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Todas

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My family wants me to try therapy
But I don't think that will work for me
cause I know exactly why I feel depressed and I'm kind of stubborn
 
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subj

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Don't know your problem but if it's mental health, yes a good therapist can help..Shop around because not every therapist is good for everybody.
 
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nurplexkid

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Therapy only works for people who lack self-awareness and don't know the source of their pain. I can be quite invalidating if the therapist does not have the means to fix the problem that is the source of your despair.
 
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Todas

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Don't know your problem but if it's mental health, yes a good therapist can help..Shop around because not every therapist is good for everybody
It's totally physically, and it harmed my mental health as well... Thanks by the way
Therapy only works for people who lack self-awareness and don't know the source of their pain. I can be quite invalidating if the therapist does not have the means to fix the problem that is the source of your despair.
I though so too. Thanks
 
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subj

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It's totally physically, and it harmed my mental health as well... Thanks by the way

I though so too. Thanks
I think with doctors and therapists we are suposed to think they are all comnpetent. They may only be competent with certain problems and many may not be competent at all. However, many are brilliant and helpful so ask around and shop around to find somone you can connect with. Often physical illness can lead to depression or anxiety. and some physical illnesses may be the actual reason for depression, (like thyroid disease makes people depressed).
 
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LeSamourai263

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My family wants me to try therapy
But I don't think that will work for me
cause I know exactly why I feel depressed and I'm kind of stubborn
Not sure about your mental health issue but my experience has been that it does not help.
Its very hard to find a therapist who will understand you. And several times they just kind keep pushing you to take some medications that never help but only have side effects and cost a ton of money and involve additional hassle of dealing with health insurance and prescription filling companies (I am talking about the States and not Canada). The one thing that really helps is a good rehab or institution or a family or a boyfriend or girlfriend or some very close support person who will listen to you, guide you, help you by just being there in those moments when you are really down. My experience has been that all this is very tough to find. Only the very very few are lucky to have this.
 
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Salkak

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It can if you find a good enough therapist. I have seen people who got better
 
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Feeding Pigeons

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A good therapist helps to a degree. idk if you're in the US but therapists will generally only see you once a week, twice if you're really bad, 45 minutes (if that) a session. Again, it can help, but when you are in a crisis don't be surprised if you're left swinging. Therapists are slammed with patients. Its a bit of a joke. Its impossible to make progress quickly with those time restraints.

If you find a good therapist it'll be because they are a good person, not because the system is worth a shit.
 
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There's no medicine you know the cure
 
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Shop around because not every therapist is good for everybody.
Can't emphasize this enough. Spending hundreds if not thousands on therapists that will just circle around your problems will leave you feeling discouraged and isolated. Trial and error; if you feel worse after your therapy sessions, it's not a good match
 
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JoeFailure

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Apr 29, 2019
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There isn't really a yes or no answer to this question. It can help for sure if you find the right therapist. I think sometimes people go in with the expectation that a therapist will somehow be able to fix everything and I just think that's unrealistic. But they can help.
 
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I think it really depends on each individual so here's a few things that are extremely important for it to indeed be effective :

• As long as you haven't found THE therapist for you : keep looking
- By that I mean : you need a safe and non judgmental space, for exemple do not settle for a therapist that is not neutral, do not settle for a therapist that you just don't feel comfortable with whether it is by their look or how they look at you/respond to you. You have to be completely comfortable to pour your heart out.

And in case cause this is important too, if into spirituality or part of the LGBTQI+ community or feel more comfortable with your peers as a POC : make sure to find the appropriate therapist for that.

• Remember that therapy is just > they provide questions for you to find the answer, 99% of the work is done outside of their office and by yourself so in other words if you don't do anything by yourself then nothing will be acquired and you are just going to vent once in a while without anything changing.

• Have a diary : sometimes there is stuff you can remember or want to talk with your therapist but the next session is in a few days then for that keep note of those things.

But not only this keeping track of yourself and any type of change or accomplishment is always a good thing.

• If you don't feel like going, it's okay, no need to stress yourself over it.

• Don't hesitate to call the emergency number they give you if you ever feel the need to, if they gave you this it's for a reason so no you're not bothering them in their own job, like they get payed for that.

• Make sure to know the difference between : psychologist and psychiatrist ! If you don't want any prescriptions pills then don't go for a psychiatrist, which I wouldn't recommend except if of course someone actually need it to protect themselves and people around them like schizophrenia or any other psychotic disorder, otherwise you're not working on yourself but just denying all healing and escaping so nothing will change from that.

And I think that's all I learned from being on and off of therapy for 10 years.
 
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Pallf

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May 27, 2018
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So therapists work with tons of different populations and they usually specialize. They might specialize in CBT, DBT, EMDR, other shit, and they might specialize by issue, like PTSD, chronic pain, grief, shit like that. So look for one that is specialized in whatever physical issue that's got you feeling depressed.
 
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It might. You gotta be open to it though. Nothing helps if you think it won't.
 

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