Dying in a way that would limit family guilt.

[pyamu]

Is there a way to commit suicide that limits guilt for the family? I know if I do kill myself, they'll feel guilty, and I don't want to cause them any more suffering than I already have. That's why I would prefer to get some kind of illness or be a victim of a shooting, but of course that's just a dream.

 

[tary]

Leave a comprehensive note that explains your motivations and explains that your family isn't at fault. That's about the best anyone can do, I think.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It's a very difficult thing. I think concern for those left behind is what is trapping many of us all here. I agree with the previous post- a comprehensive note seems good.

A seemingly accidental death seems ideal- although- if there is too much doubt, I imagine a drawn out police investigation could be just as traumatic.

Also- just limiting the physical aspect of having to discover a body. Personally, I wouldn't want to do it where anyone I knew would find me. I'm kind of lucky because I live alone and too far away from anyone I know for them to check up on me. I can see why people go to hotels but I think you can also limit the impact on their staff- blocking the entrance with a sign to call the police, laying down plastic etc.

I personally worry that they might need someone to identify me- and I don't want anyone to have to do that. I'm hoping that leaving my ID and asking them to go from dental records might be enough to stop them.

Also- just the tedious paperwork side of things- make a will. Either sort out your stuff or arrange for a house clearance company. Depending on what you think your family would want- perhaps pre-pay for a funeral or cremation/burial.

I personally want to inconvenience them as little as possible- but my circumstances are likely different. In theory- I should only have step relations and distant family and friends by the time I go. Your family may achieve better closure if they are able to sort out your stuff.

 

[FuneralCry]

I agree with writing a note as it could potentially act as a form of closure for those left behind if they have some sort of explanation as to why you chose to leave but apart from that I doubt that there is much that can be done to make them suffer less.

But anyway, death, grief and loss are simply an inevitable part of life and we won't even be there to see the reactions that others have to our death. And when to leave this world is a personal decision, as it isn't like we chose to be apart of this existence, we were very unfairly forced here, so I personally would never feel bad about leaving others behind but I do get that it can be a difficult situation to be in for many people. I wish you the best of luck.