There's a type of person that I've noticed always gains the sympathy and attention of others. They always have this explicit outward displays of emotion, usually crying. People always respond to it because, obviously, it's hard not to.
I'm not like that. I can't just cry when I'm in pain. That's not because I don't feel, but because I learnt early on that my tears don't mean anything. To the extent that my body physically refrains from crying. It takes a lot for me to actually turn on the water works. The problem is that people are so unimaginative that if you're not a blubbering mess, they think you must not be hurting, or it must not be that bad because you're body would just do it's own thing and you wouldn't be able to control the tears. But our lives have been about controlling how we conduct ourselves, so why is it so unbelievable that you would be able to push the tears down, far, far away?
I've had to put up with a woman in group therapy who just cries and has to tell everyone what she's feeling every minute of the day. She consumes all the energy in the room. Whenever somebody else talks, suddenly she's 'not feeling it' or she's 'zoned out' because she's just suffering sooooo much. It's actually because she has no interest in listening to anyone else. She's like a stroppy teenager, but it's not endearing behaviour from someone in their 30s. And because I'm sitting there still and quiet, I'm just forgotten.
They tend to her every need and I'm just a side show in her psychodrama. People think websites like this are the problem, but maybe those same people should ask themselves, why didn't you notice? Maybe you're the problem. What a radical idea….
Any form of psychological treatment relies on the patient posturing to the professionals in a way that's acceptable. Usually that means not being angry, but weak, fragile and tearful. You have to be needy and dependent to satisfy the inflated egos of the professionals who pretend to 'help'. Really they just like the power they hold over incompetent humans. They can't tolerate the idea that someone may not NEED them.
To those professionals and the draining, self-absorbed, patients that pander to them, fuck you. Enjoy your codependent relationship stroking each other's egos. Some of us still value our self-respect, regardless of the quiet and invisible pain we endure. There's a reason they say to look out for the quiet ones. Instead, everyone pays attention to the loud mouths because their neediness is so explicit.
I'm not like that. I can't just cry when I'm in pain. That's not because I don't feel, but because I learnt early on that my tears don't mean anything. To the extent that my body physically refrains from crying. It takes a lot for me to actually turn on the water works. The problem is that people are so unimaginative that if you're not a blubbering mess, they think you must not be hurting, or it must not be that bad because you're body would just do it's own thing and you wouldn't be able to control the tears. But our lives have been about controlling how we conduct ourselves, so why is it so unbelievable that you would be able to push the tears down, far, far away?
I've had to put up with a woman in group therapy who just cries and has to tell everyone what she's feeling every minute of the day. She consumes all the energy in the room. Whenever somebody else talks, suddenly she's 'not feeling it' or she's 'zoned out' because she's just suffering sooooo much. It's actually because she has no interest in listening to anyone else. She's like a stroppy teenager, but it's not endearing behaviour from someone in their 30s. And because I'm sitting there still and quiet, I'm just forgotten.
They tend to her every need and I'm just a side show in her psychodrama. People think websites like this are the problem, but maybe those same people should ask themselves, why didn't you notice? Maybe you're the problem. What a radical idea….
Any form of psychological treatment relies on the patient posturing to the professionals in a way that's acceptable. Usually that means not being angry, but weak, fragile and tearful. You have to be needy and dependent to satisfy the inflated egos of the professionals who pretend to 'help'. Really they just like the power they hold over incompetent humans. They can't tolerate the idea that someone may not NEED them.
To those professionals and the draining, self-absorbed, patients that pander to them, fuck you. Enjoy your codependent relationship stroking each other's egos. Some of us still value our self-respect, regardless of the quiet and invisible pain we endure. There's a reason they say to look out for the quiet ones. Instead, everyone pays attention to the loud mouths because their neediness is so explicit.
