Discussion Dying alone

[Jynxer]

A lot of people say "no one deserves to die alone"

What do you think?

Both my parents died alone, and I know I will. Is anyone scared of dying alone?

I'm sure some ppl out there are gonna Ctb the legal way (dr assited suicide) due to physical illness, and will have family there.

But for those of us who have to do it alone because of mental illness, would you wish to have ppl there to support you, if possible without judgement?

For me, I want to be absolutely alone doing my own thing, not trying to make everyone comfortable with my choice.

 

[Soul]

I'd rather be alone and focus on what's happening to me rather than having to deal with other people's emotions.

 

[marcusuk63]

Definitely alone and hopefully never found , as i have mentioned on several threads , i found my closes brother dead and alone a couple of months ago , what i didn't say was apart from the image in my head of him dead from a simple chest infection after having to wait 2 weeks for a Doctors appointment , the thing that constantly goes through my mind is that he had been on the sofa with an electric blanket but was at the other end of the room with the blanket halfway across from him and the sofa and still on but a small window open , he was on his back and his fists where clenched , he was only 2 years older than me and didn't drink , smoke or do drugs and worked hard as a bin man , i go through what he must have done and gone through and he never had a window open and he was obviously cold so did he open the window? for me to be able to get in and find him ? did he suffer agonising pain ? when he came to mine on the saturday and i was shocked how he had gone down hill in a week should i have insisted he went straight to hospital and not wait for his appointment at doctors on the monday , which he never made it .... i knew when he didn't ring me on the Monday as he said he would that he was dead ..... sorry waffling on

 

[AsexualBarbieBoy]

Absolutely want to be alone when I do it. Just me and my thoughts. Even if I had the option for dr assisted suicide, I would want to do it all myself and be alone when I do it. I've always been a reclusive person and I'm going to die that way too.

 

[Jynxer]

Definitely alone and hopefully never found , as i have mentioned on several threads , i found my closes brother dead and alone a couple of months ago , what i didn't say was apart from the image in my head of him dead from a simple chest infection after having to wait 2 weeks for a Doctors appointment , the thing that constantly goes through my mind is that he had been on the sofa with an electric blanket but was at the other end of the room with the blanket halfway across from him and the sofa and still on but a small window open , he was on his back and his fists where clenched , he was only 2 years older than me and didn't drink , smoke or do drugs and worked hard as a bin man , i go through what he must have done and gone through and he never had a window open and he was obviously cold so did he open the window? for me to be able to get in and find him ? did he suffer agonising pain ? when he came to mine on the saturday and i was shocked how he had gone down hill in a week should i have insisted he went straight to hospital and not wait for his appointment at doctors on the monday , which he never made it .... i knew when he didn't ring me on the Monday as he said he would that he was dead ..... sorry waffling on

Omg I'm so sorry you had to find him. It's not your fault for not making him go to the hospital. He was a grown man. I can't even imagine how you feel. Just know ,YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME for him not seeking help sooner.
My mom had a terminal illness for most of my life, and she could have been saved had she went to the hospital. She didn't die from her illness, but from pneumonia. But she decided not to seek help and she died alone on her couch, after coughing up a bunch of guts(I had to clean them off the carpet)I felt guilty for not finding a way to make her go to hospital ( I lived in another province). Then I blamed her partner for not making her go. But, after some time passed, I realized that no one was to blame but the universe. She didn't know she would die that night, and probably your brother didn't either.

Just don't blame yourself, you didn't do anything wrong.

 

[NextSummer]

Even if it's not gonna be that way, I would love to have a lot of people around me that I really like. I don't want to die alone.

 

[Letmego. Please]

I will die alone, for some reason it feels right, i've always felt i came into this world alone, the person who gave birth to me wasn't allowed to even hold me before i was taken away.

 

[Deleted member 1768]

Definitely alone and hopefully never found , as i have mentioned on several threads , i found my closes brother dead and alone a couple of months ago , what i didn't say was apart from the image in my head of him dead from a simple chest infection after having to wait 2 weeks for a Doctors appointment , the thing that constantly goes through my mind is that he had been on the sofa with an electric blanket but was at the other end of the room with the blanket halfway across from him and the sofa and still on but a small window open , he was on his back and his fists where clenched , he was only 2 years older than me and didn't drink , smoke or do drugs and worked hard as a bin man , i go through what he must have done and gone through and he never had a window open and he was obviously cold so did he open the window? for me to be able to get in and find him ? did he suffer agonising pain ? when he came to mine on the saturday and i was shocked how he had gone down hill in a week should i have insisted he went straight to hospital and not wait for his appointment at doctors on the monday , which he never made it .... i knew when he didn't ring me on the Monday as he said he would that he was dead ..... sorry waffling on

I am so sorry Marcus. I know how that feels, but you are not to blame. You are not a doctor, and even doctor's can make a mistake. I knew a couple who took their 3 year old to the hospital due to a lung infection. They sent them home with antibiotics. Two days later dad woke up with the little one beside him. She was gone. If we were clairvoyant there are a lot of things, including heartache, that would never happen, but we are not. Grief takes at least a year to recover from and time is needed for the healing to take place.
Infection causes fever, and it is best to bring down the temperature anyway that you can including opening the window and throwing off a blanket. The only thing your brother did wrong was not calling you when things got worse. One of those horrible events that happen to the many, and no one is to blame...no one.

 

[No_more]

Ideally, I would like to have nice people around me, who support my decision to ctb. I would like to be able to just go to the doctor and get euthanasia without having to take it to court.

 

[kolski]

I wouldn't want to have people around me. It's already going to hurt them when I ctb but making them watch me die? No thanks. I would rather just be alone and be at peace for my final moments in this world.

 

[RM5998]

Well, I don't really have anyone to die with, so dying alone is pretty much guaranteed.

 

[SinisterKid]

I don't care either way. I died alone once so not afraid to be there again. But I understand from what I read online how many people are scared to die alone. So I would happily share my bus with someone if the chance ever arose, more to help them overcome their fears, fears I do not have.

 

[Bulletwbttrflywings]

A lot of people say "no one deserves to die alone"

What do you think?

Both my parents died alone, and I know I will. Is anyone scared of dying alone?

I'm sure some ppl out there are gonna Ctb the legal way (dr assited suicide) due to physical illness, and will have family there.

But for those of us who have to do it alone because of mental illness, would you wish to have ppl there to support you, if possible without judgement?

For me, I want to be absolutely alone doing my own thing, not trying to make everyone comfortable with my choice.

I would love to be with someone in my final moments, but I came to this earth alone, I will leave alone.

If anything I will be on this site for my final moments before I reset my phone

 

[johnonymous]

I'll go alone if I must, but I'd rather go out with a good friend.

 

[Kjo]

Well, I don't really have anyone to die with, so dying alone is pretty much guaranteed.

There's a partners mega thread. Not to persuade in any direction, just to share info.

 

[mathieu]

I wouldn't want people there, maybe a partner who is also going to CTB but not a roomful of people watching me die. I would feel uncomfortable with all the attention.

 

[johnonymous]

Is anyone scared of dying alone?

I'll go out alone if I must, but it would be nice to make one last friend and go out with him/her.

 

[RM5998]

There's a partners mega thread. Not to persuade in any direction, just to share info.

Well, I was thinking more along the lines of someone I know well, and who knows me well. There's nobody who falls into that group on the planet.

 

[PDAnnie2610]

If I ctb, I'll be alone. I'll miss my loved ones and my friends. Having to come to terms with that is hard. None of my friends know that we may never meet again.