embracing physical isolation

[Idorus]

I heard something interesting on this board.

Someone made the thread ̈ "Loneliness is unbearable".
Someone else replied;

You've got to get to the point where you are ok being alone.


I mastered being alone and so can ́t relate to loneliness. It has been so much worse being around the beasts called people. Physical isolation is welcomed and the thing I thrive on. Firmly Cycling to the grocery-store - or around it - once or twice a day keeps me on track. I never truly realised I might be closer to death than most with embracing physical isolation. Me: female / in 40s / no kids / jobless for 1,5 decade.

Who can relate?

 

[Taylored]

I can relate to getting over being "lonely to an extent" I spend all my days inside the house in my room and rarely go outside it just doesn't bother me anymore and I don't attempt to resolve the situation.

 

[anelakapu]

I relate to you in everyway except age, 26 but i feel like everyone's senior. I was just thinking earlier that im so touch starved, i get extreme asmr at the slightest friendly hand on the shoulder, and im constantly thinking about how much more toll the average life obastacle takes on me. Though i have to maintain a job, i do still feel incredibly isolated and do realize how incurable it is. Its scary. It feels like a disease thats killing me. Its just a pain navigating what you both enjoy and suffer from.

 

[killing me softly]

Physical isolation is welcomed and the thing I thrive on.

i can understand where you're coming from but i think i have a different take. i don't necessarily "welcome" isolation so much as it has become a necessity for me. i find it extremely tiring to be around others for a number of reasons - i'm tired of pretending to be okay, i'm tired of getting the well-meaning advice, i'm tired of trying to relate to others. also, for me i find it necessary to distance myself from others as i prepare to leave this world.

i think generally we are social creatures and being alone is hard on us - so much so that a ton of us who do isolate end up quite engaged, even if somewhat superficially, with this community. (and by superficially i mean the fact we are being anonymous and the level of engagement is generally limited to posts, texts, etc., and am not referring to the quality of those interactions).

so i guess i would say that for me it's not so much about getting to a point where i'm okay with being alone so much as i just need it to get by.

 

[Shewaitsforme]

I lost my partner last May. Im still gettimg used to being alone, well not fully alone because i work full time but when i come home apart from maybe a few messages between friends i am alone. I sleep alone which im still getting used to. Sometimes when im off i realise i actually havnt spoken to another human being for days. Its odd feeling alone in such a crowded world.

 

[Life sucks]

People are inherently lonely and not realizing it.

 

[Dor]

I'm on so much antidepressants I don't feel lonely anymore

 

[Vilthuril]

Eventually you will still be lonely but then become more averse to being around people than anything and won't be able to imagine things being any other way.