned out that it was a horse fortunately I went to 5inne doctors because they would have cut me, fucking moron ;)))))) If I had given up then, I would cry like you today. God, how I thank myself!

Its so horrible that people dismiss other people's suffering. What a sad world we live in. I just want to be gone.

I hate when people spout that "mind over matter" crap. I mean, good for you if you manage it, but chronic pain is exhausting. I only have the mental space to barely get through the day. Lately not even that.
Pain is also subjective. Some people can just take more pain than others. But even with high pain thresholds, it can wear you down.

 

[FuneralCry]

I bet that person doesn't really feel that positive about their situation. They are probably just lying to make themselves feel better. But anyway, I never admire people who are all like 'no matter how awful it gets, I will just carry on', I really do see no value in endlessly suffering, I only personally admire those who decide to end it all. But I do agree that kind of positivity is harmful and so toxic as it can lead to others who suffer being taken less seriously and having their pain invalidated and to do such a thing is disgusting.

 

[wait.what]

That reply is bizarre to say the least. They thought they were terminally ill, but actually it was a horse …? I'm not even sure I'm reading that right. It's nice for them that they seem happy, but I don't know what they expect you to do with that information. Nothing, maybe. It seems less like a support post and more like "Here are some facts about meeeee!"