Dying as a pre-op trans man

[goblin99]

The thing that scares me most about dying is knowing I will be misgendered as long as I'm remembered. I'll only be remembered in the body I have now. I'll be remembered as a daughter, a sister, an aunt. My online friends are the only ones who know me as a man. As Blake. They won't know when I'm dead. No one who knows my dead name will alert them. They're the only ones I actually care about and they're never going to even know what happened.

 

[Mitsumi]

That hurts a lot. I'm sure you're a great guy!

 

[Reuthry]

I feel you. I will be also misgendered after I die. It hurts.

 

[goblin99]

I feel you. I will be also misgendered after I die. It hurts.

wishing you the best all we can do is hope for peace in death after having none in life

 

[Seered Doom]

The thing that scares me most about dying is knowing I will be misgendered as long as I'm remembered. I'll only be remembered in the body I have now. I'll be remembered as a daughter, a sister, an aunt. My online friends are the only ones who know me as a man. As Blake. They won't know when I'm dead. No one who knows my dead name will alert them. They're the only ones I actually care about and they're never going to even know what happened.

This entire thing stings on a whole other relatable note. As a pre op trans guy myself, I feel this as well. Only my online friends see me as Merin and everyone else basically sees me as a girl and I'll be buried under my dead name.

 

[merricat]

Maybe leave your identity in your suicide note? It's not like you'll be there to feel any reprocussion.

 

[ChildrensITV]

I will reply later.